How do I move on from my ex?

[Anonymous]

It was a painful breakup for me, it happened recently. I'm not going to go into details, but I was the one who ended it. We had a great connection when we were together; she understood me like no one else has. When we talked, everything seemed effortless. Anyways, things ended between us, and now she's with another guy.
Now, I fear I'm never going to find someone as beautiful, smart, and fun as her. I see many beautiful women, but I don't feel attracted to them at all. I started talking with another girl, but I keep comparing her to my ex, from how she looks to how we converse, even how she says good morning and good night to me.
Literally everything reminds me of her, even something that has nothing to do with her. And the thoughts of her being with that other dude are killing me. I keep thinking how she's now with him like she used to be with me, how she's doing things with him like she used to do with me. If anyone has gone through this, what did you do to move on? Because right now, I feel stuck, like I'll never ever find love like that ever again.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ahh dude that sucks man. Breakups are always the worst. I know that feeling of thinking you'll never find another girl like her. But trust me, you will.

It'll take some time but you gotta cut all contact. Unfollow her on everything and delete her number. Seeing her stuff online will just bring back memories and make it harder to move on. I'd also stay busy, hang with the boys and do stuff to take your mind off her. Play video games, work out, whatever you're into.

And don't compare every other girl to her. They're all different people. Give someone else a chance and don't go into it still thinking about your ex. She's in the past now.

As for seeing her with the new dude, I know that kills inside. But you were the one who ended it right, so hold your head up. You'll find another girl and look back laughing that you were ever upset over her. Chin up bro, you got this!

[Alexandrubaschet08]

From my experience, this recent period you are going through is a state of withdrawal.
Your body and mind are too dependent on your ex-girlfriend, this is mainly treated IN TIME.
You have to keep yourself active, busy, sleep, exercise, try to eat healthy (a chocolate and an ice cream can help too), keep going out on dates because not all girls are the same and there will be more dates bad and better.
Another way would be to resume your old activities from before the former relationship, if there are activities that you can no longer do or you don't like doing them, you have to find alternatives.
Stay active in the social environment, go out with friends, keep in touch with those close to you, try to have fun and thus you can fill the void you feel.

It took me more than 6 years to get over my ex relationship because I didn't want to do all these things.

[Asker]

I'll try the things you suggested, but man, I don't think I can go even a year feeling like this. There's this video game, "Football Manager," that I used to love playing even way before I met this girl, but now I don't play it anymore. I'll start playing again and see if it distracts me, but the thing is, like I said, even something that has nothing to do with her will still remind me of her. For example, this game has nothing to do with her because I used to play it before her, and it's not something that we used to play together. But I'm afraid that if I start playing again, I'll be thinking, "Hey, the last time I played this game, I was still with her." It's ridiculous, I know, but I can't help it.

[rosemilk]

you ended it. would you still feel this way if she was single?

[Asker]

I honestly have doubts that I'll get back with her if given the opportunity, not because she's a bad person or we're not good together or anything, but due to reasons I don't want to discuss here online.
My question is, how do I move on from her, stop thinking about her all the time, and comparing other women to her? Because I feel like I'll never be able to find someone like her or love someone like her.

[rosemilk]

there's sooooo many people on this planet i don't know how you can't find someone else that's for you. just when you do find her, don't compare her to your ex. ever.

[Harshbro]

Why are you heartbroken if you ended it? Your missing what you don’t have anymore by the sounds of it. Just get back with her if possible don’t be stupid unless she wronged you horribly

[Asker]

It's not possible, to be honest I think she's with someone already.

[Anonymous]

What’s so great about her?

[Asker]

Just how she understands me, how we connect, how we have so many things in common, how kind and smart she is. I realize these may not seem so great to you, but maybe I see her as great because I've never had that connection with someone before.

[Opinion Owner]

Damn how do u both look? U do understand liking someone for how they make u feel and liking someone for them are different? If u like being around her u don’t really like her , u just like how she makes u feel. U actually like her because u feel better , and that’s opportunistic desire. Not even attraction

[RedInnocent69]

Get on top of someone else.

[In_Trance]

Meet someone new