As I asked you before, I cheated on my girlfriend I regret it. When she heard this, she broke up with me and never talked to me since then. What should I do to talk with her?
u 1. You regret that you cheated, or you regret that you told your ex?
2. Why do you think you deserve a second chance? This isn't all about what YOU want. In case you need a reminder, YOU do not occupy the moral high ground here!
3. Once upon a time, she trusted you absolutely, and you volated her trust. And in another question, you tried to justify cheating by explaining that the relationship was a long distance relationship. SO FUCKING WHAT? How could she ever again trust you absolutely? Do you get it?
recognize the issues you have that lead to this, suffer the loss, and make the changes you need to make in yourself. This is no different than any other relationship where... we learn about ourselves. There is no talking to her. Want to make a public apology, go ahead. You can do that in church... go up on stage speak the truth. Or mens group, video, whatever. just don't call her up...
In essence, you violated an emotional agreement. After doing so, she cancelled her side, per what is acceptable practice.
Thank your lucky stars she has exposed a part of you that you don't like, seek forgiveness from God, probably the only one that will give it to you... other than understanding people, and start life over again.
and congratulations, you've discovered some values... possibly... before it's too late to change your path. It could have been a lot worse.
You don't do anything but let her move on with her life. If you ever try winning her back that's super selfish on your part. That means you don't care about her own happiness, even if that means not even having you as a friend.
I don't mind to be harsh but can you explain what exactly (besides just the ''falling in love'' infautation and butterflies in your stomach) makes you believe you deserve to have her in your life?
If she were to take you back wouldn't she be lowering her standards so much? You already reduced your worth. Why would she want to be with you when there are other men that don't cheat? What makes you better than other that don't cheat? If she never cheated on you, why would she settle for someone that cheated once?
You did a bad thing, you felt guilty and remorseful, you took accountability and owned up to your actions and now - like all morally correct people - you have to deal with the consequences of those bad actions. I would strongly suggest working on yourself, using this as motivation to make yourself a better man over the next year. Give her time to heal and grieve without contact from you, and in that time become a better man that is worthy of her, improve your emotional understanding and awareness, look into the questions of “who am I?” And “what do I want?” And “Why do I want that?” Do a little soul-searching because she’s going to be hurt about this for a while yet, and in the end you’ll be a better person.
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Why are you asking how to stalk your ex? Come on move on, let her go. You screwed up, live, learn and find someone else or be single the rest of your life.
You screwed up your relationship with her, and she ended it. Face it, she is gone. Don't try to talk to her. Learn from what you did and move on.
1) What part do you regret? The cheating or your girlfriend finding out?
2) Of course she broke up with you, WHY should she tolerate you cheating. Once a cheater, always a cheater as the saying goes. Obvious by how you actually tried to justify your behavior in another question.
3) WHY should she talk to you? She trusted you, you broke her trust. As said once a cheater, always a cheater - and she is smart to realize that you will never contribute much value to her life.
She did exactly what she should have done. Listen man, its over between you and her. Its not too often that I hear about women completely walking away from men that treat them like trash, but when I see it I applaud it, because it means she's not the typical modern woman that will stick by men that treat them like trash. The solution you're looking for is therapy. Until you get to therapy, and work through what made you screw up that situation, you'll just repeat this pattern with other women because you have no self control. And a man without self control, will always be a slave to his urges. So what you do now, is man tf up, lick your wounds, and take accountability for your actions. That's how you ensure that you don't fumble another good woman. Get to work, and get to therapy.
You don't. You did a big fuck up and might have deeply scarred her for a very long time to come.
She will spend years hating you and everyone around her. She will be distrustful and will not reconnect with herself to enjoy life freely again for a long time.
If you push it, you will make it worse. Even if you got back together, it's a kind of violation where she will have had to suppress her feelings to get back with you and have to feel like she was overreacting, which she absolutely isn't.
In my opinion, cheaters in a serious relationship deserve to have their skin torn off to teach them the damage they cause.
Well, first I'd ask why you told her you cheated. If you had a come to Jesus moment and realized you needed to change while making a clean break from other women, you could have kept that to yourself and not hurt her.
