Me and my ex were together for 3 years. We also work together which is now very unfortunate lol. This has been the longest relationship both of us have ever had. I am 24, he is 30.
We broke up because he is moving to another country in the next few years and I told him I just can’t leave my family and obviously continuing this would be a waste of both of our time. Also because of his background, his parents are extremely strict and are very unaccepting of people that don’t fit the career that they want them to have and threaten to disown him if he doesn’t do what he says. He lets his parents control his life.
Despite all this , we broke up 3 months ago but nothings really changed. We talked on the phone every night. Some nights either of us would bring up how we missed being together. But this would be a huge waste of time to continue. We also were intimate a few times after the break up as well.
Yesterday however, I told him I just can’t do this anymore and he asked what he can do to make sure I can heal and move on. He told me he still has feelings for me but he tries to suppress them because he knows we cannot go back to that place and that a part of him still loves me. We agreed to stop the phone calls as of yesterday because it brings back too many emotions and makes us argue at work.
How do I let him go? All I keep thinking of is if he was staying here we could’ve made this work. I am so use to our phone calls but I know I made the right decision of telling him to back off.
We broke up because he is moving to another country in the next few years and I told him I just can’t leave my family and obviously continuing this would be a waste of both of our time. Also because of his background, his parents are extremely strict and are very unaccepting of people that don’t fit the career that they want them to have and threaten to disown him if he doesn’t do what he says. He lets his parents control his life.
Despite all this , we broke up 3 months ago but nothings really changed. We talked on the phone every night. Some nights either of us would bring up how we missed being together. But this would be a huge waste of time to continue. We also were intimate a few times after the break up as well.
Yesterday however, I told him I just can’t do this anymore and he asked what he can do to make sure I can heal and move on. He told me he still has feelings for me but he tries to suppress them because he knows we cannot go back to that place and that a part of him still loves me. We agreed to stop the phone calls as of yesterday because it brings back too many emotions and makes us argue at work.
How do I let him go? All I keep thinking of is if he was staying here we could’ve made this work. I am so use to our phone calls but I know I made the right decision of telling him to back off.
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**and yes my age is not accurate , I am 24
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