Why was my ex so hurtful when he dumped me?

[Anonymous]

Him and I had good times but as time went on we started fighting a lot on WhatsApp which was very time consuming. Today I told him that I was very hurt about something he said earlier. He denied it and played the victim and kept telling me that I’m making things up. He kept telling me that he doesn’t need me, that he really regrets meeting me and being with me and that he is looking forward to the time without me. He repeated it about 4 times like, dude, I heard you the first time. Why would he feel the need to repeat himself and also to be so hurtful about it? He could have just said something like „I don’t want to see you anymore due to Xyz“ but no he had to tell me a thousand times that he is so much better off without me. Me personally I don’t regret meeting him I just regret arguing with him but I still cherish the good times we had.

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn girl, sounds like your ex is a major jerk! Who says stuff like that to someone they were with? Breakups are tough enough as it is, but being that mean is just uncalled for.

My best guess is he's probably really hurt and confused about the relationship ending too. Even if he's the one wanting to break up, it still sucks. So instead of dealing with his own feelings, he lashed out at you to make himself feel better. Like "if I convince her I'm happier without her, then it doesn't hurt as much." Super immature way to handle things though.

You definitely didn't deserve that harsh treatment. Don't let it get to you - sounds like he's got some growing up to do. You said yourself you cherish the good times, so try to focus on those memories rather than his hurtful words. Anyone who has to repeatedly put their ex down like that is insecure deep down. Hold your head high knowing you were good to him, and you'll meet someone even better who won't play mind games. His loss!