Should I give up on a guy who is hanging out with other women after we met?

[Lyhra4]

I met this guy about more than a month ago. We met through Instagram, when we first met I noticed he had time which honestly bothered me cause I'm interesting in something serious. Although I didn't say immediately I want something serious cause it was soon. As the days go bay we get involved sexually and after that we talked everyday he commplimented me a lot and actually I though a friendship was beginning among us. About 2 weeks ago in a videocall he told me he was divided between me and a Spanish girl which totally broke my heart but although it has hurt me a lot we continued to talk cause he insisted. He said he doens't want to lose me cause actually he says he feels something for me but I'm not his priority. He went a week ago to Spanish and I'm almost certain he met the Spanish girl altough he denies. He is always worried about me talks to me everyday, give me a lot of support but when he goes out or are on a trip he barely gives me attention. The other day we talked about the question of him having meeting the girl and he dennied again. This week I was on facebook and I saw him on a trip with a girl and I got devastated. I confronted him and again he denied and said she's only a friend and nothing has passed between them. I feel like shit, I already removed him from my social media, but he continues to say that nothing has passed either in Spain or Budapest... What should I do?

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*I noticed he had tinder

[Anonymous]

If you wanted something serious this is something you should have expressed to him from the beginning before you slept with him

You also can’t get upset with him for hanging out with other girls you aren’t in a relationship with him and neither are you exclusive he is a single guy and can do whatever he wants sorry to be blunt but that’s the truth

[Lyhra4]

I had expressed to him I wanted something serious and he gave false hopes. He even said we wanted me to be his girl but then said he was confused. he basically played with my feelings until now cause he really knows I have feelings for him

[boggboss]

Not sure why u thought he wouldn't when u 2 are not exclusive why do u expect commitment when its not been agreed

[Lyhra4]

cause he gave me false hopes and said he was not meeting other women. do you think it's fair using my feelings fo him to take advantage of me? giving me fake hopes and he knows I want a relationship? saying that sometimes he thinks about having something serious? what am I then, a toy? he almost only talks to me when he's alone cause when he have something better to do he almost talks to me... I'm just an option here

[boggboss]

Yes u are just a option here u also made yourself a option u where not clear about somthing serious from the start then let it become sexual followed by him telling you he had been seeing another girl and u still stayed even if you told him then u wanted something serious your actions show u just wanted him no matter what he did until u had enough what he did was fully fucked up and shitty but your just as silly for allowing yourself to be tricked when it was so clear he never wanted somthing serious someone who wants to commit won't tell u I really want to they simply will commit

[Lyhra4]

yeah you're right butI didn't want to pressure him in the first date. but yes you're right I'm silly and nahive cause when he told he was divided between me and another I should have quitted on that very moment. :(

[boggboss]

Yes u should have u essently gave him the green light to do what he wanted again I'm sorry this happened to you but always make it clear what your looking for u can't pressure someone to want something they either will be or won't me intrested here is a example of u saying nothing hoping he would be intrested later when he never would have been from the start

[Lyhra4]

but as the time go by I told him I wanted more and he kept creating me ilusions

[boggboss]

Because he never wanted more so he started lying

[Lyhra4]

yes unfortunately that's right

[boggboss]

Again he is a dick for doing that but equally u shouldn't have made things sexual without commitment then expected he would

[Lyhra4]

yes I have to admit that I just never gave him so much of me when I was not certain about his real intentions...

[Lyhra4]

that I should never gave*

[FilmGuy93]

You weren't dating, why would he stop talking with other women just because he met you?

[Lyhra4]

yes but I made it clear I wanted a relationship and he gave me false hopes

[Lyhra4]

he is not talking he is getting involved sexually with lots of women and is lying to me saying i'm special, do u think this is correct? knowing that I have feelings for him?

[FilmGuy93]

He didn't give you false hope, though. He still has a life to live. You can't just expect him to put that on hold, even if he's smitten with you after one conversation.

[Lyhra4]

yes he had cause we get involved more than a time, and he gave me hopes to be my boyfriend.

[Lyhra4]

so do you think he acted correctly talking to me everyday saying beautiful things that I was special... and then are banging other women simultaneously... please give me break!

[FilmGuy93]

And he still might be. But you aren't dating yet.

[Lyhra4]

he made plans with me in the future he knew perfectly I had feelings for him and said he had feelings to, the least he could do was not creating illusions just to take advantage of me

[FilmGuy93]

If he made plans with you in the future, the problem is that you are exclusively dating yet. He isn't where you are at, okay? It doesn't have to be a deal breaker, you just have to be patient.

[Lyhra4]

also I'm not an object to please people whenever they want and when they don't have more interesting things to do... I'm not a piece of crap

[FilmGuy93]

I agree! I think you're special and very deserving of exclusive love. But you have to be patient

[Lyhra4]

yeah but can you imagine how painful it is to keep expecting more from him while he is haging out/sleeping with other women?

[FilmGuy93]

I can imagine that, yeah. That's why I like to define my relationships with people. If I want us to be exclusive lovers, I want that to be known.

[Lyhra4]

and I did, and he started to say he stopped meeting other women and yesterday I saw a picture of him travelling with a girl "friend"

[Lyhra4]

I have told him so many times that I don't want to be just another one and he said you aren't you are special to me... basically lying

[sugarboyy]

no you haven't reached a certain point so it would be unnecessary

[doctorwow]

He's single and likes it you should do the same

[Lyhra4]

I didn't do because I like him and I have made it clear to him... I don't think it's fair the fact that he's using my feelings to take advantage sexually of me knowing that I want a relationship and giving me false hopes and keeping me confused. He basically doesn't say he wants someting serious but also doesn't say he doesen't... meanwhile I feel like an idiot constantly hoping for a future relationship while he is hanging out with other women

[doctorwow]

If you want a relationship that bad hmu. Lol it may be time to move on tho...

[Lyhra4]

thank you.. it is indeed