What could be his intentions?

[Anonymous]

I dated an ex for about 3 years & we broke up 3 years ago, this was due to my lack of self awareness and personal issues that I would project onto him, & I also wasn’t very affectionate towards him as he wanted me to be. When we broke up, within that same month he started dating a co-worker. Him and his girlfriend ended up breaking up.

We ended up getting into contact again and we hung out a few times but it was always like a friendly hangout. There was a time where he’d say little things like “hope to see you there” or texting me on our anniversary date and asking if I knew what that day was (which I remember getting upset because I thought he was just lonely & wanted someone to talk to)

He would heart a lot of my stories and swipe up to have mini convos & such. He actually ended up removing me off social media earlier this year so I was under the impression he didn’t want to be in contact with me anymore.

Few months ago I got rid of all my social media. And, just last week he texted me out of the blue to check in on me because he noticed I was off socials. What do you think his intentions are? I just thought it was strange for him to remove me from socials, and continue to contact.

I loved this man very much (feelings are still somewhat there) & I’ve even went as far as calling him a soul mate to my cousin recently because of how well he and I would connect (despite the issues our relationship has). I really felt like I could be my true self around him and have never found anyone like him to this day.

My cousin is unsure & think he might just wanna be friends, but I don’t think I can ever just be friends. I feel like that false hope would just be in the back of my mind and I don’t like how it makes me feel. It also hurts because i’m a completely different person now and the person I should’ve been back when we were dating.

Updates

8 mo

Forgot to mention, him and my cousin are actually best friends which is how I met him.

[Damaged00]

I feel as though he misses you and possiblymight still have some feelings for you. But maybe he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you because the relationship you guys did have wasn't good for him and he doesn't want to be treated that way again. So that's why he tries to be just friends with you.

And if your cousin who is his best friend is telling you that he thinks he only wants to be friends then there has to be truth to it. It's his best friend and I'm sure your name has been brought up in conversation between them. Your cousin just doesn't want to hurt your feelings by saying what he has said outright.

But regardless of all that, it's up to you. If you can't be just friends with him then let him go. Tell him you can't just be friends with with him and stop responding to him. Especially if he only wants friendship then you're going to just hurt yourself.

[SweetJoyGirl]

You should ask him. Three years of dating is no joke. So, I don’t think he just wants to smash. Perhaps, he just misses the idea of you and what you guys had.

Either way, he is the best person to ask. Good luck! 💜

[DaddyDiablo]

Maybe he low-key wants to date you again but is going about it in a way that's not really the best way of doing so but hey sit him down and see what's up get some one on one time and tell him hey your not the chick you used to be and how much of a change you've gone through and then see how he feels about that and you aswell you'll never truly know unless you get some one on one time.

[Avicenna]

Probably just friends and he cares about you as a friend.

[DishLady]

Exes are exes for a reason. Sometimes an ex will try to approach you for either nostalgic reasons or because they idealistically remember the positives and none of the negatives. Part of the person misses those positives... But the best thing to do is just let that pass. Find someone new and start fresh.

[Account]

Odds are he didn't miss you. He just missed the WooHoo. He just wants to stay in your orbit just in case.

[Anonymous]

Most men only have one intention, and I think you know what that is.

[Anonymous]

Call him tell him all the things that you’re telling us about soulmate see what he has to say

[Asker]

I thought about it, but my cousin thinks I’d be coming off too strong too fast

[Opinion Owner]

Booi

[avery58]

Sounds like he's just wasting your time

[OhLongJohnsoning]

Ex's who talk, are desp.

[smurfwrangler]

what a waste. now you're damaged goods

[In_Trance]

Wants to smash