Y delete me only to readd me and then tell me to leave him alone?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend broke up with me this morning after a miscommunication. It was very offputting. It seemed like he suddenly pulled up arguments and fights from our past and used those against me as a reason to break it off. He told me that I cause him stress and he doesn’t want this anymore. It was very unexpected and heartbreaking. He told me he wanted to be done and then deleted me only to readd me less than an hour later. And then less than a couple hours after this he sends me a message to “just leave him alone.” He added me and sends me that? Make it make sense.

[Oliverlogan263]

That is super confusing and hurtful behavior on his part. Deleting you and then re-adding you only to tell you to leave him alone... that's just messed up.

It seems like he's really struggling with what he wants and isn't thinking about how his hot-and-cold actions are affecting you. Pulling up old fights was probably just an excuse because clearly he can't make up his mind if he wants space or not.

I'd say try not to let what he's doing get to your head too much, as hard as that is. Him dumping stuff on you and flip-flopping would mess with anyone's emotions. Try to take care of yourself right now - do things that make you feel better and distract your mind.

As for what do about him, I'd say leave the ball in his court for now. Don't reach out or respond if he contacts you again. He wanted space, so give it to him - but make it clear that this back and forth isn't fair to you either. You deserve someone who isn't wishy-washy about their feelings. Try to move on for your own sanity, as I don't think he really knows what he wants at the moment and that's not a good place to be for your heart. You'll get through this!

[MisterMystery]

He used the past as an excuse.