10 months ago I divorced my husband and had to move to this small town. I have no friends, only two children. Now I feel completely cut off from life, I just like isolated from life and I am very depressed. Do you have any ideas to help me get through this?
This all sucks this is where you have to make choices with or on top of choices that have been made for you
But try to remember this. With every thing else going on top of all that stuff. And you feel like you just want to scream stop take a. deep breath. Let it out and smile. Why. Because you have 2 choices. Smile or scream
What's going to make you feel better
Really.. deep breath let it out and smile. Laugh. Laugh. Hard. Feel that feeling.
I say all the above for one reason no matter what is going on in your life. No matter how it makes you feel.
You are the one the only one that can make you feel anything. Because you are the only one in side of you that makes it all happen
You went through a break up
First thing except it. It happen right acknowledge it you have to be honest with yourself just acknowledge it you might not like it but you have to accept it once you accept it now you have to deal with it you can either feel bad or you can even feel good it's your choice because you're the only one inside of you that can make you feel anything laugh laugh at it you know why because just like everything else in your life you've gotten through this one you're going to get through faster though because you're going to accept it and say okay here I am what am I going to do first of all I'm going to smile because I need to make myself feel happy I need to make myself feel good I need to take control of my life and it's going to happen with a smile I'm not going to be sad no more I'm going to make myself feel good because you are the only person in this world that lives inside of you that can do that take it on take on the whole freaking world you can do it teach your kids how to be teach your kids how to handle stress teach your kids how to handle when you something goes wrong in your life you either sit down and you cry are you stand up and you walk your way through it the faster you stand up the better off you're going to be I'm sorry that you had to go through this pain right now but accept the pain it's okay you're going to get through it but the major thing you have to accept is yourself and your happiness and understand you are the one that controls who you are you get to choose who you want to be in life by the things that you say and do who do you want to be who do you want your kids to see you being you want them to see you beautiful strong independent and that's who they're going to become it's not easy but you can do it you just have to accept it and change how you feel on the inside of you
I live in Los Angeles. Believe me going through a hard break-up isn't any easier being in a big city. I have never been divorced, but a few years ago I went through a break up. I really loved her. She started seeing someone else. I thought, if I could just keep myself busy with work and doing things, it wouldn't hurt so much. After all there a million things to do in L. A. At least you would think. I went to Laker games, Dodger games, went to concerts, went to the beach, hikes near the Hollywood sign, went to a few clubs to dance, played video games, hung out with friends, but no matter what I did, it was always on the back on my mind. I couldn't enjoy anything I did. It still hurt a lot. I was depressed. In the end, I just needed time.
I appreciate how brave you are to ask for advice. I think just talking with someone will help a lot. You sound like an amazing person. You have to be strong for your children. You are more than welcome to DM if you want to talk about your day. I know what you are doing through. :)
You should find the small town name on facebook and join the group board. So you could see events and activities going on in the small town. Trust me, I’ve seen moms and daycares in comment sections helping out people. Also, you’d be surprised of all the free toys and clothes moms give away to new people.
There’s one thing I want you to remember “This, too, shall pass.”
You’ll be happy again and you’ll wonder, how is it possible to be so happy after experiencing such pain and you’ll love every bit of your life.
Just embrace your pain and let the wound heal.
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Make friends with other parents, especially parents of your kids’ friends
I too was divorced many years ago and was left with 3 children. Love is something we all desire but if I may suggest something. Before you go looking for someone to fill that hole in your heart understand that your children also went through a divorce. Talking from experience those kids need their parent to be there for them. They need laughter, fun, discipline, and someone to talk to. Speaking of someone to talk to, talking to a professional would be better for you then any opinion here. Don’t be assumed to reach out for help. In the end, my advice is to love yourself and your children. You will get through this. Good luck!
I can appreciate how you are feeling , quite isolated , especially in a tiny town , try and just focus on a project , something that you like , try as best you can to stay positive , do some things for the children , as you project a more positive you , good things will naturally happen.
How long together
Who left who
Is your former partner living in town
Have they got a new lover and how often do you see or speak to them
How are your kids coping.
Or Grand kids too.
But most important of all. Love your self first.
Do not jump into bed with the first loser to like you.
Self lover is safer than risky one night stands.
But most of all. Who cares?
I am young free and happy
Single or not
Happy
Make online friends, that way you at least have grown up people you can speak to as opposed to just your kids
Maybe try dating again!
Paint some rocks, glue together a little bird house? Are you crafty or have a double stroller and get some walks in. Go to the beach and look around and hear nature. Depends on what environments you like
Get some hobbies you can be passionate about. If you don't know of any well then just try out some things. People with kids tend to lose who they were before having kids. It's not healthy to only live for someone else.
faith in God. He is real and listens so please have a relationship with Him
you do need some friends. no relationship. just friends. do your children have any friends? do you know their parents? i know you just moved, but it could be a good way to start.
This is the beginning of a Hallmark movie I can feel it!
Jump back in the game be a whore and then settle down again just do what u enjoy remember the reason u left
I’m going through something very similar at the moment. In my case I’m living abroad.
I’ve been trying to do activities when I can to meet new people and get out of the house (Meetup is a pretty good app for that type of thing).
Don’t feel bad because most women considers me as a huge deal breaker because of my age and I don’t drive at all. It’s very hard to make new friends nowadays.
Visit and spend time in a neighboring town. Assuming one is not too far of a drive away.
Just try to hangout with another Guy you like, I know the feeling because I have been single most of my life.
Make friends with the parents of your kids' friends.
Make new friends, we can be friends and talk if you like
I envy you. I am broken hearted and can't move to anywhere. I am stuck with people I don't know.
Move back? Move where you have family?
Watch Gilmore girls!!! Believe me it will help.
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