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Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 yIn my life, there were a few things that made me get over relationships (and some crushes) quickly. First girl I dated - We dated less than three months (more like two "serious" months). I found out that she had been cheating almost from the beginning. So I broke up with her.
One - She cheated. Not "just" once or "just" with another person (both would be enough to call it), but she was sleeping with multiple people, multiple times (Probably some farm animals in there, you never know).
Two: We dated for a very short time. It didn't even last past the "honeymoon period." I hadn't gotten as invested as I might have been if we had been serious for, say, a year.
Three: I was taking a lot of credit hours for college. When we broke up I was getting ready for a lot of exams, starting a small temp job... so I didn't have much time to even think about the break up.I think each time there's been a breakup, I could just study or work through whatever "pain/hurt" there might have been, though I admit, there wasn't usually much.
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While there is no guaranteed fast way to get over an ex, here are some strategies that may help:
Cut off contact: Immediately cutting off all contact with your ex can help prevent you from getting sucked back into any negative emotions or feelings. Cut off every points of contacts, including social media and her friends. This can help you begin to detach yourself from the relationship and focus on moving forward.
Remove and delete: Remove any item, object, clothing, toiletries, text message, pictures, etc. I mean everything associated with her.
Stay busy: Keeping yourself occupied with activities and projects can help you distract yourself and prevent you from dwelling on the past. Consider taking on new hobbies, exercising, or even volunteering to help others.
Surround yourself with positivity: Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself and who can support you through this difficult time. Seek out positive influences, like uplifting music or inspirational books.
Focus on self-care: Taking care of yourself is critical when going through a breakup. Make sure you get enough sleep, eat well, and exercise to help maintain your physical and mental well-being.Challenge your negative thoughts: Breakups can be accompanied by negative self-talk and feelings of worthlessness. Try to challenge those negative thoughts by focusing on your positive qualities and accomplishments.
Remember! Everyone's healing process is different and there is no one "right" way to get over an ex. Give yourself time to process your emotions and don't hesitate to seek professional help if you need it.21 Reply
I feel like the fastest way is always a bad decision lol.
Take your time.
Heal.
Sit with your emotions.
Don’t run away from them.
Feel whatever you have to feel in order to move on.
Surround yourself with people that love you and bring out the best in you.
Focusing on your self is the best advice that I can give you.
I went to a terrible breakup once and I learned some things the hard way.
Eventually I learned and my life changed and became so much better when I start to focus on myself.
When I started learning and growing and becoming a better me each and every day.
You got this!
DO NOT RUSH!
Do not ignore and push away your emotions.
Listen to yourself, take the time to grieve this loss.10 Reply
+1 yTime is the biggest healer, but stay busy. At first try to avoid things that you did with your ex, cause that can trigger flashbacks with them.
Find new things to do, if the same thing you did with the ex, do it with someone new to start to overwrite the memories.
I see echo's of the past everywhere I go, but eventually they start to fade with time and creating new echo's with new people. Doesn't have to be romantic partners, friends and family works too.
I know that it is painful and a week can feel like a month but it does get better.
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EXCELLENT advice! You are an OLD soul!
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1.1K opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic. When it comes to outliving our romantic and familial Past, I do not think we truly can unless your conscience is seared. Physical and emotional connection conjoined rarely is totally forgotten and this is why intimacy and sex is so important The choices we make are truly life altering.
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+1 yPeople have different drivers but I think taking karate lessons, joining a club for volunteers that help the community, learning an instrument, beginning a new baking tradition or taking salsa lessons would be a good way to get over the past. When I need a mood boost I read books, which I enjoy even more than steak and lobster tail dinners.
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+1 yBest way to get over an ex is find a new partner and concentrate on your relationship with them.
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+1 yGetting over an ex can take time and can be a difficult process, but there are a few things that can help speed up the healing process:
- Cut off contact: This includes unfollowing them on social media, deleting their phone number, and avoiding places where you might run into them.
- Focus on yourself: Take care of yourself by exercising, eating well, and getting enough sleep. Engage in activities that make you happy and spend time with supportive friends and family.
- Allow yourself to feel your emotions: It's okay to feel sad, angry, or hurt after a breakup. Allow yourself to experience these emotions, but also make sure to take steps to move forward.
