Would you forgive your wife if she cheated?

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Browneye57 · Accepted Answer

There are all manner of reasons that people cheat, but the main one is that they feel or thing they are missing something in their primary relationship. So they go looking for it elsewhere, or are more open to being approached. Then a separate relationship develops, usually an emotional affair that turns into a physical affair or sexual affair over time.

So while you cannot blame the victim of cheating there is nearly always culpability for failures in the relationship.

About 75-80% of LTR's endure some kind of infidelity.
Of those about 15% survive, some even improve.
The rest implode, end in breakup or divorce.
Cheating is pretty well split 50-50 by gender, but women are better liars so the stats are skewed to men.

So yes, it's possible to repair a broken marriage, it's like a shattered tea cup. You can glue it all back together to be completely serviceable, but you'll always be able to see the cracks.

I would not assign this kind repair to anything OTHER than a marriage. If you're just fuck-buddies, going together, dating, or shacking up, all bets are off. If one or the other can remain true to the other, they should simply split the sheets and go their separate ways. If you're married and have children, or want to, it can be worth putting it back together. And that's a whole 'nother lesson. :)

The bottom line though, is that happy couples in love don't cheat.

wtf636 · Accepted Answer

I would probably not. I suppose it would depend on the situation. But if everything was perfect, and no fault of my own, and she still decided to sleep with someone else. Then I would not forgive her and she would be gone.

If there are kids involved, that's another story. I might be able to forgive to keep the family together, but you best believe shit is not gonna be easy for her. Passwords are mine, and I get to go fuck someone else while she watches the kids and can't say shit about it. Then if it ever happens again, she is gone for good.

TrueConfection · Accepted Answer

Eventually and with a lot of effort, I would forgive my husband if he cheated on me. It would still mean the end of our marriage and I would never be intimate with him again.

420Rachel · Accepted Answer

Nope. If my man cheated on me it'd be BYE BITCH. 👋

askandgiveAnswers · Answer

What if the guy or girl wanted to know what a kind person is. Both sexes can be irritating and rude, or sloppy kisser, or sex. What if the point of the reason was not even discussed? So how can we know best case scenario? Was a question of anatomy and because people don't communicate well or work too much or the member was too big or small, or the girl had issues of kissing or 4 play, didn't shower as couples are. Real answers don't fix issues. It is almost as writing a note each time you have questions of the individual and you give that to the person, instead of talking, 1st. Many times people run the emotions to high, people get irritated and cannot think straight. Say and do dumb things. Maybe, just maybe?

Nikki6t6 · Answer

I don't know, it would really depend on the situation. I’ve fucked up many times in my life but my family always forgave me. Who am I to cast the first stone an say nope… sorry you made a mistake I’m not going to ever forgive you.

I mean it would be hard as as hell to forgive but to complicate the matter further… add kids into the mix. It’s not there fault that mommy or daddy couldn’t keep their zipper buttoned.

So I’d have to say yes pending some serious counseling if kids were involved.

Miristheiss · Answer

Well... forgiveness and staying with them are not the same thing.

You can forgive them and still dump them.
You can stay with them but never forgive them.

I'll be specific. If my wife had sex with another man the marriage is over. There is no circumstance ever to where I'd stay with her. It is a 100% deal breaker.

She would forever disgust me. Non-negotiable.

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

No, because it's not just the fact that they cheated on me. It's everything else cheating means. It means they were willing to betray my trust, ruin our relationship, risk my health if they caught something from their partner on the side, destroy our life together, and hurt my feelings. I don't think you can cheat on someone if you truly love them, so if my partner cheated I would know how little they actually cared about me. That's not something I can forgive

Aethereal · Answer

I would never forgive that. Cheating is the ultimate betrayal in a marriage. It is a premeditated action taken without considering the hurt and pain caused to the spouse. Cheating is unforgivable, and while I have respect for the people who can find some reason to stay that trumps the cheating, there is no possible reason or incentive I could find to forgive a cheating partner.

InventorofWarp · Answer

I said yes but only because if I found out my spouse cheated on me I'd probably fuck a friend of hers or a random woman or something. Then I'd forgive her and want to move past it.
I'm still waiting for the right woman and only intend to have one my whole life so the only reason I'd have to ever fuck another woman would be to use as a weapon.

humpbackjack · Answer

I haven’t yet mostly because she can’t be honest and her defense is she doesn’t remember that week this happened many years ago and I had forgiven her without ever talking to her about it I let her think I didn’t know but after the second time that erased the forgiveness I once had mostly because she won’t admit to anything. How can you trust someone that can’t be honest with you after you’ve given her your everything you can’t

Anonymous · Answer

I could and have forgiven my wife on multiple occasions. We were in a very bad place at the time and were having a lot of issues and she acted out but I don't solely blame her for that. I recognize that I didn't help the situation any and so we worked through things and are doing much better now and haven't had an incident in quite a while

Mangospacho · Answer

I would only forgive her if it was during the act in my own home and she testified under oath that the guy she was having an affair with was an intruder in the house and I had to throw him out the window breaking both his legs in the process. If she tells what really happened then I would dump her.

JackSmy · Answer

never married, but I doubt it. Cheating is just not acceptable!! How could I EVER trust her again? Almost FOR SURE, Bye, BYE, and having a Prenup before marrying!! So hard to trust ANYONE, today!!

