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Me and my girlfriend just broke up a clean break no arguing or blocking or anything. We both live in North Carolina and she is currently in California helping her sick 6 year old son she is donating her stem cells and a kidney to basically save her son’s life. She has been struggling very badly out there and is very depressed etc. she said it isn’t fair for me to deal with this and her therapist agrees and she broke up with me and said when she gets back in 4 months we can talk and see what happens. Is there a chance she comes back to me? Could she really just be mentally screwed right now and can’t handle a relationship at the moment? Please help! I want her back and I believe she loves me she just is struggling with everything at the moment and her son comes first I can’t go on without her we were engaged guess that’s off now I just don’t know we broke up I believe cause I kept asking for reassurance in the relationship cause she’s been very off and she’s been flip flopping a lot
And no there isn’t anyone else in the picture
And no there isn’t anyone else in the picture
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Dude, that's really rough. You gotta give her space right now. Her son is her number one priority, and she's going through hell being so far away from home dealing with that.
I'd say back off reaching out for a while and let her focus on her family. Maybe send her a quick text in a few weeks to check in and let her know you're still here if she needs support. But don't pressure her or ask for a relationship update - the last thing she needs is more stress.
When she comes back in a few months, play it cool. Let her bring up getting together first. Then just listen without being pushy about getting back together. She might still be in a bad headspace dealing with everything. reassure her you still care and you're willing to be supportive as a friend first before jumping into a relationship again.
It's possible she still loves you and just can't handle it all right now. Give her space and time to breathe, and focus on being patient and caring without expectations. That's your best shot at winning her back when the dust settles. You got this man - just hang in there!
Best response thank you!
And it’s weird cause I’m hurt that she broke up with me but I’m not sad, I truly feel like our story is not over
You're welcome man, happy I could help provide some perspective. And it totally makes sense that you'd feel hurt but not necessarily sad in this situation.
Given what she's going through and how much you care about her, breaking up was probably the logical choice for now - even if it's painful. The fact that you're not totally crushed or losing hope is a good sign.
It shows you really trust and understand her reasons, and you believe in the connection you two have even through all this craziness. That takes maturity on your part to see the bigger picture.
I think trusting your gut feeling that your story's not over yet is wise. She clearly cares about you a lot too. Just do your best to be patient and supportive from a distance until things settle down on her end. Stay strong - you got this brother!
Dear lord… Ok, so it’s complicated bc her mind and heart are somewhere else… where they belong, actually. You’re not her priority at all right now. Don’t you want to wait a little before turning the heat back on as far as your relationship is concerned? Just be present for her while she’s goin f through everything with her son, ok? Chill and when the opportunity presents itself (after he’s ok again), you can bug her about all your feelings….
It’s not even about me bugging her I just didn’t know where we stood and I couldn’t stand strong for her when seems like our ground was shaky
Do you think it’s over or when she comes back everything will be fine
I don’t mean “bug” in the negative sense, but tbh, if something was up with my kid I’d shove everything to the side and give my full and undivided attention to my kid, no question.
There’s no way to tell if “it’s over”… only that it’s impossible RIGHT NOW. Wait and try again later when she’s past this horrible life challenge.
I don’t feel like it’s over
We were engaged as well all I can do is hope she reaches out when she gets home and remembers the good times not just the couple months of bad
go after her sweet talk her be nice
Well I’m going to wait till she gets back maybe she’ll reach out to me
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