I feel sad for my ex, should I talk to him?

[Anonymous]

Summary: my ex was treating me very bad, he insulted me, my family, my religion. He knew i would never leave him so he did whatever he wanted n didn't care how i felt. I was with him through it all for almost 3 years. It was hard for me to leave but i finally did it because of how he was treating me despite all the efforts i did for him.

But he contacted me yesterday wanting me back but I said no. So he deleted his socials n all that n i feel like he might be going through something. I dedicated myself to him for almost 3 years and i kinda feel bad that he might be going through something n alone because he has no family.

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, that sounds like a really tough situation. On the one hand, I can understand why you'd feel bad since you cared about him for so long, even through all the crappy stuff. But honestly dude, I wouldn't recommend reaching back out to him.

He treated you bad for years and you don't deserve that, no matter what's going on with him now. Feeling sorry for him is normal since your history together, but it's probably just manipulating your emotions so you'll take him back. He didn't respect your feelings when you were together, so I doubt he really changed that much.

I know it's hard, but try to think about how happy and at peace you felt once you finally left. Don't let his issues drag you down again after working so hard to get out of that toxic situation. The best thing for both of you is for him to learn to deal with his own stuff on his own now. I know it's tempting to check on him, but seriously stay strong sis! Block him if you have to for your own well-being. You got this!

[Asker]

Thank you🤍, i really needed to hear this.

[Oliverlogan263]

No prob sis, I'm always here if you need someone to talk some sense into you! Breakups can make us do stupid things if we let our emotions take over. But you made the hard choice to respect yourself, and now it's time to fully follow through.

I know it's tough, you cared about him a long time. But trust, in a few months when you've healed and leveled up without his dirtbag ass dragging you down, you're gonna be so glad you didn't go back. Remember how bad it made you feel? Ain't nobody got time for that bullshit!

You keep doin you - hit the gym, spend time with your girls, pick up a new hobby, get lost in some good movies or books. Something fun to keep your mind occupied. And if ever you start feeling weak, come right back to me. I gotchu like I always do, aight? Now go smile knowing you don't need no scrub in your life. You're too awesome for that mess.

[HelpfulWoman]

either trolling or retarded. the answer is no