Is asking for time in a relationship wrong?

Question

Me and my now ex boyfriend were dating for almost 10 months he suddenly said that he needs time because he doesn’t feel enough for me and that he’s not in the right mindset, i told him that he’s enough and that i love him because i truly do and I don’t see why he would feel less. That was the reason why we broke up, it’s been 2 days and we haven’t talked because I understand that he needs time and everything even though it hurts me so much because in my mind i literally do not understand. My mom and some friends keep telling me that maybe he found someone else but after we broke up the next day he told me to please wait for him because all he really needs is time and he wants to get back together at one point again. I don’t want to think that he met someone else because he always showed how insecure he is but I don’t know what to think… is asking for time a good thing or is it fr all over? We’re both going into senior year and we planned so much of our future it makes me so sad.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

. This is going to be what you make it really it's going to be either really really hard for you to get through this or you're going to understand something and get through this faster..

The odds are that he probably found somebody.

And a typical coward man will leave you hanging while he's not even thinking about you he's having fun but he has you hanging there because just in case she breaks it off with him he has you to fall back on.. . This is the case you better show him where the front door is and tell him never come back because it's full crap that is not mad enough to even tell you what's really happening..

The first heartache heartbreak is the worst because everything is flashing through your mind and you can't understand what happened why it happened and you don't even understand love yet so you have so many mixed emotions that you're going through so many different pains and questions and hurt and you just don't understand..

But take this moment and understand something about yourself and understand something about relationships.

No matter who it is no matter what type of relationship it is you have to understand something when you get into it there's always going to be a chance. It's not going to work and before you get into this relationship you have to talk to yourself and say how tough am I am I willing to go through this again

You say you love the guy I truly believe that and while you've been in this relationship you've given yourself to him 100%. That's what you do in a relationship you've done your part

But you never know about your partner any moment of any day year month whatever they can say see you bye..
And you have to understand and know in your heart that no matter whatever happens you're going to get through it look at all the things you've gone through in life so far and you make it through it each and every time..

But this here is a hard moment if he did find another girl you won't find out until somebody sees them together or if she kicks into the car because he's a jerk and he comes calling back to you and I hope you never take him back if that's the case because if you do all you're telling him is he can go do whatever he wants to do and if it doesn't work out he can come back to you don't allow this to happen

But anyway what I'm trying to say the fastest way to get through this if he did break up with you is smile and say thank you for showing me what type of man you are..
. Or I should say what type of worm you are because anybody that just walks away from his girlfriend to start dating somebody else is a worm so you dodged a bullet if that's the case you need to thank him for leaving you because you don't want that type of guy in your life at all

So look at it in a positive way if this is the case the positive thing is is he showed you exactly who he is and you don't want that in your life because believe me all the feelings that you have towards him right now you're going to have those again and again and again and again maybe you might go through 20 more relationships who knows

But right now just get through this one if this is the case you have to acknowledge it that he's a jerk you have to acknowledge that you gave everything you had to be the best you could be for him and then you need to smile and say hey I can get any guy that I want and it's just a matter of time before I have another guy that wants to date me

When you said he makes me happy I understand something

He opened doors for you to experience new things with him but you are the only person in the world that can make you happy because you are the only person on the inside of you just like you are the only person that can make you sad he could do something that hurt you but you're the only person that can make you sad... And know this if he did find somebody else karma is real karma is going to kick his ass because what he did to you he did it wrong he should have took a hold of your hand and said look this is what's happened I'm sorry I apologize I hope we can be friends but whatever whatever but he shouldn't leave you hanging there lying to you making you believe that he's coming back because he's not coming back and the only way that he will come back is if that girl kicks him to the curb are you allow him to come back don't do it stay busy find yourself don't allow him to give you any pain in your heart believe me it all works out you can ask it everybody on gag if this has happened to them and every person on gag will say yes they went through the same thing and we all made it through and we done it again and again and again and again and again LMAO it's really not funny but you'll get the hang of it one day you'll see what I mean go for walks and breathe in through your nose and breathe out through your nose to feed your body oxygen it will relieve stress faster and then when you do find out that he's broke up with you that's when you start making yourself look so hot and let him wish to God that he had you back but don't do it don't take him back you will regret that

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Don’t fall for that nonsense, he more than likely met someone else and weighing his options. He said for you to wait for him? because he is trying to make you think , that everything is alright by keeping you on the back burner, just in case things don’t work out with this new girl he met. He is sadly a selfish POS person , people that love each other don’t take breaks from each other , selfish people that weigh their options do. My advice to you is to not wait for his sorry ass , move on and find yourself someone that doesn’t need breaks

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't want to tell you what to do here exactly because it's your life and only you can decide for yourself if it's worth the wait or not, but he cannot expect you to wait around for him forever as he makes up his mind because a relationship involves two people. If you have dutifully been a genuinely good girlfriend to him and he needs time, what is that time for exactly? If someone is telling you that they don't have enough feelings for you, that is worrisome because in 2 weeks, 6 months, a year, is he going to somehow remember or figure out then that he likes you or loves you because you're going to be the same person now as you will be then.

makarinooo · Accepted Answer

Hello  This guy met someone else and is keeping you busy. Everything was going well for 10 months and then such situations happened. I'm sorry, but that person is not a credible person.

BetaBucks · Answer

If he genuinely believes that he can't be a good boyfriend, then he's right to walk away. But he shouldn't leave you on hold. That's not acceptable. You can decide for yourself if you want to be part of this "journey" that he's on, but I'm sure it won't be fun.

If he's kind and insecure, I don't see him running the "break up real quick to sleep with someone else" game that I've seen a million times. That's usually for the people that are full of themselves and constantly feel like they deserve more/better. I can't say for sure though. Has he ever tried to get you to improve yourself? Like, lose weight, for example.

lightbulb27 · Answer

often means he is running into an emotional barrier, it's confusing and painful so backs away. when feels better, sounds like comes back around. but I doubt anything has changed.

doing the actual work to clear through the barrier is real effort and more than a few days.

HawkPerception · Answer

Hate to say it, but saying you need time is usually something you say in immature years. Relationships where 2 people love each other don't need time or take breaks. You can't ask your partner for space if their clinginess is suffocating. Communication is key. But taking time is another thing altogether. Anyone who says that is not ready for a real relationship and you should probably just move on.

Skinhead-1979 · Answer

I wouldn't say it is wrong per se... but I do strongly feel you either work, together, for a relationship, and if you don't feel up for that should make the difficult decision to split up.

It's unfair to leave the other waiting...

ProbablyClueless · Answer

His insecurity is precisely the reason that he would have found someone else, actually. He's trying to use other people to fill a hole within himself.

moneymagnet24 · Answer

you're giving everything In this relationship with wholeheartedly but in return you get nothing he push you away I feel you girl my heart broke to see this happened with heart like you. 😢

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

That's just BS. Tell him goodbye and date a guy who will treat you right. ❤️

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is the first nail in the coffin.

noohair · Answer

You can't make another person feel things that are not there. It is better to find out now that it is to waste time and force a relationship and get hurt more. This is how life is today.

Staximus · Answer

Sorry but you need to worry about getting your mental issues sorted out before you worry about him and his.

HumbleDragon · Answer

You’re both young. Don’t worry so much. Love will find you

Anonymous · Answer

Fuck some other boy like the most of girls do

OhLongJohnsoning · Answer

"breaks", are death sentences to relationships

In_Trance · Answer

He's seeing someone else

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