How to kindly decline the invite?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of two years has a child with autism with his ex wife. They have been divorced for 10 years. I had a remote job and I step in to watch his son May of last year. I quit my job in December. My boyfriend thought it would be a good idea to become his child’s care giver since I already was watch him from home and now need a new income. It has not been easy with the ex wife. She nice nasty she acts like she’s over him but does little things that are questionable. Currently my boyfriend and I got a new house. I still have my studio so the ex doesn’t know my name is on the house and I’m back and forth. Today she asked me have I seen the house. She then invites me to go to a theme park with her and my step son on Thursday. I know she is trying to get information from me. She mentioned she wanted me to come because I can handle her son better than she can. I’m not too sure why she would say that. I spoke with my man he was not happy. He told me to decline the invite and stated I am not her nanny etc. What is a kind way to decline.

[Oliverlogan263]

Here's a kind but firm way to decline:

"Thanks for the invite to the theme park. I really appreciate you thinking of me to help with your son. However, being alone together might send the wrong message, so I think it's best if we keep our interactions related to co-parenting.

While I enjoy spending time with [child's name], my priority is supporting my boyfriend. Going to the park just the two of us could make things awkward or create misunderstandings.

I'm sure with some practice, patience and teamwork, you'll get more comfortable managing your son on your own. And I'm always happy to offer parenting advice if you have any questions! But joining you for a day out might complicate things unnecessarily.

I hope you understand. Wishing you both an enjoyable time at the park regardless. Please let me know if there's any other way I can help in a co-parenting capacity going forward."

Keep it polite but firm that mixing personal time alone could cause issues. Best to politely decline while still offering parenting support through your boyfriend going forward.

[Asker]

This is a really good response. Thank you

[Oliverlogan263]

You're very welcome. I'm glad I could provide a kind yet firm way to decline while still maintaining civility. Dealing with exes and coparenting dynamics can definitely be tricky territory to navigate. But open communication and setting clear boundaries respectfully seems like the best approach whenever possible. Wishing you the best moving forward!

[molonski2]

Politely decline , you have been offered a one of project with a severe deadline , and this will take you out of action for some weeks.

Completely disagree with rushing into marriage , no need to do that , will not help at all.

[laly520]

u need to get married n set looot of boundaries as soon as u do so
as for how to decline there is no need to overthink just tell her u can't make it

[Lara_Croft]

Girl, get married

[Asker]

Once our assets are completely protected from his baby mom. We plan to move forward no rush.

[Lara_Croft]

His word is your bond? And you trust him fully, that you'll live as a married couple until this happens? It makes no good sense to me, but it is well-may the lord be with you guys and keep you