Can trust ever be fully repaired after it's been broken?

[HawkPerception]

Yes

No

[DishLady]

It takes a really long time and it’s just as precarious as any bodily wound.


The scar is still there, sometimes you see it in the mirror and remember what caused that scar… sometimes in bad weather you feel the pain of the wound again….


It’s never 100% trust again.

[GeminiDiamond]

No. There is a difference between breaking what you told someone and retracting, and lying to them in a way you knew in that moment (if they find out, I'm done for) when you make that choice.

[OlderAndWiser]

One the issue of trust, there are four groups of women:

1. There are women who I don't know and, therefore, I neither trust nor distrust them.

2. There are women who I trust with absolute confidence.

3. There are women who I do not trust at all.

4. There are women in whom I have some trust, but not with absolute confidence.

Before my trust has been violated. . . I get to know a lady, I make a judgment about her character, and I repose absolute trust in her. Group #2.

Once my trust has been violated, that woman joins Group #3.

My partner could work to restore my trust, but it will never be restored completely. She may move herself into Group #4, but she will never return to Group #2. I will always be thinking, "I misjudged her before, and she was disloyal, and my judgment now could be similarly flawed. If she did it before, she could do it again."

Experience has taught me that a woman who cheats or otherwise violated my trust has not simply made an error of judgment such that she can learn from her mistake and never again repeat it. No, her disloyalty is a reflection of a character flaw and she may work to mask or hide that flaw but it will always be there.

[Totomato]

I didn’t think it could until it happened to me. I got cheated on and thought that all hope was lost, he worked really hard to regain my trust back and now it’s actually much stronger than before.

If you’ve ever heard of “Kintsugi” - the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with gold or silver, I think this serves as a perfect analogy for it. Even tho the original pottery piece has been shattered, it ended up much more beautiful and valuable after it was repaired. Their brokenness is now part of its beauty and added value.

[HawkPerception]

You have a different kind of emotional strength. I could never 😅

[Totomato]

Yeah I’m a simp 🥲 but I think I managed to give him another chance because there wasn’t anything physical going on. Still hurts like crap but I guess I’m a bit of masochist lol

[HawkPerception]

It's okay because it made you guys stronger as a couple as you said, right? 😊

[Totomato]

You’re right, that’s true! Here’s to never getting our trusts broken again tho!

[PeachyPie93]

I think it can if the two people just work on themselves and start being able to come to each other when they have issues. Basically if they learn to have really good communication with each other and learn to have honesty and to be able to handle honesty. Plus you have to forgive the wrong doer or it will never work.

[DizzyDesii]

With a new person, i offer a clean slate. But for others who broke my trust, it never fully restores. I dont even know if it ever increases again. It remains at a standstill or continues to drop each time they disappoint me

[serious]

No, it can never be fully repaired or fixed. Once it is broken it will never be the same ever again. It will never be 100% ever again, yes it can be fixed but will never be 100% again.

[blueonblack22]

Not impossible but very difficult. The offender literally needs to 100% own up to what they did and be prepared to face the full consequences. There can’t be even a hint of a fake apology.

[OfMiceandMen]

I think so, if the person is genuine about making amends and the other person is willing to trust again.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Nope. Once trust is gone, that's it for me. I would never believe a word they say!

[Jessikaah91]

I think it may depend on the situation to begin with, like being cheated on trust is never fully restored but other situations you may be able to restore it but it may take a little bit of patience but it is possible.

[electromagnetic]

Lying maybe unless it’s pointless senseless lying. Cheating nope!

[İronclaw_]

Yes, trust can be repaired with time and effort, but it can be difficult to fully restore.

[LiamJHayden]

Not for me.