Do modern relationships have time limits?

Question

I hear a lot of people say relationships have a time limit of 6 months to 2 years, is this actually a thing?

sphinx23 · Accepted Answer

I really don't know. But as I see it, it depends on the couple's love, dedication and the decision to take it to the next level. I have seen people I personally know taking a different course.

Situation 1: A and B have been together for 5years, but suddenly broke up in an amicable way. Then 5mos after, B met C. They hit off fast. After 6mos in a relationship, C proposed to B. And set their wedding 8mos after the proposal. B is not pregnant to straight the record.

Situation 2: A and B stayed in a relationship for 4years. On their 1st year, A proposed to B. And from there, they started preparing for the wedding and family. Fast forward to 4th yr, they are happily married now.

As I see it, modern relationship doesn't really have anything to do with time limit. It's about the other factors. It's more of we're more free or have more freedom to do what we want as a couple and as an individual. We are much braver to do things that we see fit for us. Unlike back in the days, elders (parents and others) had all the say.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

Not necessarily, everyone in my family... including my siblings, got married by 19 or 20. I'm the old made that didn't get married until a few months ago.

They've all been married for years...5 or 10. Those older than me have 20+ years going on, etc...

Younger brother older sister, close in age. Years and years... maybe something about getting married younger and growing 'together' rather than getting your own identity and then refusing to mesh it with someone else if you get married later, makes it harder in the long run.

MAC1983 · Accepted Answer

I once wrote to my SO all relationships are finite. She was pretty upset by it. What I meant was, if it is 2 months, 2 years or 2 decades, nothing should be taken for granted, since people change and a lot of of us (do not kid yourself in thinking it's all of us) don't have to feel stuck in a relationship forever when it is empty just to survive.

However, that doesn't mean some relationships can't, and won't, last, even a lifetime for that matter. But, like us, they are finite. Usually one person dies before the other, and that is the end of it. Time is always a limit.

Is it also the beginning of something new? What have you learned along the way? That's a different question than the one you posed.

Effably · Accepted Answer

In a sense?

Love, in a more chemical sense, only lasts up to about two years. And usually much less. As such after a maximum of two years there would be a change and shift in feelings.

With the times no longer obligating you to stay together, we are more likely to leave when the feelings die out.

Of course a romantic type of love can last eternally in theory. And we are fully capable of falling in chemical love with the same person over and over. Thus making that first feeling last and stretch for decades or more. This is sort of why couples should not get lazy but keep dating and impressing each other throughout the relationship.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I think the average marriage length in Canada is 13-17 years which surprises me cause I would have guessed 30-50 years.

Mia-Wallace · Answer

If you make decisions based on your instincts/instant feelings, then yes.

Monogamy needs more than insticts because we're not sexually monogamous. We can be socially monogamous.

And for it to last a lifetime you will have to renew your marriage over and over again with total awareness of your situation and choices. You must create more and more great memories together as years pass by.

Eventually, as both of you get older, the close and unbreakable friendship you built will come before all other feelings.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

70% of marriages by first time virgins mutually so stay married for life. The other 30% are likely to marry and divorce repeatedly throughout their lives, skewering the statistics on marriage until half of all marriages fail.

Then there are those who get a raw deal in life, and will probably never get the chance to be married. And others so damaged by marital failure, they become bitter, and never try again. And some who did so much bad to make someone else bitter, they should probably be on some registry so others know not to date them. It may sound harsh, but that's what society has come to.

BlueScorpio · Answer

Like as in a time limit when a person want to get married? Yes some do and some don't. For women who know they want to get married and have children, I wouldn't go past 1 to 2 years in a relationship. That's enough time to know if you want to spend the rest if your life with someone. The longer a woman waits, she's wasting away her youth and most fertile years waiting or hoping for commitment. Some men have no problem making a woman wait years or even decades to finally settle down and I. Some cases it never happens.

SeriouslyFunny00 · Answer

I've heard of a study that said that after six months, for example, we might discern a person's genuine personality.

I suppose the main reason most relationships end within the time frame is that they have this standards for their partner— which is, after 6 months above, the other party realized the other's real side and did not like it, or may not see a future with them.

DoctorSex · Answer

Studies have shown that the more educated a woman is, the lower the replacement rate in births. High divorce rates also correlates well with educated women..

Personally I prefer an educated woman, but it really does depend on what we define as education.🤔

A midwife sounds very appealing to me.. here I am, thinking out loud.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Yeah. It can be.

Personally, mine is 3 years. If I don't propose/am proposed to in that time, I'm out. I don't waste time. Commitment is necessary for me.

But I also know some folks who don't have time limits.

Everyone has their ways. Personally, I'm unwilling to date someone who isn't capable of knowing what they want enough to know they want to marry or commit.

Ironic_Method · Answer

That generally how long it takes people to get to know each other. This fake nostalgia of "back in the day where people stayed together" is a false equivalency because even just 3 generations ago it was hard for the average woman to get a decent paying job. It was taboo for anyone to get a divorce. Unhappy people stayed together and people think this was a good thing. You'll notice a lot of humor in the 60s, 70s, and 80s are based off of spouses hating each other.

Raaj4you · Answer

No, it depends on the couples itself. Experienced married older people told me that couples are most likely committ mistakes when they are younger. They mature as they grow older. It also depends on the person, some become mature at young age, some take more time and some don't mature at all. It's wise to get married only when you are completely matured. Life is all about sacrifices, compromises and adjustments. A perfect person, couple or a perfect relationship doesn't exist.

RiseofArtemis · Answer

No it isn't only toxic people have time limits. And people think they can just go away from a person when they want as soon as something midly bad happens. If you always run away from little problems then you will never have a relationship.

Be3Bee · Answer

If by modern "relationships" you mean friends with benefits or "open-relationship" then I wouldn't be surprised. After all these are started because of the enjoyment and once that ends, what is there left.

Anonymous · Answer

No. It's bullshit people accept and buy into. Stop buying into what you don't want. The only limitations are the ones you accept. You can instantly accept the idea that it can last forever in happiness for you and that feeling you feel is confirmation.

dustybiker · Answer

With all the people who come here whining about not getting instant text replies.. I’d say “Yes”

Tina19 · Answer

We relationship are hard to be maintain nowdays and it needs two people to have that same level of compassion patience and maturity to make it last

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No, the people saying that are just cheaters who know they will eventually get caught. Anyone who actually wants a relationship, wants a permanent one.

Moonshae · Answer

Those are probably given by someone who has bad luck

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, I would say that's about right. In my experience girls are generally not in it for as long or longer than that.

These things are temporary. Expect them to be as such and you won't be as disappointed.

TroyDT · Answer

Most do because they are based on feelings rather than the choice to seek the better for the other.

Anonymous · Answer

Unfortunately yes. It's the biggest reason I'm single. Women today don't want "the one". They're always going to get bored an look for something else.

d3n0939 · Answer

I guess, this is true. At least that is how it was to me

ArtemisSilver · Answer

Obviously not, participants set the time frame they choose.

red324 · Answer

Yeah mine is 30-45 days and they're out of there.

RandomGuy1030 · Answer

In the natural world yes. After males have kids there's no reason for the males to stick around

Gator1478 · Answer

Relationships can last as long as you and you partner want them too

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

It definitely seems like it

Aphrodite801 · Answer

Are you seriously 46 asking that? 😂😂

TonightYouu · Answer

That’s technically just a fling

LazerBean · Answer

What Effably said.

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