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

OMFG.. I'm Married? Why am I always the last one to learn these things!

Being serious though, I'd forgive her once. I forgive most people once. If it ever happened again though? they wouldn't see me for dust!

DannyUk2017 · Answer

No way... A cheater once, Always a Cheater! Not just physically, But Spiritually too, specially that way... She stomped on my heart, Mudded My Love for her with another man, then... No way i Will Forgive Her! I can't Forgive, I can't Forget! Sorry...

harmseygracelu · Answer

Yeah nah. If my husband cheated on me, I wouldn't in a million years have him back.

Raggy1 · Answer

Its the same look like u say can we make the broken glass look like before? Even if you glue it the appeared cracks wilk be always visible and make it totally looks ugly , relationship and cheating is the same even if i back to her i will never feel the same and one day absolutely i will leave her by myself , once the trust cracked the whole thing is totally useless and doesn't deserve any try.

Bricealan · Answer

I would if she told me she was going to fuck some other guy, before she did it. I would tell her it was alright as long as she told me and then told me how good the fucking was.

BCA6010 · Answer

I'd forgive it in the sense that I'm not going to keep dwelling on it long-term. Our relationship is finished at that point, period. End of story.

hahahmm · Answer

Yeah, worse case the tombstone would say, ‘Forgiven’.

dustybiker · Answer

If you give yourself permission to go there you’ve already left your current situation. If only you were brave enough to let the person down first.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

Nope. I wouldn’t hate her for the rest of her life or anything. I’m just going my own way with my life permanently

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Guys, Women that cheat are not going to respect you if you take them back. She never respected him in the first place

Jlegacy · Answer

First, my wife can never cheat. She is holy like that.  In addition, she forgave me for all the immoral and illegal sex I ever had, so why shouldn't I forgive her too. N. B she is a virgin.

TheorionMage · Answer

We have an ironclad pre-nup w/ financial penalties for such circumstances~

justlookin69 · Answer

You can possibly forgive them but don’t forget and no second chances. The relationship should be finished because it will happen again.

MotorcycleMan · Answer

Absolutely. I'm sure my next wife would forgive her as well.

JustinTimberlegs · Answer

I gave my ex another chance once, I don't think I could do it again.

SupremeWarlord · Answer

We can act tough and all, but a lot of men who are cheated on continue to live with their wives, so... there must be something that makes it hard for them to leave them.

Not_Average · Answer

I’d forgive, but that doesn’t mean I’d reconcile. I’d most likely divorce.

K-I-S-S · Answer

Nothing to forgive. She would be dead to me from that instant. Right out the door with her loot.

Scotte1us · Answer

Ofcourse not unless you are cheating too if you both fullfiling your desires about sex and if it turns you on like having threesome sex , but that could have risky and dangerous outcomes.

billmunch · Answer

Honestly, it turns me on. I actually encourage my wife to cheat.

Intoiton4s · Answer

I think that is a bond that should not be broken unless the relationship is to end.

Dayman343 · Answer

Maybe. Thing is, I know she did. She doesn't know that I know so I've just put it in the bank for later

front2back · Answer

Of course, at least for a time before the new wife was up and ready.

Pj1981 · Answer

Don't think it's forgivable but it doesn't necessarily mean we have to separate and can't work on it

MrJMM · Answer

Who the fuck would forgive their wife when she cheated? She was perfidious so I would never forgive her.

thathing · Answer

I never will that's if i did not kill her, if she hated me she should leave but i'm not going to get disrespected like that..

admles · Answer

Nope. I'd be seeing a tax lawyer to protect as much of my assets as I could, then divorce her.

IncognitoBandito · Answer

If she could explain to me honestly why she cheated, possibly.

Anonymous · Answer

If they did it only once than yes I would ask them why they did it and we can work on them second time no because than it is just a habit

BareNecessary · Answer

Its fair if she helps me find someone to cheat on her with

jeffryrobertbabb · Answer

We have been married for 40 years, it is unlikely that she would cheat

FamilyGuy2020 · Answer

During the first year know. Which means Princesses Diana , was competing with a Bar Fly

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Forgive, yes, as I believe in forgiveness of others. Stay with her, no.

NightHawk99 · Answer

Forgiving a cheater is like giving a murderer a slap on the hand as punishment.

Zygum · Answer

Never, I will kick on her ass out of my house and Divorce her

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Yes, at least I can have a clear conscience. But I'd still divorce her

Hulk30 · Answer

because it's different ways of lookin at that cheatin women outta the real you leads to cheatin

Peggy94 · Answer

I couldn’t forget them cheating I wouldn’t be able to get the image out of my head.

Sndgarden · Answer

No I would not, cheating is not an accident nor is it excusable.

Aquariusmystery · Answer

If they cheat once, they’ll do it again

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Nope. Tell her to get her shit and get out.

Andres77 · Answer

I did with my first wife but then she didn't stop.

Jean-Marie_Céline · Answer

Probably not.

Avicenna · Answer

Nah, she's gone if she does that

Nightroads · Answer

I have, one of the hardest things i have done.

DavidDong · Answer

Maybe once But it's a serious betrayal

JosyJosy · Answer

woah so many voted yes

snackthatsmilesback · Answer

I wanna say yes. But I don't know honestly.

exitseven · Answer

I don;t think I could ever get past it so, no.

genericname85 · Answer

Yeah. But I'd still divorce her.

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