Am I cray for wanting to see my ex who broke up with me?

[Anonymous]

My ex broke up with me mid February, he initially said it was just a break but then turned into a breakup when he never reached out again. I messaged him last month and he told me to move on, he said he isn’t with anyone new and won’t be for quite some time as he’s focusing on himself. I now work close to him and really want to see him one last time. The last time we saw each other was January (pre breakup). I don’t even want him back but I miss him and his company and want to see him one last time for closure so I can finally move on in peace. I accept he doesn’t want our relationship back but I can’t seem to move on and seeing him one final time will help. I told him last Monday that I want to meet and he didn’t reply.. so I messaged the next Monday and he said he’s not in office as he’s unwell. I now want to message again asking if he’s in office tomorrow or Thursday as I am and can meet. I know I sound so desperate and dumb but I loved him and haven’t seen him in so long and the break up was random and unexpected I just need closure. Also other guys have asked to take me out and I’ve said no.. I want to see him first, close the book and then date new people.

[PrettyPriya]

You kind of contradict yourself. You want closure but I don't get the feeling that your spending time with him is going to bring that. How is seeing him one last time going to help you. You claim that you don't want him back but you miss his company.

Honestly, I don't get the vibe from your details that this is a good idea. You need to move on like most people do, which is to give it the appropriate amount of time. That is going to vary from person to person. You obviously have not reached that point yet.

Seeing him again is just going to reset the clock to a degree. You can try and fool yourself all you want that seeing him again will bring you peace, but if it is because you miss him as you indicated, it is going to do the opposite.

He was clear that things are over and he isn't even interested in seeing anyone right now. Let the guy work on himself and you do the same thing. I really get the feeling from your post that you are trying your hardest to trick yourself into believing it is for the best when you know it isn't.

[Anonymous]

Do what your mind wants and move on in peace after

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you want closure and to see your ex one last time, but it's important to respect his wishes and boundaries. If he has already told you to move on, it's possible that he may not be interested in seeing you or may not be ready to have contact with you.

Continuing to reach out to him repeatedly may come across as desperate or pushy, and could potentially make the situation more uncomfortable or awkward. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and to focus on moving forward, even if it means letting go of the past and starting fresh with new people.

If you're feeling stuck or uncertain about moving on, it may be helpful to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist who can provide guidance and encouragement. Remember that closure can come from within, and that you have the power to find peace and happiness on your own terms, whether or not you have contact with your ex.

[Shamalien]

I know what u mean. Sometimes when a breakup happens so quickly and not in person it can be difficult to get over. At some point though, you gotta face the facts that you may get no closure from this person. Not every ex is so courteous as that

[boggboss]

Yes you behaviour is in the crazy realm seems pretty clear he dont want to see or meet u yet u keep on reaching out

[Wise4myage]

No, but just resist the urge to contact him.

[Iron_Man]

No, I understand you’re attached