Why would an ex go out of their way to talk badly about you months later when they’re seeing someone new?

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Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Ugh girl that's so messed up of your ex to be out here talking bad about you months later when they're dating someone new now! It seems super sketchy and like they're probably just trying to make themselves look better to their new person by putting you down.

Some people are just insecure and feel like they need to trash their exes to make their current relationship seem better. Talking bad about you probably makes your ex feel better about themselves for some reason. They might be trying to convince their new girl that you were the problem and they're so much happier now.

I'd honestly just feel bad for their new girl if I were you - no one wants to date someone who's still stuck in the past and dragging their ex. Seems like maybe your ex still isn't fully over things either if they're bringing it up this long after.

Try not to let it get to you - you probably dodged a bullet not being with someone so immature! Hold your head high knowing you're better off. Anyone talking trash about an ex usually says more about them than the other person. Just stay doing you and be the bigger person - don't waste your time feeling bad about what some hater says!

Lowly_Grump · Accepted Answer

Your ex is as sour as week-old milk and about as pleasant as a porcupine in a pair of pantyhose. He is like a sad, lonely testicle, swinging desperately in the wind, trying to find a new scrotum to call home (that's the home of the new partner, just to be crystal clear). But, like a sad, solitary ball, it's all talk and no game. So, instead of admitting that they're just a sad, deflated bag of hot air, this sad, little windbag starts blowing bad vibes your way. Like a little fart in a windstorm, all noise and no substance. They're trying to mask their own stench of insecurity by wafting some putrid perfume your way, the majestic pleasant breeze that you are.

kylee2437 · Accepted Answer

This heavily depends on what is being said - sharing experiences about what he may have went through with you is not talking badly, however him name calling and calling you crazy is talking badly.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

To justify leaving you… to make themselves look better bc they have zero self esteem… and a bunch of reasons along those lines.

Finchie40 · Answer

To play a victim to make themselves look like they are innocent , when really they were more than likely the POS

AviatorTom · Answer

Excellent question. Don't they realize that by doing that, they are actually criticizing themselves in front of their new someone? Why should they have been with you if you were so bad?

HawkPerception · Answer

If you know what they're saying about you behind your back, you're not distancing yourself enough from them, because how would you what they're otherwise?

Exes might say negative things about you to others to help themselves get over you or and focus on the negatives. Or they could just be trying to paint you the villain and themselves the saint. Or they could just be being honest about your behaviour and ranting to friends about it.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

He still do.. 🤭

avery58 · Answer

If they're still bitter they haven't gotten over you, at least not completely. Simple as that.

Anonymous · Answer

Republicans do this. They are like woman who can't let things go. I only mention this as it's always a red neighbor who stirs the pot reporting everyone. Always the red ex. Weird fact.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Ego. They're hurt about the way things ended and are trying to keep controlling the other person now that the relationship is over.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

To justify their reason (s) for the breakup?

ThaMaskedMarvel · Answer

Spitefulness, bitterness, vindictiveness. & there ya go. There's your answer.

Dr_Lovejoy · Answer

Lack of self confidence and filled with insecurities

Anonymous · Answer

Two reasons. They butthurt at the relationship being over or they acted shitty in the relationship and are trashing you to cover it up.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is a desperate attempt to lift their self-esteem.

Alex-Snow · Answer

They need to get over it and move on and perhaps they are jealous of you.

Anonymous · Answer

lol they still like u. Or should I say love. And they hate themselves for how extremely attractive u are

msc545 · Answer

They are clearly still angry at you obviously...

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Probably just has a hate boner for you.

exitseven · Answer

She really holds a grudge.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

They’re immature

Why would an ex go out of their way to talk badly about you months later when they’re seeing someone new?

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