- Seek professional help if needed: Consider seeing a therapist or counselor to help you work through your feelings and develop coping strategies.
- Keep busy: Distract yourself with hobbies, work, and other activities that you enjoy.
Remember that healing takes time and everyone's process is different. Be patient with yourself and focus on moving forward one step at a time.
10 ReplyYou almost never can get over an ex fast. Unless you were the dumper, and even they can struggle with regret sometimes. You have to take some time to grieve in the early stages, and then start resolving to move on. Get involved in activities and cling to friends at that point, it really helps.
It took me a little over a year to fully get over an ex, and a lot of that was largely due to my foolish hope that she'd come back. Eventually I got over it so much that I look back and don't even miss her or want her back. That feeling of freedom is going to feel so sweet for you, I promise.
10 ReplyMake sure your taking care of yourself. Eating well, sleeping well, Grooming. Stay connected with friends and family, spend as much time as you can with people that make you happy and love you. Try finding a hobby or something to do. Cooking class, Yoga class, Martial arts maybe or dancing. Whatever you might enjoy learning or doing.
love yourself more than the ex. Cut off all communication, or anything that makes you think of them.
Start dating again, go slow. But just enjoying some positive attention can be good for you.
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+1 yI guess it depends on why you broke up with them.
The only true way to get over someone is to sever your connection to them.
That said sometimes the most important connection to sever is the one that made you break up in the first place.
Reminders, mutual friends, shared interests and many other things tie you to those you love even if they don’t love you.
For me I’m able to mentally detach myself from any situation but that came from practice.
My advice is to just deal with pain and embrace what you still have while you still have it. Being able to disconnect emotion’s isn’t as great as people make it out to be.00 ReplyOnly answer I can think of is to live life. Learn to endure discomfort and pain, it's part of the human condition. Don't sit around all day thinking about what could've been, grieve the relationship but also use this as a learning opportunity, imagine the healthiest ways you'd like your future self to be. Also use this time to pick up a new hobby, ask your friends and family deeper questions, maybe even exercise. Your future self will thank you for the time you took to heal and learn more about yourself. I hope this helps, wishing you the best.
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yWell he poops too
When there is no toilet papers he washes his a$$🕳 with bare hands. After that he sniffles his fingers for hours and scratches his balls touches his iPhone to date other bitches. Think that and realize him not wanting you is just another walking specie in planet.. don’t give a fuck about that piece of meat. Plenty of meat or fish (if you are pescatarian) out there
Trust me don’t give a fuck about him that’s how you move on.. love people who love you. And think of people who think about you.01 Reply- +1 y
No truer words have been spoken. We all poop.
+1 yNo joke, my mother used to tell my sister, “The best way to get over the last one is to get under the next one.”
I recommend a weekend of sad movies, time and introspection. Couldn’t hurt to have a few ride or die friends around for all of it.10 ReplyDon't avoid processing how you feel. Acknowledge what you miss about them, and also why you aren't together anymore. Let yourself feel and express those feelings. Don't try to block them with booze or self-destructive actions. Eventually, you'll be all cried out, and ready to spend time with someone else.
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+1 yFor me personally I found that getting involved in things I am passionate about helped me automatically. I used to almost forget the person who betrayed me 😂. But if I'm free all the time then it hurts like a slow death. But even I involved my self in new things old stuff fades away. & Who knows you might meet your perfect partner while being involved in things you really like😊❤️
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+1 yI tend to take a bit of a vacation. Load my kayak and paddle board and either head for the ocean or out on the Great Lakes. I do some camping and recenter myself.
10 ReplyYou can start seeing other guys, it doesn’t need to be an official dating, you can simply see it as knowing new person.
Getting some new hobbies could work too. Hiking, exercising, swimming….20 Reply
+1 yI have a ritual. Sometimes it's good to watch things burn. It's therapeutic. Some people recommend a rage room.. burning items is good too. It's symbolic and you literally see it go up on flames..
Poof00 ReplyI think the best way is to just accept it the more you think about it some more pain you have a bunch of accept it and acknowledge it and know it's probably for the best and another door will open when you're ready for it too
00 ReplyIt's fairly easy, when you find the roots of actually why you started to like them. It's probably difficult if it's embedded in you subconscious but eventually you'll find it if you ask yourself the right questions.
