If you find out your wife cheated on you before you got married woild you forgive her and trust her?

[Scotte1us]

35 years later you found out that when she was dating this guy for 2 months and you became her lover sleeping and staying with her , and you go to your moms house for one night stay and you found out next day she went out with the same guy and went to his house and slept with him and she swears she never went out stayed home that night she swears on bible and cries to you, would you forgive her and go on with your life but you can not trust her because she keeps saying i never cheated on you since we got married and she says you were just a boyfriend that time , i start having these nightmares now thinking if she loved the sex and it was better then me, why? So what shall i do? How can i trust? Who knows what else she did that i am not aware of it?

[Anonymous]

First it was 35 years ago. Get over it.

And if it were me, I'd be more annoyed that she was swearing on a bible. She should know that doesn't mean anything to me.

"i start having these nightmares now thinking if she loved the sex and it was better then me, why?"
That's what men like you are most afraid of. Being compared other men, and the other guy being better in some way.

It's 35 years man. Do you honestly think she'd be with you 35 years if some other guy was better? Tell her it's fine, let it go, and don't be such an insecure guy.

[Huldusonur]

Then she's a cheater and a liar and you can't trust that she says she isn't cheating now like she was then. I'd tell her kindly to fuck off because the marriage is built on a lie.

[SamA_nold]

I might forgive her, if it was 35 years ago, because holding onto a grudge after that long of a time period isn't healthy. But I would not trust her, and without trust, relationships usually tend not to last

[Agape93]

Nope. You cheat on me and betray my trust, you’re done.

[SnakeBoop]

I would fucking hope no one stays with a cheater

[Landy24]

Leave her