If you caught an STD, that's far more difficult to pull off, same with if you got caught in other ways. Regardless of what led to her finding out, she has no obligation to simply forgive you. This isn't an episode of fresh and fit, logically it is different for men and women to cheat as an overall picture. On an individual basis in each relationship, that doesn't matter.
Legally, ethically and in all other senses, you need to leave her alone. You need to respect her wish not to see you and her right to privacy, not so she'll get back together with you or for any personal gain, but because you're a douchebag and she deserves better. If you learn anything from this, let it be that you realize cheating is a devastating betrayal of trust that ruins lives and will cut you off from the person you love, sometimes forever. Cheating will always ruin a relationship, no matter how good it is. Don't stalk you ex. Grow up and treat the next one with love and respect or you're just gonna hurt anyone who ever cares about you.
Regretfully your only chance with her ended when you cheated on her. Think about it from her point of view. If she’d told you she had lied to you and had sex with another guy (sorry you didn’t specify how far you went cheating on her and details aren’t necessary), how would you have felt. She doesn’t trust you anymore and no words can restore that since she won’t trust them either. It may be an old saying but love cannot exist where there is not first trust. I’m truly sorry I can’t help you, but this is the only honest answer I have.
Just move on. You can’t really do anything about it anymore. Acknowledge that you cheated and address the problem. If you want to cheat in any future relationships, I suggest breaking up and talking to your partner and being honest and communicating instead of going behind their back and hurting her. You cannot do anything now and you said that she will never talk to you again and that’s fine. You chose to cheat. You control what you do, say, wear and etc. Please don’t try to get into contact with her again, I think she probably just wants space right now.
Nothing. Leave her alone and let her move on. I just went through that situation of being cheated on and I was never able to trust him again. He also cheated on me again. She probably doesn't want to risk being cheated on again. Just stay single if you're going to cheat.
I think you have to recognize that cheating destroys a long term relationship. Aside from anything else cheating kills the whole notion of the partner being special and someone that you want to spend your life with.
Having destroyed that faith in her, you can't be surprised that she no longer wants to allocate her life to you. Nor that she doesn't want to talk to you.
Good for you that you were honest. Now you need to carry the lesson through to the next girl you get with.
Why should she trust you again? Do you know the amount of psychological damage betrayal does? If you understood the kind of suffering you inflicted upon her you would know why it would better for you to leave her alone.
As a personal note, I find your lack of commitment and poor sense of integrity revolting. You have a lot of growing To do.
most women believe if a guy cheats once , he'll cheat again , once a cheater always a cheater , so there's no way to get her back until you prove that ur not gonna cheat again which is impossible to prove bc in her mind , if she forgives u then she'll think that you will think that when u cheat one more time u'll gonna think that she'll forgive u so it's hopeless trying to get her back
Even if you genuinely regrets it, leave the poor woman alone. She just got out of a relationship that may have broken her emotionally or not and now she's moving on. As I said and I'll repeat 'leave her alone' and then take it as a lesson to never consider cheating ever again.
Damn, so many harsh responses here.
People make mistakes. Nobody is immune to it. Live and learn, man.
That said, she is her own person and she took actions as she felt best for herself. Thats her decision. Respect her choice and move on.
This is what you get, when you think you can do better and try and go back to what you know was actually right for you all along. Thinking you could have both.
Women aren't stupid. And they sure as hell won't put up with being used as a back up plan either!! 💯
Good luck with your karma!!
Well I believe everyone deserves a second chance and if you really love her and want her back and your been sincere, win her trust back with everything you got and ask her what can I do for you to forgive me and whatever she says do it.
At the end of the day is up to her weather she forgives you or not.
You can't. Accept that.
Maybe one day, she will reach out to you, but I doubt it.
However, every time you try and reach out when she's made her feelings clear, all you're doing is showing her that you are STILL the inconsiderate asshole who thinks HIS wants matter more than HER wants.
Don't be that asshole. Change. And move on.
She did you a favor. She can never look past this, which is fine because you did violate her trust, and she would have this running around in the back of her mind anytime you’re 5 minutes late anywhere or if you don’t text her as often as you usually do. Her mind will go straight to cheating again. Only thing you can do at this point is move onto another relationship because this one is a goner.
Nothing. You screwed up big time. I don't blame her. Just move on and vow not to cheat on anyone else.
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