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+1 yGet under a new one... lol jk
Best thing is time.. and focus on yourself...20 ReplyIt’s never easy, it just takes time. No contact with him/her and don’t talk bad to others about him, all that does is keep him on your mind. The worst thing you can do is start dating again, give it some time. Rebounds are the worst. Be careful and I hope things get better.
00 ReplyThink of it as a small price to pay for the times you shared together. Remember that you broke up for a reason. These things take time, it means your human. Let the pain in and accept the life experience. Take care.
00 ReplyGet involved with a young guy, who is a romantic fool!..
Who is way below you league!..
Who is broke but has a great body, and principles
00 ReplyInstead of being alone, I went out and did more activities with friends and had a few casual dates and one night stands…
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+1 yWhen my ex relationship ended I went back to college to get a degree. Going to the gym helped too. Getting your mind into other goals. Lastly a few sessions with a psychologist were a good idea too
10 Reply1.6K opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic. Focus on doing things you enjoy and meet someone else. That has always worked for me.
10 ReplyBy firstly acknowledging it, and then by processing it!
10 ReplyDelete pictures texts vids etc. and if you have any printed out - - tear them up into tiny pieces, and flush them down the toilet or pee on them and then flush them down the toilet.
00 ReplyLife doesn't have short cuts. Time will heal you. Just keep distracting yourself, get into a hobby, classes, go out with friends, dance, drink, sing, eat. Join groups or courses you are interested in.
00 ReplyHang out with friends, stay busy, remember the reasons that they are now an ex.
Take down the pictures, all of that kind of stuff.00 Reply
+1 yDon’t talk about them one day a week. It helps fake it till you make it ya know?
00 ReplyI would say if feelings are there then it would be a bit hard to moove on
00 ReplyBlock them out of you're life, focus on you. Do the things which make you happy and wait for the right person to come along. Remember everything happens for a reason.
10 ReplyFace the music. Don’t run away from what happened. Ideally, you two have a mature conversation and forgive eachother
forgiveness is the way
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+1 yStop obsessing over them, what they think, what they do.
Focus on yourself and hobbies.00 Reply- 512 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.
+1 yDo what Betty White suggested:
"The fastest way to get over a man is to get under another one". :)
00 Reply Really it’s just time and distance. It’s hard but necessary and it works. Go through the five stages of grief
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+1 yFirst of all why tend toward Ex? there was reason for the heor you, went to catagory of :Ex? Forget about painful past, be happy with present, my opinion is to forget Ex for ever, get happiness from present or future
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+1 yThink of all the things they did to hurt you.
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+1 yI'd suggest staying busy and developing a crush on someone new or probably even starting a new relationship.
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+1 yYou could get laid with someone else, weather it be a one stand or not
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+1 yFind someone new! NOTHING says we're DONE better than a new playtoy or SO!
10 Reply2.3K opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic. There is no fast way she used to live with me. It took me three years to get over here.
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+1 yAccepting that if it were meant to be, it would be.
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+1 yBasically you need to get more into adrenaline activities and if not spend more time in ya hobbies.
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+1 yYes surround yourself with friends and family and get back into life and doing the things you like to do
00 ReplyThe best way to get over a man is to get under another one
00 Reply602 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic. The best way to get over an ex is to find another love interest.
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+1 yThe fastets way which i know is that when something is empty, fill it with another one
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+1 yThere's the old saying... quickest way to get over one person is to get under another.
00 Replygive your own life the importance it deserves and focus on it.
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Anonymous(18-24)+1 yDo something nice for yourself for a change, I did and then some day you will find someone better for you.
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+1 ySpend time with friends and family and get out of the house a lot. This really does help.
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+1 yBlock everything. Never look at their pages. Never text etc.
00 ReplyThe fastest way to get over a bad memory is to make new and exciting ones. Hope this helps! 🌸
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+1 ygo to a lapdance club and the hottie will take your mind off her
00 ReplyYes, get over him/her.
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+1 yI've had three dates on the same night
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Really? That's a little fast!
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by dates I mean I had sex with three guys
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Really? That's a little fast! LOL!
+1 yMake a list of all their negative qualities
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+1 yFastest way is to start dating again.
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+1 ySleep with someone else.
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