Hey guys so, I just broke up with my 5 year girlfriend. We had a toxic dinamic were she had al the privildege and I all the obligations. She is very beautiful, did modeling and I guess know her beauty made her accostumed to getting her way. Last year I started a process of leveling up the dinamic with a psicologist. As I got stronger, conflict increased. I started saying no to selfish demands and eventually moved to Boston for my master´s degree. This is where I got stronger, because been away made it so clear how toxic the relationship was. Eventually we broke up, got back together but I set certain boundries. She broke them recently again, amongst others trust and respect. She threatened me with cheating "because she can since she is so beautiful", and so I said that was it. I said, you know what, I believe you, I believe that you would cheat on me and that you do not respect me and so I am done. She later texted me that I was cheating and that is why I am leaving.. bla bla. I stated clearly my reasons and then she got furuious, I could hear her voice, it actually scared me the level of anger and threats. I hate to think she will be with other men, that hough breaks me. Also she saids she hated me and blocked me. I am certain I will not go back to her, the decision is final, but that does not mean that what she said did not hurt and is still going around in my mind. Any words? similar experiences? advice? Thanks
Just broke up, she said she hates me and many more things. Feel down, any words of advice?
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Time is your best friend when it comes to breakups. There’s no quick fix to healing and it’s hard when you feel forced to breakup. You did the right thing, she sounds very entitled, stuck up and unappreciative of having a good guy. Now you are free to heal, continue your growth and welcome a better woman one day. Someone who won’t take you for granted or accuse you of cheating since they probably were. Also, beauty doesn’t matter when her heart has become so ugly. No man will commit to verbal harassment and belittling.
First... Your a psychologist and spelled it wrong... Second this bitch is as toxic as toxic can be. It's going to SUCK in the beginning, but you need to move on. Focus on you. Do things you love, spend time with people, spend time outside. Sunlight helps depression I swear. If you live in a city w shitty weather sit at a cafe w a good view.
Tell her to go to hell.