Women initiate divorce about 70% of the time:
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"Women initiate divorce more often than men. According to the American Sociological Association, about 70% of divorces are initiated by women. There are many reasons for this, including the fact that women are often more financially independent than they were in the past, and so they feel less dependent on their husbands.
Additionally, many women simply do not feel satisfied in their marriages and want out. Whatever the reason, it is clear that divorce is something that happens more frequently than many people realize."
So 30% of th time men start it - but why? I think the precipitating event in most cases is cheating by women. What do you think?
Maybe finding a younger woman but I think mostly for being cheated on.
From what I've seen of divorcees in America it seems to be a case of a wife discarding a good man for very fickle reasons knowing that rather than being "financially independent" they will be supported still by their former husband's earnings through alimony, child support, possession of the family home and half his wealth. There's seems to be more female homeowners in the US than male. These fickle reasons usually stem from boredom, selfishness, jealousy of other women, unreasonable expectations, no respect for their husband, a lack of honour, unsatisfied with an average standard of living, emotional cheating with some guy who tells them what they want to hear to sleep with them and works his way into her marraige, a belief they can do better than their husband, ungrateful for all they have, mother left a bad example and taking advice from other women who deliberately give them bad advice. The divorcees I know don't seem to be any happier having divorced their husband and some seem to try to take this out on their ex husband using their kids especially if he's dating a new woman who's maybe younger and hotter. It's important that their ex husband is doing worse than them. If you divorce your husband to be with another guy you were cheating with he's hardly going to be good to you and if your a divorcee in your 30s and 40s with kids it's hard to meet good men.
I'm very grateful to have my husband and being a Catholic don't believe in divorce.
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Where I used to live, both men and women cheat equally. There is no really accurate statistic stating which gender cheats more. Other than their wives cheated on them, there are plenty cases where the men initiate the divorce because they are the ones who cheated, and no longer have the same feeling towards their wives. Other than this, I know from some of my friends who have gone through divorce, they said their husband initiate it because there is no more understanding between them, where every single day is an argument war.
So my ex-wife divorced me and she initiated it. But honestly, I wanted her to divorce me. So by the time she did divorce me, it didn't matter who initiated it. Now my ex-wife truly believed she was going to get more then actually though she was going to get.
But she was stealing money from me, and I acted like I didn't know it. Because she was BPD type, so you can't draw attention to it or she will do something even more crazy. So I opened new bank accounts and just her money in half. Told here I knew she was stealing so I cut her allowance in half because she was stealing the other half through a reestate deal we made. Of course she denied this got super pissed off and divorced me. Which I wanted her to do.
In the divorce process all the money issues came out, and I was 100% validated, and she tried pulling the "victim card". And she ended up committing perjury 3 times in the process, but I never pressed the charges. I got all my money back, but after Lawary fees, it was net gain of zero... but at least I am not married to her anymore and I don't pay alimony, and I got all the investment accounts and she got two of the houses... but she was left in debt.
Men will endure so much more BS than women ever will. This same trait in men gives us the ability gives men fortitude in difficult situations, but it makes us miserable when it comes to women.
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Of the 20% - 30% of cases where men initiate divorce, I would bet the share that are due to the wife's infidelity is much higher than the share of wife-initiated divorces that are due to the husband's infidelity. I believe that is the case because men, especially today, tend to have a much stronger sense of commitment than today's women, so it generally takes something like cheating to motivate a husband to end his marriage. For women, on the other hand, there is a much longer list of reason they use to justify divorce. Women are incentivized by the legal system to divorce, whereas the opposite is true for men. Divorce is truly a zero-sum game.
I would agree with that. Men are usually way more tolerant of bullshit, that women would simply not accept unless she was absolutely dependent on the man for any and everything. With that said I really do think it takes something as significant as cheating to bring a man to the point of just needing that divorce.
In Australia if it is not a woman initiating divorce (70%) then it is a mutual application 20% of the time. The remaining 10% are men initiating. So I don't think it is right that you stats mean men in the US are initiating divorce at 30%.
Mutual applications might be due to a lack of harmony but I would suspect that is where the KNOWN cheating is happening. Known to the partner. Most husbands and wives are likely to divorce for cheating and I think that scenario is more likely to result in a mutual application.
With no fault divorce there are no stats on it. Can only be assessed by surveys.
I am quite sure most cheating is by women. They also seem to think it is funny and hot to cheat.I initiated divorce due to emotional and financial abuse. When I started fearing that I might be harmed or worse when I sleep, I realized it was time to leave no matter the cost. And believe me family courts hate men so the cost was steep.
there's no reason for a man to file for divorce other than his wife cheating on him
incompatibility is not a reason. miscommunication is not a reason. boredom is not a reason. abuse is not a reason either, men have a higher tolerance for abuse
I've seen a few over the years:
haven't heard of infidelity as a cause when men divorce women. Issues:
* Got to know her, really wasn't happy. didn't spend time together... not really a good match to begin with. e. g boredom.
* she really was whacky, the issue was not being fulfilled in life
* He found someone else... but I think that's as well, dissatisfied, some needs not fulfilled
I've seen women initiate divorces just as much.
Well I can think of a couple of things, Verbal and emotional abuse and or using your card without permission racking up a bunch of debt, finding out he's been raising a kid that isn't his (Which I guess counts as cheating) Here's something you need to understand, there are a number of women who will use any number of emotional gaslighting to keep a man from leaving, making them think they are worthless and they are the only ones who will ever love them, There are also some women who will threaten them with a multitude of things to make them obedient and some men one day just decide they've had enough.
Really though, if a man divorces 9 times out of 10 its because they realized their partner never loved them in the first place.I've said this before. Guys tend to move on when the drama meter is higher than the happiness meter. If you are always putting out fires, there is only so much one person can take. I think this is the scenario for the majority of men out there that file.
Honestly, we don't know what the real numbers are. Women being 70% of the people filing for divorce does not mean that they are the ones initiating it. It just means they are the ones sorting it out, because that is what women do. Men rely on woman to do everything for them even in divorce.
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Occasionally. I have seen them for the wife refusing to control her overspending, for example. Also more than one for physical abuse. Yes, it happens. But by far most of those filed by guys that I have dealt with have been because she messed around, often after she delivered a baby that looked different enough that he got a paternity test that showed he was not the dad.
sounds like a double edged sword, women are good at agreements where they're the quote in quote winner
get married no prenup divoce get half
get married earns more money divorce
When I think about it 80% of the time Im the more valuable person in the relationshipI can't speak on men leaving. Most women get left for other women.
In the 70% of women initiating, many of them are leaving men who have already left the relationship in terms of their actions but men don't like public failure. So, they often do a woman dirty for years but keep the social facade up.
Also, men think about their pocket. Cheaper to keep her is a real thing.Men are very likely to divorce their wife if she’s diagnosed with a serious or terminal condition, to the point women are warned when diagnosed.
It is probbly the main cause but it could also be that the woman lets her personal appearance go or else they disagree on a lot of things. Or maybe he just stopped being in love.
Women are never satisfied.
have you heard about the black hole?👀
Men stray and want to bang other women. I hear about it all the time.
The only valid reason for getting divorced in most circumstances is cheating.
Yes, the biggest reason men initiate divorce is the Wife's Drug Abuse.
Yes. Women being abusive
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