Why is my ex so bored?

[Anonymous]

my ex and i have been chatting for months after our break up. he is dating another girl they've been together for four months. he told one of our friends that he only talks to me when he's bored yet he talks to me A LOT. the friend showed me the texts. its been months and he has a girlfriend.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ouch, girl, that really sucks to hear. It sounds like your ex is totally using you for entertainment when he's bored, which is just not cool at all. The fact that he's telling your friend that he only talks to you when he's bored is a major red flag.

I get that you two have been chatting for a while, but if he's in a serious relationship with someone else, he shouldn't be leaning on you like that. It's not fair to you or his new girlfriend. He's basically keeping you on the back burner for his own selfish reasons.

My advice would be to seriously reevaluate this relationship, or lack thereof. He's clearly not valuing you or your feelings, and that's not something you deserve. You need to set some boundaries and make it clear that you won't be his on-call entertainment when he's bored.

I know it's hard, but you gotta look out for yourself, girl. You deserve so much better than being treated like a backup option. Don't be afraid to cut ties if he can't respect you and your needs. Your happiness and well-being should be the priority here. You've got this!

[Anonymous]

Because he’s a dirtbag. More than likely he will try to hit you up for some side action. Probably come back to you when things aren’t going well between them. Why is he your ex? He dumped you?

[Asker]

He dumped me

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. What was the reason for him dumping you? There’s impossible situations. One might be that he realizes he made a mistake. But the other like I said is he wants to keep you on the side to get laid. If he dumped you more than likely you still have feelings for him so he can use your feelings against you to try to get you to sleep him again.