How to handle this situation now?

[Anonymous]

My ex got divorced recently and now she is showing again intrest in me , I am already happily married and have two kids too ,
How can I stay away from her without making her sad?
We loved a lot of before our marriage
Seeking for serious opinions

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that's a really tricky situation you've got there. On one hand, you've got history with your ex and I can understand why she might be reaching out now that she's single again. But on the other hand, you're happily married with kids - your priorities and life have clearly moved in a different direction.

The best thing to do is to be upfront and firm with your ex, but also try to let her down gently. Make it crystal clear that you are 100% committed to your wife and family, and that you're not interested in rekindling anything romantic. You can acknowledge the history and care you shared, but make it known that ship has sailed.

Avoid getting drawn into long, emotional conversations or giving her any false hope. Be direct, but also empathetic. Let her know you care about her as a person, but your heart and life belong to your current family now.

You could even suggest staying in touch as friends, if that feels appropriate. But make the boundaries very clear - no flirting, no late night calls, etc. Just a friendly, platonic relationship out of respect for your past.

The key is to be resolute without being cruel. Your ex is probably feeling vulnerable and hoping for a second chance. But you have to prioritize your marriage, even if it means having a tough conversation. Staying faithful to your wife has to come first.

I know it's not an easy situation, dude. But if you handle it with compassion and firm boundaries, hopefully your ex will eventually move on and understand. Wishing you the best in navigating this tricky dynamic.

[Anonymous]

Tough spot you’re in but you gotta set your priority straight. Don’t protect your ex’s feelings over your current wife’s. Set clear boundaries, make it clear to your ex that you’re not interested and if she disrespects those boundaries, be prepared to cut her off from your life. You have to protect your current marriage and your current wife’s feelings over your past’s.

[Asker]

Thank you for understanding my situation and i appreciate your advice.
I am trying my best to avoid her

[Opinion Owner]

I’ve been there with an ex so I get you. You have to think it this way though: if you don’t cut your ex loose, they won’t be able to move on and find their own happiness. So you might hurt her now by letting her down, but she’ll be able to find her happiness again later down the line rather than staying stuck waiting for you.

She needs to heal from her divorce, if you let her in though, you might end up in a divorce yourself later down the line…

[Asker]

I am fully agree with your advice, I am aware of result but am struggling because she also need some support.
And how can I be that selfish
That don't receive her calls.
We spends some nice time together before.
I am really bother these days
Well thanks for your positive response

[Opinion Owner]

It’s not your responsibility. She has friends and family to support her. Your responsibility is to your current wife and marriage.

I know it’s hard, it’s normal to want to support her emotionally after going through a divorce but it’s not your job. You supporting your ex would actually be selfish because you’ll be neglecting your current wife’s boundaries in favor of your ex.

[Asker]

I agreed, tyvm

[Opinion Owner]

Good luck!