Do you feel emotionally exhausted when thinking of your ex?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

My ex’s mom messaged me that when my ex contacted me three weeks ago, wanting to know how I was, I must have pretended I was sad and weak, she was upset, I told him “I feel great and I am very happy where I am”.

I, though, feel honestly tired.

My ex needs to kill a dragon and be the only man on Earth for me to ever consider being with him again, because of what I’ve been through due to him.

I don’t want any more mind games, I don’t want any more emotional exhaustion.

I am tired.

I don’t want to hear a word about him anymore.

Today I finally deleted his photos from my social media. I don’t feel anything other than extremely dull and pale pain somewhere deep in my heart, when I recall him.

My ex’s mom often asked me what was so special about him, that I couldn’t forget him and I always had an answer.

Today she asked me again and I was honestly not sure what to answer, I reached the point where I feel there was nothing special about him, other than my love.

My love made him special.

But he is not special anymore. I am tired. I don’t want to hear anything from his family.

If he ever decides to reach back, he can apologize and tell me his real feelings but other than that I am honestly tired of all these mind games and everything and I want to set free from him and his family.

I don’t want to ever remember him.

He’s just a shadow of my past. It doesn’t even feel like he ever existed. It’s so fat in the past now.

His family decided to tell me that it wasn’t his fault to break up. But it’s too late to tell me that now.

I’ve been through a lot, totally alone.

It’s been a year. I don’t care if he meets someone new, or not.

I just don’t care anymore. I only feel one feeling “exhaustion” of all these dramas.

[Lliam]

I've read your stories about how your ex dumped you and why. His family screwed both him and you.
It sounds like he was too young to understand that he should be his own man and not allow his parents to control his life. Screw traditions.
But it's over now and there is no going back.

So I can understand how you feel.

I've never felt emotionally "exhausted" thinking about an ex. But there is one ex that I think about and long for all the time.

We met when I was 36 and Petra was 30. We wound up living together for over a year. Out of all my girlfriends, she is the only one I loved with my heart and soul. She loved me, too.

We separated for reasons that are complicated and impossible to explain. I didn't even understand it at the time. No cheating or meanness was involved.

After we separated, though, I felt like my guts had been kicked out to the point of sometimes feeling nauseous. I sometimes curled up and bawled. I've never felt such pain in my life. It took a year for me to pull myself together and move on with life.

I met my future wife three years after that separation and married her two years later.

20 years after we had last seen each other, Petra found me on Facebook. We became FB friends and even spoke a few times on the phone. She was living in another part of the country. We could never be together again. But just being in touch, hearing what she was up to, knowing that she was happy and pursuing her dreams filled me with joy.

Five years after we reconnected, I read that she had died from a sudden medical problem at age 55. I was shattered. A bright light in the world was extinguished.

I still love her. I will always love her and will never forget her. I still think about her all the time even though we could not have spent the rest of our lives together. I'm just grateful to her and for the short time we had together.

None of that detracts from how much I love my wonderful wife. We've been married now for almost 26 years, have had so much fun and built a wonderful life together.

I don't feel exhausted thinking of Petra. I some heart ache but mostly gratitude for the memories of that peak moment in my life.

[Friendlybro79]

I don't let anyone take that much happiness and energy away from myself. You are struggling big time with this and it's understandable to a degree. Most of your posts revolve around your ex. Therapy is a great way to help you move on. I would highly encourage therapy to most people. It has helped me in the past when I didn't think it would.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I think I need to stop answering his mom, that’s what is going to help me.

She messages me non stop.

[Friendlybro79]

I agree. It's mentally affecting you and beyond not responding it would be understandable if you tell her please stop communicating with me. I'm moving on from this.

[RoseySarah]

Really block her! Get her out of your life!

So true our love for our exes made them special when they are trash!

Get some space and take time you have been through trama do some self care 💅😘

[Paris13]

You have Obviously Moved on. Tell Mom to NOT Tell you Anything Anymore. Keep Him Blocked if Need be. xxoo

[Paris13]

Thanks to Gag. xxoo

[jshm2]

Don't be daft, I speak, hang out, and even do business with most of my ex's.

The problem people like you have is that you suffer main character syndrome. You are exhausting and an emotional vampire, hence attract those type of people.

You do not understand that people are their own little worlds and you don't need them to fully be a part of yours or vice versa You can get together and maybe even have a date or two. You're too much of a control freak

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

What makes you think I am a control freak?

[Andres77]

The reason why you have an ex and why I have three are very different. For me I’m just relieved…even to be alone.

[Charliefretz329]

Definitely, exhaustion is real totally agree with you

[NathanDavis]

I just don't think of them like that

[Nikki1989]

No, out of sight, out of mind.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Nope

[Sparkie460]

No. Not at all

[Hardworkingguy]

Not anymore.