Does having a rebound mean that you did not care about your ex or that you cared too much for them?

[RoseySarah]

Cared to much

Never cared enough

[kareenakapur]

I do this. I think it means a lot of things for different people as everyone else has already said too. my first ex I was selfish. I emotionally cheated on him. Didn't tell him. My "rebound" was that guy I cheated on him with. That was the "never cared enough." The rest of my rebounds after breakups were just to fill the hole. Make myself feel worthy loved. And it wasn't that I didn't care. I just knew those guys were never going to come back into my life or if they did, then it would just be to see me naked, not for something real. I cared and loved them truly. I'm still sad by my last breakup lol can you tell. He's all I think about it all I care about. But I'm talking to other guys. I've always talked to someone. It's unhealthy. Never learned to live alone. One of my exes was like me too lol I was their rebound and they hurt me a lot because of it. They couldn't learn how to be alone too. I didn't understand him at the time. It's crazy how now I understand him, facing the same problem.

[RoseySarah]

Thanks for being honest!

[RoseySarah]

a lot of the time I think it is cause we put our own self care of and after we are free we just want that need!

[DaisyM23]

it can be both depending on your own personality and what gets you over someone - my friend broke up with her boyfriend a few months ago, they're back together now but he had rebound sex during the break-up yet they're probably one of the strongest couples i know

[RoseySarah]

Aw that is great they are together so strong!
Some couples get together and fix things most jus toeeo the broken and ignore it

[zeitgeist057]

It doesn't mean either one. The things that happen after don't have anything to do with the previous relationship. Or at least not if you're healthy. You just move on and live your life. That doesn't mean you didn't care, or that you cared too much. It just means you don't dwell on something that has no future.

Although, that's just my personal answer. Depending on the person, they could go either way, or neither way. Some people are obsessed with their exes and go try to bang other people to distract themselves. Other people didn't really care and are glad to get their ex out of their life so they can get on with banging someone they've had their eye on.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

It depends on the individual. Sometimes an individual will go for a rebound if their break up was challenging, or if they want to "pay back" the person who left them. Your two options can be perceived from different angles. The "not cared enough" could be referring to the self worth of the individual (not the ex). Self worth plays an important role in getting past break ups.

[RoseySarah]

Yeah maybe next time more options like she was not getting enough attention? Both busy

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

I think it really just depends on who did the breaking up and how long/close they were. Was it a surprise or was it expected. Lots of factors.

[Finchie40]

It means they only cared about themselves , they only did what they thought was best for them , they never loved anyone but themselves

[RoseySarah]

Often times the case

[Finchie40]

Selfishness , pretty much the number 1 relationship killer, Most people in general have selfishness in them , if someone doesn’t know how to remove selfishness when entering into a relationship with someone , that relationship will more than likely fail. For a relationship to last , both partners have to make each other their number 1 priority over everyone else , Wear each other’s shoes before making decisions , resist temptations for each other , without any of that, that relationship will more Than likely not make it. Why so many relationships do not make it

[Paris13]

Perhaps Too Much When Looking Perhaps Someone Like Them... REbound Robert. xxoo

[RoseySarah]

Is that a movie?

[Paris13]

lol It Can Be. xxoo

[Curmudgeon]

Honestly? Cared too much, although that is counterintuitive. Why? Because the breakup hurts so much that s/he is trying to lose him/herself in a new relationship. Or maybe s/he never really cared. But never forget the Rule Of Perverse Incentives.

[Flower7]

I believe it means that the person already was building things with the rebound before breaking up with the ex. Therefore, they couldn’t have cared about the ex very much.

[RoseySarah]

a lot of times I see that happen but not always

[Anonymous]

Doesn't necessarily mean either. It could just mean your pride has been wounded. I had a ladyfriend whose husband walked out on her and it f***ed her up for over a and a half. She still ain't right if you ask me. But she had two rebounds since because she's trying to fill a hole.

[RoseySarah]

Some do just need a hole filled did she remarry

[Opinion Owner]

Not yet. She moved across country. Away from her family and everything she knows. As though starting a whole new life will make the pain go away. But you can't talk any sense into her. There is something broken in her brain from this I think.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Cared about them too much.

[MikeTheBartender]

I think it means you care too much that you have that need to go into battle immediately, unless of course you were deprived of sex then the rebound isn't even rebound it's a necessary survival tool.

[molonski2]

I dont think it means either , I think that's simply what happened at that time , it needed to happen.

[Nikki1989]

There is no such thing as a rebound. That is a term invented by someone that was obviously butt hurt that their ex has moved on.

[RoseySarah]

Or that moved back in with Thier ex!

[love_conquers_lust]

Never had one. I don’t know if one can care too much. One can dwell too long or too hard to where it interferes with your daily life. Carry on and time heals all wounds

[Twalli]

If (s) he's picked as a rebound, then by the time you broke up they didn't care. If they turn out to be a rebound, but that wasn't the plan, then it probably means they were looking for something that you te had with a new person.

[Fireguy17]

It means you have moved on. It's part of the healing process.

[Drumlin2001]

Has nothing to do with ex. It's a defence mechanism to try to avoid dealing with how you really feel

[msc545]

It means your ex made you miserable in the end.

[RoseySarah]

Well a lot do but not all rebound

[Anonymous]

I don’t think that has anything to do with it. It just means that you can’t be alone.

[jshm2]

Neither. It's just a phase.

[LiamJHayden]

I think those are more about self-care.

[RoseySarah]

Why is that

[Lokiion]

Neither or

[strateguy632]

..1th

[Anonymous]

Neither.