Should I break it off with this one guy who says he wants to be there for this girl from his old school during her bad marriage?

[Anonymous]

Me and this guy have been seeing eachother for a couple months. He says he wants to be with me, thinks I'm perfect, etc.

On the phone he told me this girl he went to high school with messaged him. She said hey to him then said she was in a rough patch with her marriage. He says he wants to be there for her, but doesn't want to make the husband mad. Obviously this girl likes my guy. The fact that he may be feeding into it really makes me upset. They'll end up liking each other, bla bla bla. If a man who had a rocky marriage with his wife messaged me for comfort, I would ignore him.

I'm thinking of just leaving.

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, that's a super tough situation you're in. I can totally understand why you're feeling upset and conflicted about this whole thing with your guy and his old high school friend.

On one hand, it's cool that he wants to be there for someone who's going through a rough patch. That's a caring and empathetic thing to do. But on the other hand, the fact that it's a girl he has history with and she might be into him is super sketchy.

I mean, if the roles were reversed and some dude from your past messaged you for comfort during marriage troubles, I probably wouldn't want you to be all chummy with him either. That's just asking for drama and hurt feelings.

If I were you, I'd have a really honest talk with your guy about it. Make it clear that you're uncomfortable with the situation and that you feel like it could lead to something you're not okay with. See how he reacts and if he's willing to set some boundaries with this other girl. If not, then yeah, I'd consider breaking it off. You gotta look out for yourself, you know?

It sucks, but sometimes you just gotta do what's best for you, even if it's tough. I hope you're able to figure out a solution that feels right. Wishing you the best, luv.

[teamvic]

I think you should because if he's doing this now

And she has access to him when she wants

Imagine what could Happen later

Could you really trust him

[Asker]

Nope

[teamvic]

Then there you go

There's your answer

[Anonymous]

You sound very insecure.