After 3 years, we decided to take a break. Work on ourselves to be better. The past 4 months we have remained really good friends and in a much better spot to date. Then suddenly he started pulling away. Leaving me on delivered and what not. But when I call, he answers... every time. Some times he seems pissy, but other times, we have great conversations.
If there was someone else, why wouldn't he just tell?
So, you are supposed to be taking a break... but you are still texting and calling... so what was the point of the break? I took two breaks with two different women in my life time, and I fucked other women both times I was on that break. And no it was not cheating, because if she really wanted to be with me, there would be no need for a break.
I have never just took a break since the age of 24. Like when women say let's take a break, I can respect that, I hope you have a good life take care.
Now back when I did entertain this type of bullshit, we took breaks, I fucked other women... because in those day I was pretty damn handsome, and women were falling out of trees it seemed like. And in both cases I ended up getting back to together later with them, and it never was the same and it never worked out and it was never worth my time.
So there you go, that is my story, and I am a pretty average guy... so, you have to decide for yourself what he thinks, because you know him better than I do.
I think the best option for you would be to start doing no contact. Remember, if he wanted he would. It seems as if he’s wasting your time by being hot and cold, and that’s actually something that you clearly don’t need. Men have their ways and like to keep their options open, so that might be the reason why he’s not telling you that he has someone else by his side in case she leaves him. I know that you miss him and that you want him back, but if you keep on doing this and waiting for something to happen out of the blue you’re actually not going anywhere. Doing no-contact has a lot of benefits, you get the time to be better for yourself, you also might think about keeping your options open. If during no contact he realises how much he needs you in his life, he’ll come back. People can’t see your value if you’re there all the time and if they don’t have time to miss you. He might realise what he is about to lose if he keeps on being this way. In case he has someone by his side he will actually have to think about if you are really what he needs. You will know. You don’t deserve to be waiting on someone who is not worthy of you and to waste your time like that when you can be out there and focus on something that’ll bring you joy and for sure you’ll get to meet someone who will see your value and respect your time and efforts.
u I'm not sure it is guaranteed that there is another person involved. It could just be that he is going through something or mad that you aren't together. You mention he seems pissy sometimes when he answers you calls. I am curious about the context of the conversation when you do talk to him and he acts like that. It might be telling about why he is ignoring you. The problem with breaks is that while you are probably doing the right thing working on yourselves it doesn't mean that even though one person agreed to the break that they really want it.
It’s my opinion but I could be wrong… there’s another girl.
Texts are easily ignored when you receive them when you are with someone else, calls are not so easy. When he is alone you can have great conversations. When he is with her he is pissy that way when he gets off the phone he can claim you are always bothering him and that what she would have heard in his voice. Not answering a ringing phone is like you are hiding something.
Why doesn’t he just tell you? Men like to keep options open.
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I think you answered your own question with your question. He's likely seeing someone and he's not willing to tell you about it until he knows she's a keeper.
In answer to your questions above: He may be one of those guys that needs someone in his back pocket before he says something to you that would make you walk away. Wants to avoid being alone.
I think the only way to know is actually to ask him. And wouldn't that be the best for you know so you can decide on what to do?
So ask him, and firstly, be clear on what you want and ask him if he wants the same and then set standards for him to be in your life. So start with yourself.
You're missing a key facet to this. He is YOUR EX.
That means he is NOT obligated to you. He does NOT have to be loyal to you. He is NOT at your beck and call.
Do yourself a favor and MOVE ON. Which is exactly what he is trying to do from the sounds of it but you refuse to back off.
Y'all are exes and you're supposed to be on break; that's why. I get what you mean about why wouldn't he just say that he's seeing someone else, but on the other side of the coin; WHY WOULD he? What benefit is there to him telling you that?
Does anyone even know what the term 'ex' means? You can pretend all you want, but you never broke up.
"work on ourselves" 😂 😂 😂 cliche
He’s your ex he doesn’t have to answer to you at all. Why are you calling a ex that aren’t answering your text? More importantly when you called him why didn’t you ask?
New girl? (Sorry.) He's probly acting pissy cus he feels guilty.
maybe just leave him alone... he probably feels guilty if he doesn't answer the call. but texts don't have to be answered right away because they're just text messages, quick messages
You should not be having contact with your ex.
He's an ex for reason (s) right? So why are you wasting time on him?
Why do you care?
Time to move on and up that body count. :)
Stop interacting with your ex
why do you care
He's your ex
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