I am going to ruffle some feathers here, but I'll say it anyway because it's a fact and we are doing ourselves no favors by tiptoeing around it. The institution of marriage is dying a fast death and it's mostly women who are killing it. Half of marriages end in divorce, women initiate the vast majority of them, and lack of commitment is the number 1 reason for divorce today.
Many women argue infidelity is the cause, but studies show men and women cheat at similar rates, and women actually cheat more than men when younger.
Looking at the divorce rates among straight, gay and lesbian couples is very telling. The highest rate, by far, is among lesbian couples, and the lowest is among gay couples. Straight couples are somewhere in between. In other words, the more women involved in a marriage, the more likely it will end in divorce.
Modern women are destroying marriage, and in many ways western society. We need to start holding them accountable for their behavior rather than sparing their feelings and continuing to give them a pass.
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Exclusive relationship are never easy to maintain. It requires hard work, understanding, trust, respect and high compatibility as well.
One need to take ownership and responsibility on their ends to ensure the same. Marriages are not for everyone.
This answer is going to anger people, but you asked the question, so I'm going to answer it.
The two main causes of divorce, are money and sex. The money part can be managed by creating an on or offline spreadsheet. You dump your pay checks in the hopper, and the spreadsheet spits the money out into various accounts. Come up with as many accounts that you can think of. Then just live within your means.
The sex part is tricky. I've talked to tons of people online. A guy asks me why his wife stopped liking sex. I tell him that she never stopped liking sex. She just stopped liking sex with YOU. That's as far as I'm going to take this conversation on a site like this one.
I think people divorce for two reasons, abusive behaviour, or laziness, or an unwillingness by one or both people to compromise. But I know married couples that are not divorced that should be divorced. Two jobless or low wage people I know married to abusers they cannot divorce cause they need the money.
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Divorce is so high because women are not only encouraged to treat their husband and father of their kids as disposable but also rewards them financially.
85% of divorces are intiated by wives. 80% of divorces wouldn't happen if there was no alimony, no getting half his wealth, default child custody was 50/50 with no child support.
1. People get married based solely on physical/sexual attraction and not on being compatible morally, having compatible long term life goals, having an acceptable past to their partner's liking.
2. People damage their relationships with social media, whether that is posting provocative/revealing pictures for attention, giving attention to other people that make those kinds of posts, posting their problems/disagreements for others to see and comment on, or constantly comparing their relationship/lives to others, even though they often don't see many negative aspects of others' relationships in the public posts so they think things could be better as nd become disappointed in their relationship over something deceptive/fake.
Can't speak for the rest of the world, but divorces in U. S. are so high because women couldn't change a man.
Almost all of the women who initiate a divorce already knew from the very beginning that their man had issues or things about him that they either didn't like or thought he should change, but they stayed with him anyway in the hopes that he would change, or in the hopes that they could fix him. So what happens is that over time, the woman gets sick of it and can't take it anymore and she's ready to leave.
Tons of women try to convince people of the reason why they divorce so much because they need to feel justified for doing it, instead of acknowledging how they fucked up. I completely understand divorces where there was cheating, abuse, etc. but for 70% of divorces to be called by women? Something else is going on that they're not telling us.
This is why men should never marry. There's no benefits for men. It's all risk. Western women are entitled and selfish. Divorce is dropping only because marriage is at an historic all time low. Name one benefit that men get from marriage that can't be had outside of marriage. Then aside from risks men face, sex usually slows or stops as there's nothing women are trying to impress a man any longer. They don't stay loyal. They don't have children or give their best years to her husband anymore.
Unreasonable expectations from women who has been so sheltered from the world that they don't even understand how it works. I see no other solutions then let them go through the same steel bath as men for a couple of generations andmaybe they will be greatful again in a few generations. Instead of asking for more than that can be given.
Both those stats were higher the last I checked...
But yeah, It's going to keep going up and it's because of the laws and legal system.
I wanna say something funny like systemic genderism or go MGTOW...
But yeah, the laws and the legal system are making it all happen. The changes are happening right next to the changes in laws.
That number isn't right. The total percentage of all marriages might be that high. But first marriages isn't anywhere near that high. People with second and third divorces drive the average much higher and distort the numbers.
Nor is it rising. The divorce rate has been decreasing for quite some time now.
I just saw a post where multiple people explained they were/had divorced for insurance, since it wouldn't cover them as a couple but individually it would. And that makes me think there are maybe a lot more factors than just the marriage failing that could cause a divorce.
I believe there is too much entitlement. Everyone feels entitled.
- Entitled to better sex
- Entitled to more money
- Entitled to everything their neighbor has
- Entitled to more leisure
- Entitled to having things their way
- Entitled to instant gratification
Divorce happens because one of the partners thinks the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.
Because people (especially women) aren't settling for the bare minimum anymore. Back a long time ago women had to settle and be with a man just so she could be able to live. Now a days it's not that way anymore and us women want a decent spouse. And many men just don't know how to be that way since they learn how to be a man from their fathers and grandfather's that obviously were all in shit relationships giving the bare minimum as a partner.
snowball effect of lack of parents, freedom, junk media trashing emotions.
I know of some women that should get divorced, they have to put up with a lot of crap. some guys do as well. Maybe we just aren't learning the skills we need to co habitate.
Maybe we should go back to living in the trees vs living in stressball houses? It's cheaper and it's "green"...
Basically because we're wealthier. In many countries women are able to support themselves and are therefore free to leave an unhappy marriage. This is a good thing for almost everyone except for the bad husbands of the world.
Modern marriage is relatively new and it is not working out for humans. The type of big wedding we see now with a diamond ring, white dress and formal events never happened over 100 years ago. It's brand new and not "traditional". People have clearly decided they don't like this fad and are dumping it.
Lack of commitment and the absence of social stigma. Also, no-fault divorce, which allows one person, often the cheater, to unilaterally dissolve the marriage and, despite being unfaithful, still get half of everything plus alimony if that person is the lower earner.
Basic math...
45% of marriages end in divorce.
70% of those 45% are stated by women.
So, what are the odds, once you are married, that you will get a divorce AND that divorce will be started by the woman?
It's 45*0.7= 31.5%.
I hate this word. Divorce is a curse to the society. Unrealistic expectations from each other is the reason for divorce.
I think people forgot that life is all about compromises, sacrifices and adjustments. You will never get a perfect life partner.
Some girls on social media wrote that through feminism they want to take revenge on men. Since then I have negative opinion about feminism.
i think it's mostly just a consequence of weakening the stigma of divorce. i don't think anything else is changing. divorce rates would always have been that high, if the stigma was that low in the past.
Marriage is like a hurricane there is a lot of blowing in the beginning & when it’s all said & done your house is gone.
People now have an exit from their loveless marriage. As somebody from Asia, I think that's a real blessing.
Don't like it?
Don't marry white women.
Problem solved.
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