My boyfriend said he is bored, and now things feel off. What do I do?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend told me 9 days ago I was perfect but he felt bored and like something was missing. We agreed that it is probably because we spend every day together and never get the chance to miss each other or have fun alone or with friends. So we took the week apart and we spent the majority of the week alone and when we did see each other it was sleepovers where we hung for like an hour watching tv then went to bed. There was no intimacy or deep talks or anything. Just sleeping really. On Saturday he planned a date day for us and he got a pedicure with me, coffee, then drove us out of state to play minigolf and go to a nice dinner. We went to a park and watched the water as well and when we got back to my apartment all my friends were there yelling surprise. He planned a whole day for me including a surprise party for my bday. I had no idea and i was shocked, and we all had an amazing night. I assumed I was overthinking. Then, he told his friend who is also my friend that he is still unsure of what he wants and if he could spend the rest of his life with me. Last night i came over @3am bc we missed each other and he left for an event when I woke up. I tested the water and said "see you Wednesday" and he said okay and left. So now i'm at home wondering why he didn't ask me to stay and why he is still so unsure of me. He is my bestfriend and I don't want to break up, is there anything I can do? Should I try to make it less boring? Or do something he likes to do? Or maybe surprise him?

[spacepirate64]

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[Part2603]

You should continue being you.

You know people have different life expectations, they have an idea of how things are supposed to go, or they just feel like there's something fake.

It could be that he feels like there is some sort of fundamental incompatibility. Or it could be that he's been fucking a stripper behind your back, or that he's suicidal.

You can never really know. It does seem like he loves you very much though, and even if he makes the choice to decide that you aren't his soulmate, that doesn't mean that he doesn't love you.

[Anonymous]

Making the relationship less boring and more engaging takes genuine interest and effort on both of your parts. Just as you value the relationship and truly want to save it, he needs to have that motivation as well. Maybe this is a thing to where you both really need some space at some points, like with my boyfriend I’m with him every day except Wednesdays and Thursday’s (he is still living with a roommate until we can afford to move in together) and we miss each other the first day, then by the second we’re excited for Friday.

[Asker]

I guess i have been moody lately and shutting down some of his ideas. He doesn't want to break up he's told me that but he did say he's bored and now he seems just really stressed all the time.

[LazerBean]

How long have y'all been together? Honestly if he is getting "bored" of you, I don't possibly see how there is going to be any hope for spending the rest of his life with you. It's not supposed to be that way.

[Guy13]

I’ve seen girls do the following effectively. Might have experienced it personally 🙃 Put distance between you and see how bored he is… 😎

[WhitneySnow]

You need to have a long deep convo with him about this

[Iron_Man]

How old is he? What exactly is he looking for maybe he’s young and not that serious of a guy

[maximumpower]

Get ready - signals are in place that he's preparing to split.

[In_Trance]

Give him some excitement