So my boyfriend broke up with me saying that he felt like our relationship wasn't working at all. I feel like it's something I did wrong to make this happen and I'm really beating myself up. Any advice on how to just move on ðŸ˜
I'm really sorry he did that.
One minute, one hour, one day, one step at a time. Keep your mind busy and off of him. Remove stuff from your life that makes you think of him.
Don't try to figure out why. Or say "I did this; he did that". Doesn't help and doesn't answer questions. Also, this is NOT some failure on your part. You are no less valuable as a result.
Fill your life with little bits of happiness. Find those simple little things that make you happy: a fresh cup of coffee, petting the cat, hanging out with friends, shopping -- whatever. And then very intentionally fill your days with those things.
Do school. Don't awkwardly avoid him, but avoid him if that makes sense. Don't cut your school life up just to avoid him. If you have a job, do that. Sleep. Work out. Watch movies -- but pick a different genre than you and he used to watch.
You can and will get past this. It is tough. It's going to suck. And there's going to be days when you're doing great and standing in McDonald's and you'll hear a song on the radio and it'll stab you in the heart. But you move forward.
In these cases where the other person terminates the relationship, we are kind of stuck. Naturally, we blame ourselves because we do not want it to end. At these moments when we do this we must Stop, recognize that I am self-bashing, take control of the thought, and discard thought. Life is this way so consider this a good practice and skill development possibility.
Practically, one should stay busy and keep one's mind preoccupied. Studying, reading, and staying off Social Media are good alternatives. No matter what, do NOT follow his activities... block her is my approach. Sports, new hobbies, rekindle old friendships, and make new friendships. Staying off SM and chat rooms where he is is VERY important if you truly want to recover quickly.
honestly you did nothing wrong. you both are young, it was bound to happen sooner or later. eventually you'll heal, you'll find someone knew, eventually it'll all work out.
remove him from all social media… cardio and light weigh lifting always clears my mind and gives me a sense of clarity. Keep yourself active, maybe learn a new hobby
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It just takes time. But it helps to keep yourself busy doing things you enjoy. Go out with friends, enjoy a hobby, do whatever. Eventually you'll wake up one day and realize you haven't even thought about them in a while. Especially after you meet someone else that you click with.
Relationships generally don't last long in HS. But have you tried asking him? Focus on other things in your life.
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