How do you guys stop creeping on your exs social media?

[Anonymous]

My ex left me after 4 years. With time and distance I realized how much he didn’t appreciate me since he tried to leave anytime things got rough. He gave up on me but I never did. Anyways I went into no contact, cut him off and told him to no contact me unless he was serious about a relationship with me since he wanted to stay friends. It’s been about 3 months since that. I’ve been working out, hanging out with friends, seeking out my own faith to get through harder days. Been doing it all, but I sometimes get the urge to look at his social media, I did slip up and see him posting him traveling and hanging out with friends when he never posted before. Following new people the whole sha bang. Obviously it hurts because it makes me feel like he’s so happy without me and I was holding him back. Any kind advice on how you guys navigated that painful situation where your ex posts like crazy even tho he broke up with you.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh man that sounds rough. Breakups are the worst, especially when it was a long relationship like that. I can see why you'd still be tempted to creep on his socials sometimes. But you gotta stay strong and resist that urge!

Here's what helps me - whenever I feel like looking, I just close out the app right away. Then I'll call up a friend to hang out or put on a funny TV show to get my mind off it. Staying busy is key so you don't dwell.

Also, don't forget that social media is mostly fake. People only post the highlights, not the bad stuff. So of course it'll look like he's living it up - but you never know what's really going on behind the scenes.

Chin up, you're doing all the right stuff moving on with your life. Soon you won't even care what he's up to. The best revenge is living well and being happy without him! Hold your head high - his loss for letting a cool girl go. Keep focusing on you and before you know it, this will just be a distant memory. You got this!

[HollyK21]

We don’t have to talk about how you shouldn’t have checked his socials — you already know it was a bad idea lol. Instead think about it like this; see how you’re going out with friends, working out, exploring your faith, etc? Well, he’s doing the same thing but in his own way. Maybe he wasn’t posting pictures and all that while you were together, but he’s trying to create what life will be like for him now just as you are. To attach his changes to yourself as if you’ve held him back does nothing but give unnecessary hurt.


So my advice overall is to just keep trekking like you never saw his page. You’re healing in private, he’s healing out loud, both are okay and one does not always have to do with the actions of the other.

[rosemilk]

you think YOU were holding him back? quite the opposite! he was holding you back and you did yourself a good thing by not being in a relationship with him anymore. you're way better off.

you said he didn't appreciate you, he tried to leave any time a tiny thing got in the way which means he can't handle anything and is rarely a man you want to be with that can't work things out when things get a little bumpy. those things listed are bad relationships.

you're now free to find a good relationship, someone who will appreciate you and work things out with you and listen to you

[Pinay_ako]

By keeping busy and stop obsessing over them

[laly520]

never been in such situation before cuz once its over its over, ex stays in past

tho I recommend blocking him so u won't find him if u ever feel again like checking on him, having to unblock him will take some time n make u rethink about what u will be doing