I told my husband that I wanted divorce to test him, he accepted. I don't want to be divorced. What can I do?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Not my question obviously, just one I found on Quora that piqued my interest. https://www.quora.com/I-told-my-husband-that-I-want-to-divorce-to-test-him-if-he-still-loves-me-but-he-accepted-and-left-the-house-I-dont-want-to-be-divorced-What-can-I-do

I don't even know if those questions and articles are even real at this point, but given how many people take relationships nowadays... that said, I agree with many commenters that say that this person deserves everything coming to her - play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

My wife and I have two things we agreed to never prank each other on - our children getting hurt or worse; asking a divorce for "joking".

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To be honest, not too long ago I unintentionally gave my wife a "divorce scare". I was researching divorce laws because a friend of mine and my sister are going through separation/divorce, and did so on our kitchen laptop.

So when my wife jumped on for recipes, she found out my researching. She didn't panic, but that evening she was a bit weird and eventually asked me about it, also asking if I was fine and if she had to get worried, and any problem I had, I could talk with her and look for

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a solution together.
It took a moment for me to realize she was worried I was considering divorcing her, and I immediately reassured her everything was fine and the reason I was researching divorce.

It was then she confessed the thought of me divorcing her out of the blue terrifies her, and that's why I will never joke about it, not even on April's Fools.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. There are some issues which should never be the subject of a misrepresentation for the purpose of a "joke" or any other reason. Marital infidelity, the death or injury of a loved one, a woman having been raped, and a few others. . . what's funny about telling someone their sister has been in a horrible car accident?

2. Having a spouse or significant other "test" me would push me beyond the limits of what I would be willing to tolerate in a relationship. If she needs to test me to determine whether I love her, whether I am faithful, etc., she should ask me directly. If she tests me, I know now what the outcome will be: she loses.

[AMS700CX4u2]

About 5 years into our marriage my wife came home after work and told me that she was scared. I asked her why. She said she was starting to have feelings for a young man at work. I did not explode. I told her the cage door was always open for both of us. " I am here because I want to be and I hope you are too". I think too many people put the legal side of marriage first. My father was a land surveyor and many of his surveying crew were in common law marriages. They loved their families, raised their kids, send them to college, retired and died with their relationships still intact. Point. If the relationship has soured it its time to end it. My wife did not threaten me, she brought her fears to me. It was then that we understood the strength of our bond. Married people do become infatuated with others, but it usually fades. We have been married 52 years. She is still my best friend.

[IslaTheWitch]

People think they can say everything, and others will understand it similarly. But it doesn't work this way... We all have our filters, and if something is a joke for me, it could be a deadly serious thing for another person.

It's just stupid... If you care about something you don't jeopardise it...

[HelpfulWoman]

this is called "play dumb games, win stupid prizes"
the dude is better off without the dead weight of a dumbass who "tests" their partner

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

It’s foolish to test people like this…

[sheikalana]

That was the stupidest thing ever. Playing games like you’re a child. And now you’re mad because You got what you asked for. You made your bed now lay in it. It will be very hard to avoid it now.

[KrakenAttackin]

She is trying to manipulate him by dropping a big bomb. This chick deserves to lose her good man.

Of course she will walk away with cash and prizes.

[slatyb]

Eat lots of garlic and onions.

A non-answer to a non-question.

[Jamie05rhs]

She f'ed around, and she found out.

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm glad you guys were able to have that conversation and clear everything up. That could have gone horribly wrong.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

She knew better than jump right to conclusions, and I think that in most cases it's best to communicate directly when there are doubts about something.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Sun_Kim-Ai She did well. You both did well in that circumstance.

[LazerBean]

Many people simply were not meant for marriage.

[DryGermanGuy]

You can’t fix stupid!!! 🤯

[Kelly6]

In this case I respect that husband ,

[jimmy2]

Should not have tested him