How to deal with break up and addiction at the same time?

[Anonymous]

So I’ve been smoking weed for almost 20 years now, for the most part. There were a few breaks here and there.

I’ve been feeling like I’m done with it for some time now but have struggled to stop.
I’ve been back and forth, stopping for a few days and getting back to it.

Recently, the guy I was seeing ended things. It’s been almost 6 weeks and I am struggling to get over this too. We didn’t speak, I’ve been working out, trying to look after myself better but nothing seems to be working. I just can’t get over it.

I really want to stop smoking because I feel like it’s not serving me well anymore. And it’s probably not helping me get over him.

But I just can’t handle the first couple of days of not smoking, where my emotions come up. I’m scared I’m going to message him in an emotional outburst. I’m already having to stop myself doing it.

And I don’t trust my mind in these emotional states. Sometimes I wana wish him all the best, sometimes I want to tell him I hate him, most of the time, i wana be real and just try and talk and get some closure.

But I don’t trust anything as long as I’m high all the time. Would it help?

I could block him, but I can always unblock so this doesn’t really work for me.

Does anyone have any suggestions or advice for how I can do this?

I feel like I’m stuck in a vicious cycle.

[jahaims]

Was the breakup amicable? If it was maybe contact the ex once and tell them you know what you want but are struggling so if I am weak and break don't contact me back please.
If not try to taper off the weed.

[Anonymous]

replace it with exercise. want to smoke? whoops, looks like you have to go exercise instead.

what to message him? oops, looks like you actually have to go clean the bathroom.

you need another coping mechanism.

[Anonymous]

Deal with your addiction first, and stay away from the person your breaking up with.

[balyai]

Therapy can help