I have a 28yrd old cousin and legally she got divorced last November but she was alreayd separated from her ex for about 9 mos or so. They did not have kids and they were married for like 2 years and a half. I dont know if my cousin now hates being single or if she is really enjoying it but it is hard to tell for the post she publish on social media. She had became a little addicted to post selfies here and selfies there and what they do in her life every single day. I dont know if she needs to feel validated by the LIKES of the public or what is going on. Me and other relatives had came to that conclusion beause we have this cousin as part of our contacts in our respective social media apps.
She got divorced in November and at the end of the year, she spent New Years eve with some female friends and a guy at the beach. For the selfies and posts she made on social media, it seems she was liking this guy she went to the beach with as her photos with the dude, she seems happy or enjoying time ith him at the beach and the guy seem he liked her too but also my cousin put yellow heart emojis on her photos so I assume and said to myself "Ohh well she is dating already so fast after her divorce in November". But it seems that casual dating ended before it already began, beause she stopped posting things or photos about him with her her maybe 2 weeks after she returned from the beach.
Then maybe like 2 months ago, she posted like a meme or some innuendo about finding a boyfriend based on a message her mom comment on social media but now she had became a little addicted to selfies. Selfies here and there (the ones on the mirror), of what she look like in the morning, mirror selfies on the gym, photos of how beautiful are the mountains or the sky, or whatever, She post photos when lets say driving and take a photo of the road with lots of cars cause she is stuck in the car.
Now since last week she had been working remotely from the beach and this time she took
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It does seem like your cousin might be going through some stuff after her divorce and could benefit from counseling. A few years is usually still early days after a marriage ends.
A couple things stand out - the constant social media posting does come off as seeking validation, like she needs that external approval and attention now. Which is super common after a big life change. And jumping right into casual dating so quickly after the split also hints she may not have fully processed her emotions and feelings from the divorce yet.
Counseling could really help her unpack all that, get some clarity and closure, and start to feel more secure on her own again. Sometimes just talking things out with a professional can do wonders. It's also great she has family like you looking out for her - having a support system makes a big difference too.
If I were you, I'd reach out gently and let her know you're noticing she seems a bit all over the place still and that counseling really helped you deal with past issues. Make it clear you just want her to be happy and there's no judgment involved. Hopefully she'll open up and consider trying a few sessions. Her wellbeing is what matters most here!
It sounds like she is trying to move on, find her bearings, and discover who she is again, now that she is divorced. It's her journey. I hope she finds happiness.
Yes she needs it