I want to confess to my wife that I cheated on her but I think she might kill herself if I do, would you confess?

[Anonymous]

My wife has not been there for me year years, she never wanted sex or do anything with me. I had to go to movies or everything alone.

She simply wanted to stay home and never go out or do anything, ever... and when she would go out, she was miserable. I'm just doing this for you, I don't want to be doing it.

I found someone else and cheated on her for a year, I want to confess but she suffers from depression now and told me, that if we ever get divorced she is killing herself to end her pain.

The affair is over and I want to confess and the expected result of divorce, I'm fine with that. As I fully expect her to want a divorce after I confess.

I won't personally blame myself if she kills herself, as that is a choice she and only she can make. I won't be doing it for her, and I won't feel any guilt if she does it.

My guilt is strictly for my own actions and not what she chooses to do.

Would you confess, even if it meant someone might end their own life?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

This is way too complicated and delicate for G@G. I'd suggest to you set up an appointment with a marriage counselor and a professional and get their advice before doing anything first.

That said, if she said that if you ever get divorced she is killing herself to end her pain, I'm waging she could overlook your cheating and not want a divorce. Perhaps she already knows - it might not seem so, but it's quite difficult to keep things from women. Maybe she knows and did not say anything - maybe that would be one of the causes of her worsening depression.

[jshm2]

Why the fuck bother? Just divorce and keep quiet.

But really, you know you're just being a dick. You want to see the drama, but not be directly responsible to her ending herself!

[HateyouxD]

I say dont tell her. What she won't know won't hurt her. That's the result we want. there's no trying to make it better because she's literally not making any types of effort. Just cut her loose. Maybe she already knows of the affair that took part and trying to make you guilty by saying she will kill herself. Let her do it... honestly. she killed your Hope's and dreams on a marriage. Why care for someone you have no control over

[all_hayl]

1) you need a trained marriage counselor for this, not the opinions of a bunch of selfish, irresponsible, ignorant morons.