If an Ex Decides to Contact You, What's Up with the Cold Hearted Attitude?

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***On and OFF too. xxoo

DamianTheSmikkelbeer · Accepted Answer

Depends on the ex, how we broke up and importantly why we both decided to do so: Most of my exes i am still friends with or at least got socials for, although deleted casual phone numbers and photos as they’re still sweet & attractive women and memories are hard to oppress when feelings are coming up from pictures or hearing a ex partner (s) voice in a personal conversation. I’ve had around 5 girlfriends who behaved manipulative for quite some time but i never noticed as i fell hard and who used my more sensitive-emotional moments with her for use in arguments and to tell people in private. You can bet your ass i’ve decided to bring that scum out of my life and that i never want to see, hear or think about them. If i had a way to undo me meeting them whatsoever i would’ve done it.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Here is the better question, Paris: If an ex decides to contact you, why do you answer the phone or respond to ther text, mail, etc? Have you already forgotten why you broke up?

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Deep down, I want to be nice and be like “I’m in a better place now.” But i quickly think about how they fcked me over and how i never fully finished cussing them out the first time around and I’m tempted to start back up 🤣 So yea my exes just shouldn't reach out to me

Justneedtokno · Accepted Answer

Sometimes it may have ended in bad terms or sometimes like myself you don’t really know what to say to that person you’re not together anymore they’re not responsible for you. You’re not responsible for them. It’s just awkward.

Summeroflove · Answer

If I’m cold hearted jr means it’s probably someone who knows better to contact me

Gent207-2 · Answer

That would be an interesting turnoff events
You see cheated, got tossed out of her parents house, six months later, got knocked up amd then married and NOW 3 kids and 8 years later, she wants to hit me up?
The world must be ending
As you can imagine our breakup wasn't mutual and our relationship was unhealthy, albeit amazing sex, but terrible everything else.
I take my share of the blame. I don't think she ever did or will accept her own.

Foreign3r · Answer

Who's cold hearted? The one who contacted you or the one being contacted?

I had one of my exes contact me after more than a year (she broke up with me) telling me she made a mistake, the only thing I told her was "Guess the grass isn't greener on the other side after all" and deleted her number :)

Steelcore5280 · Answer

Whenever someone and I are not on talking terms, it's because they crossed me and did something that was a breach and betrayal of my trust in them. This includes an ex.

You can expect a hostile response if you try to contact me and you're considered an ex or someone I am not speaking to.

msc545 · Answer

My ex physically assaulted me and made false accusations about me. I want absolutely nothing to do with her for the rest of my life or hers.

molonski2 · Answer

Cold hearted? Are you sure about that? , from personal stand point , I never really completely finish things , so I'd contact ex's , I dont think he's cold hearted at all , just wants to see how you are doing , thats fine.

RealMarek · Answer

Exes are exes for a reason. For every story you hear of amicable break-ups there are probably at least nine contentious break-ups. Best to leave your ex in the past if keeping him in your life is dragging you down.

MittParekh15 · Answer

Nothing I would respond her in a vary navy tone, to make it clear that there is no room for her to come back.

Nirghata_Vrishaghata · Answer

Ex wife : oh gawd what the heck does she want now.  Ex girlfriend : Must have broken up and feeling horny.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

If I had an ex that did that, I would simply say, looks like we're heading down the same path, with the same result.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

Huh, if I had an ex and she apparently contacted me I be more weirded out with her keeping my phone number but, I would have immediately gotten rid of the girl's phone number after our big break up.

Googlemyahoo · Answer

My last long term ex ended messily now our kids are in the same class. We see each other at school functions but I ignore her but its weird because her parents act all friendly.

Jazzy54 · Answer

It depends on how the relationship ended. If it was an ugly break up, I’m sure you wouldn’t feel too kindly towards that person.

Sixgunsound · Answer

Once she's an ex it's over there is no reason to contact any longer.

TrillXHippy · Answer

She shouldn’t be contacting me if we’re no longer dating

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Well, if I no longer wanted to have anything to do with her back then, why would I want to, now?

exitseven · Answer

I ha e given up trying to figure out what people are thinking.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

I have no cold-hearted attitute to any exes. In fact, I love them all. 37 to 42 degrees is warm, right?

Legendarylegacy13 · Answer

if they all of a sudden call you they probably wanna have sex with you.😇

jujus · Answer

Would get a new number and delete all social media that way she wouldn’t contact me

Jamie05rhs · Answer

If you broke up with them, why should they not have a cold heart? Come on; think logically.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

No need for them to contact me and no we can be friends either you have to close an old chapter of your life before you can start a new one

Britney04 · Answer

I usually block once we’re over. I go no contact It hurt but the faster it’s done then get faster I’d heal.

Nominal · Answer

I don't like to respond to sentences like - whats up.

Anonymous · Answer

he's trying to distance himself emotionally from you

Justmeagain1 · Answer

Cold hearted attitude is protecting one’s self

lightbulb27 · Answer

what? he's cold when contacts you?

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

did you end friendly

FireFox001 · Answer

If an ex decides to contact me, it's not cold attitude, it's straight "Off is the direction in which you should fuck right now".

OddBeMe · Answer

I told you I’m married.

CubaPirate · Answer

Nothing absolutely Nothing 💯

Fatninja7 · Answer

Depends how good in bed they were 😏🤣

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

I'm open to it

1miaaabiaaa_ · Answer

They messed up

Massageman · Answer

I wasn't cold to them - at least cordial.

Reorx · Answer

He's wounded & projecting his hurt..

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