If an Ex Decides to Contact You, What's Up with the Cold Hearted Attitude?

[Paris13]

***On and OFF too. xxoo

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

Depends on the ex, how we broke up and importantly why we both decided to do so: Most of my exes i am still friends with or at least got socials for, although deleted casual phone numbers and photos as they’re still sweet & attractive women and memories are hard to oppress when feelings are coming up from pictures or hearing a ex partner (s) voice in a personal conversation. I’ve had around 5 girlfriends who behaved manipulative for quite some time but i never noticed as i fell hard and who used my more sensitive-emotional moments with her for use in arguments and to tell people in private. You can bet your ass i’ve decided to bring that scum out of my life and that i never want to see, hear or think about them. If i had a way to undo me meeting them whatsoever i would’ve done it.

[Paris13]

Wow, Hard Heart Ed at 21. lolxx

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

@Paris13 Don’t got a hard heart Paris, am just realistic. Exes are exes for a reason and some really should stay that way forever, these were 5 girlfriends which were the exception for me and not the rule. Most lasted merely 2 months with me because my initial “hot crazy” radar didn’t detect them because it simply felt great, but once i found out i tried to dump them as fast and hard as i could. Most of the women i’ve romanced with were sweet sensitive and loyal people, some people are simply very manipulative and in this case crazy good in certain ways which turn them into addictions and not true-love material. 🤠

[OlderAndWiser]

Here is the better question, Paris: If an ex decides to contact you, why do you answer the phone or respond to ther text, mail, etc? Have you already forgotten why you broke up?

[Paris13]

Um, Because I Said So? xx

[OlderAndWiser]

Are you feeling lonely?

[Paris13]

lol!!! Never. I am Always With People, Friends Or Family. I do MISS HIM THOUGH. lolxxoo

[Paris13]

@OlderAndWiser I think He Misses Me too and Did say He still "I DO" (Loves Me) lolxxoo

[OlderAndWiser]

But you are old enough to know that just lovng someone is not enough to make it a good relationship. You were very unhappy at the end of the relationship and if you reconcile, that is most likly what will happen the second time.

[Paris13]

I Tend to Agree, Sir. Thank You. xxoo

[OlderAndWiser]

Go out with some frends this weekend. And thanks for MHO!

[Paris13]

lol I Do with My Other EX. lolxxoo

[DizzyDesii]

Deep down, I want to be nice and be like “I’m in a better place now.” But i quickly think about how they fcked me over and how i never fully finished cussing them out the first time around and I’m tempted to start back up 🤣 So yea my exes just shouldn't reach out to me

[DizzyDesii]

99% of the time, i dont end on friendly notes because i want them to know i never wanna see them again. But some have been bold and reached out or had their siblings each out to me. I smirk and play nice until i can't anymore

[Paris13]

AW, MYPOOR EX. lolxx

[Justneedtokno]

Sometimes it may have ended in bad terms or sometimes like myself you don’t really know what to say to that person you’re not together anymore they’re not responsible for you. You’re not responsible for them. It’s just awkward.

[Paris13]

I like This. xxoo

[Justneedtokno]

Well, thank you yeah, it could be a little weird and then sometimes you actually still have feelings for them but you know you can’t go there with them anymore

[Summeroflove]

If I’m cold hearted jr means it’s probably someone who knows better to contact me

[Gent207-2]

That would be an interesting turnoff events
You see cheated, got tossed out of her parents house, six months later, got knocked up amd then married and NOW 3 kids and 8 years later, she wants to hit me up?
The world must be ending
As you can imagine our breakup wasn't mutual and our relationship was unhealthy, albeit amazing sex, but terrible everything else.
I take my share of the blame. I don't think she ever did or will accept her own.

[Paris13]

Takes Two. xx

[Steelcore5280]

Whenever someone and I are not on talking terms, it's because they crossed me and did something that was a breach and betrayal of my trust in them. This includes an ex.

You can expect a hostile response if you try to contact me and you're considered an ex or someone I am not speaking to.

[Paris13]

I was the Dumper. lolxx

[Foreign3r]

Who's cold hearted? The one who contacted you or the one being contacted?

I had one of my exes contact me after more than a year (she broke up with me) telling me she made a mistake, the only thing I told her was "Guess the grass isn't greener on the other side after all" and deleted her number :)

[Paris13]

He gets Cold. lolxx

[msc545]

My ex physically assaulted me and made false accusations about me. I want absolutely nothing to do with her for the rest of my life or hers.

[Paris13]

Ahh, Grudge Bearing. xx

[msc545]

hell yes - she was a total cunt

[molonski2]

Cold hearted? Are you sure about that? , from personal stand point , I never really completely finish things , so I'd contact ex's , I dont think he's cold hearted at all , just wants to see how you are doing , thats fine.

[Paris13]

Aw, Well, His Nature Was Once Like this On Here, dear. lolxx

[RealMarek]

Exes are exes for a reason. For every story you hear of amicable break-ups there are probably at least nine contentious break-ups. Best to leave your ex in the past if keeping him in your life is dragging you down.

[Paris13]

It IS. xx

[MittParekh15]

Nothing I would respond her in a vary navy tone, to make it clear that there is no room for her to come back.

[Paris13]

Makes logical sense. xx

[Nirghata_Vrishaghata]

Ex wife : oh gawd what the heck does she want now.

Ex girlfriend : Must have broken up and feeling horny.

[Paris13]

GULP. lolxx

[OfMiceandMen]

If I had an ex that did that, I would simply say, looks like we're heading down the same path, with the same result.

[Paris13]

Ah, Dead End Road. xx

[FinalFantasyBro]

Huh, if I had an ex and she apparently contacted me I be more weirded out with her keeping my phone number but, I would have immediately gotten rid of the girl's phone number after our big break up.

[Paris13]

Some may Have Hope. xx

[Googlemyahoo]

My last long term ex ended messily now our kids are in the same class. We see each other at school functions but I ignore her but its weird because her parents act all friendly.

[Paris13]

Ah, Those parents. xx

[Jazzy54]

It depends on how the relationship ended. If it was an ugly break up, I’m sure you wouldn’t feel too kindly towards that person.

[Paris13]

Not Too Awful But How I did it. xx

[Sixgunsound]

Once she's an ex it's over there is no reason to contact any longer.

[Paris13]

Strong Minded. xx

[Sixgunsound]

What is there to say after that? It ended with a sufficiently strong reason to cut off the relationship, so what else needs to or even could be said? If it's not over why end it? If it is over why prolong the misery?

[TrillXHippy]

She shouldn’t be contacting me if we’re no longer dating

[Paris13]

Tis Life though. xx

[FunkyMonkee]

Well, if I no longer wanted to have anything to do with her back then, why would I want to, now?

[Paris13]

LOVE? lolxx

[exitseven]

I ha e given up trying to figure out what people are thinking.

[Paris13]

Lovely. xx

[HippieVeganJewslim]

I have no cold-hearted attitute to any exes. In fact, I love them all. 37 to 42 degrees is warm, right?

[Paris13]

lol Lovely. xx

[Legendarylegacy13]

if they all of a sudden call you they probably wanna have sex with you.😇

[Paris13]

No, Not Suddenly On and Off since I Called it Quits and it was LDR. xx

[Legendarylegacy13]

Oh!!

[Paris13]

Nah, He is Asexual. lolxx

[jujus]

Would get a new number and delete all social media that way she wouldn’t contact me

[hafinjun]

My ex hired someone to hack into my emails

[Paris13]

Nice. xx