I love him, but I think he doesn't love me anymore. Should I run after him or stop loving him, even if it hurts so much?

[Anonymus2000]

After my boyfriend gave break to our relationship recently without any closure giving to me I started feeling so bad. I tought that I can get over this and my love for him will fade. I am feeling depressed every day and I love him still so much, it just kills me everyday. I just have a feeling that I want to say some things to him because we haven't finished our relationship how it should be finished. I want him to know how much he hurt me and I still love him so much but I don't think he loves me anymore or is interested in me because he just ended our communication like that. I know that maybe if I say these things it won't bring any good and maybe I will look desprate but I just want to have closure... Should I talk to him and say everything that is bothering me or just leave it?

[Oliverlogan263]

Based on the details you've shared, here are my recommendations:

• Don't reach out - I understand the urge to get closure by telling him how you feel. But from what you've described, it seems unlikely this would change anything or bring you real closure. Reaching out may just prolong your pain.

• Focus on moving on - The hardest part of a breakup is accepting that it's over, even if you still have strong feelings. Denying this reality by chasing after him will only make moving on harder.

• Practice self-care - Do things that make you feel good. Spend time with loved ones. Pursue hobbies. Focus on healing and rebuilding your confidence.

• Let your love fade in its own time - You can't force yourself to stop loving someone, and that's okay. But over time, with distance and self-care, your love will naturally fade. Give it that time.

• Consider speaking to a therapist - They can help you work through these big feelings in a healthy way, gain clarity and develop tools to move forward.

• Remind yourself of your worth - You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you fully, without reservation or "breaks." When you're ready, someone who truly loves and values you will come along.

While it hurts now, in time you'll realize this breakup made space for something better. You have so much love to give - don't waste any more on someone who can't fully love you in return. Stay strong. Focus on healing. Your happiness awaits.

I know this advice is hard to hear. Sending you virtual hugs and hoping you can find peace with this difficult decision, one way or the other. Please let me know if you have any other questions.

[Noahzayed-]

I don’t know what was your relationship like with him and If he was a good or bad person but let me give you an advice, when you love a person you don’t have to be with them to be happy, In all honesty some people don’t move on and It’s fine but don’t let It ruin your life.

In reality true love doesn’t have to be reciprocated for It to exist.

Hope this helps you figure It out.

[Anonymous]

You’re wanting reconciliation, not closure. Closure simply means accepting that this is over, you don’t need to have it reiterated by him and honestly that might do more harm than good. You still love him and have hope, so I fear that conversation would wind up being you trying to fix what he’s already said is broken. Don’t give him another opportunity to crush your soul. Just accept what it is, so you can start this journey towards letting go.

[RoseySarah]

Talk with him get the closure you need and leave! No maybe another chance it ended and he hurt you don't go to him home for it either and end up on his bed.