What's something you wish your ex knew, even now?

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WhiteSteve · Accepted Answer

Oh man…. lmao. Maybe that I’m bad at guessing female weight?😅 Let me explain before y’all judge😂

So a few years after we had broken up, she walks into the Hollister Co that I worked at. I’m bad with faces, especially if I don’t see someone in the usual place I know them from. Obviously a girl I dated almost five years is an exception…. but she had had a baby and had put on some weight, plus was wearing glasses, which I had never seen before.

I actually thought she was someone else when she first came up talking like we knew each other, this chick who worked in the back room the first week or two I was there, and she was like sexually harassing me off the rip, lmfao. So I was already being a little standoffish, but then she introduced me to a friend with her, who had a jacket from a high school in a town on the other side of the state…. the town my ex’s little sister lived in.

That’s when it dawned on me…. this was my ex, and I just didn’t really recognize her. Even after the fact, I wasn’t totally like “I’m so stupid”, I was still like “DAMN, she CHANGED.”

So I get through all that and she leaves, and later that day I talk to my mother on the phone. She had a tight relationship with my ex, she always wanted a daughter, haha. I think she didn’t like her with me but wanted to keep her for herself😂

But in talking to her, I mentioned that I had bumped into my ex, and how she’d gained weight to a point where I didn’t recognize her. She asked me how much I thought she weighed, and I guessed 180 lbs, at 5’3. She was like 115, maybe 120 when we were together. And in hindsight, that was way too high of a guess, lmao. She wasn’t obese or anything.

The next day I come home to an answering machine message (back in the day😝). It’s my ex, and she angrily says “I DON’T WEIGH 180 POUNDS.”, and she BANGED the jack on me (again, back in the day😂).

I’m like “What the—….. MOM?”

I call my mom and ask her if she told her I had said that. She just casually as fuck is like “yeah, I was worried about her because of all the weight you said she put on, so I called her to see if she was alright.”

🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯

I couldn’t believe it. Was what I said nice? No. Did I say it in private and in assumed confidence, TO MY MOTHER? YES. And furthermore, you’re a woman, Ma….. you KNOW how that’s going to land. And you KNOW she’ll be mad at me. Why in the WORLD would you do that?🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️ I thought Moms was SOLID, but she flipped on me😒

We did talk once more a few years later via MySpace, lmao. She was cool, our last interaction was amicable. But I was too mortified to call her back after the weight thing, and figured she probably didn’t want to hear from me anyway.

But I wish I could’ve told her that I should’ve guessed 150. Lmao, just playin’😂 But I hope she just thinks I’m an idiot for not knowing what 5’3, 180 looks like, haha

AydenHazor · Accepted Answer

I they knew that it's possible to heal from their trauma and that they didn't need to take it out on their partner in an emotionally and verbally abusive manner. I've already gone through it, but if it can help someone else it's worth it

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

We still talk so he knows how I am doing for the most part but I just wish he knew that my mindset is in a completely different place than it was last year. That I'm a much better person and have learned so much from our breakup.

But I think he knows this deep down.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

He was terrible, so there’s nothing I’d want him to know.

Flowersareawsome22 · Answer

Well I want to write him a letters and I have a lot of questions to ask him. His name is Jestin W. Clark we were really young at the time this was back in 2011 or 2012. Sadly I don't remember much of my relationship with Jessy it's like I have blocked memories. I want to write Jessy a letter ✉️ . I do have answer questions. I want to know why out of no where broke up with me like cold turkey. I was in love with Jessy I actually did visualize my self at the time walking down the eilse with Jessy in my childhood Houston cathedral Church but that is y remained a dream and it never happened. I wish he knew I was pregnant with him. I suffer a miscarriage Jessy never knew the pregnancy. I never told Jessy I was expecting his child.

ManOnFire · Answer

Why do I always see your really awesome questions days after MHO gawdamnit!😂

I think she realizes it now but of course it's far too late. I think she knows what she really lost, because men like me don't come around that often. Don't know if I ever wished she knew that, but I have a hunch she probably does now.

Anonymous · Answer

That the breakup wasn’t caused onto them as an individual as what I envisioned for myself / trajectory of the path I was on was very not me.

I knew when it was time to bail , time to reflect on things and I made the right decision for my heart which was in opposition to how she wanted things to go though to understand she will find an amazing partner (so will I), however it isn’t us. It was never going to be us.

That I’m sorry, if I knew where my mind and heart would be I would’ve told her right away “this isn’t where I want to go.” And “our friendship is more valuable to me than a romantic relationship, no hard feelings”. Since there is no time machine, it sucks.
Didn’t mean to break your heart since I care about you as a person , just not a lover.

MemeSupreme · Answer

there's just been some small moments i've always wanted to explain but thought it was unnecessary at the time but now they've probably forgotten so it doesn't matter

Zack-Bann · Answer

That it’s all downhill from here 😎 🚬
But I think she knows. She practically said as much

I’m only half serious.
I do wish her the best.
Even if she dumped over no fault of my own.
But I didn’t have the magic cure for the depression she was going through when we met
So I became just another “drug” meant to distract her from the real issues

itsannalee · Answer

I’m the one who threw away his phone in the river when he was drunk. He was drunk and I found out he cheated on me when i opened his phone, so i throw his phone away and disappeared for days.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Uhhhhhh there isn't anything I wish she knew lol. I suppose you're coming from the pov where she would initiate breakup, but... It was me, so, you know, I already said all I wanted to say

Anonymous · Answer

I wish she knew that I couldn't have sex with her because I was so inexperienced and incapable and it took me 6 years to get over this and lose my virginity and lots of girls wondered why I didn't fancy them
But it was just awkwardness and shyness that stopped me

I remind myself of that song
"Don't know why I didn't come"
And looking back with so many relationships I didn't come
But once I started, I couldn't stop 🙂

TheoreticallyGreat · Answer

That I only ever wanted the best for all of them, and that despite all of the mutual pain, I literally want nothing more for them than all the happiness in the world

__Nikki__ · Answer

I'd like one of my exes to really know some consequences for his actions. Maybe he does, but I don't have any contact with him and don't want to try and find out.

sage2021 · Answer

He's my late boyfriend but he always seemed as if I was too good for him but I wasn't. I truly loved him through and through - I just don't know if he really believed me.🤷🏼‍♀️

Ironco · Answer

That I would have done absolutely anything for her, but she never knew it.

Lliam · Answer

I wish one particular ex knew that she was remarkable, beautiful and worthy of love and that I loved and cherished her with all my heart.

DJB72 · Answer

What I could see in her. I think my late wife would have been happier and the girl I was with before her as well.

Anonymous · Answer

That I wanted to marry her and I thought we had something that would last. Until she cheated

glennos89 · Answer

That I'm fucking loyal in my relationship. Always have been and always will be. But I got tired of being falsely accused over and over again

lorenzomichael · Answer

How successful I’ve become. Especially when she said I wasn’t shit. However I think she knows because I still talk to the couple we met when I was with her.

Shiprex · Answer

That I feel guilty for not giving her what she deserved.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Most of my exes are still good friends, so they know everything already.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Oh he knows everything he has to know. We're good :)

Anonymous · Answer

That I regret what I did and I'm truly sorry I hurt him.

Arcadian222 · Answer

That I am more mature emotionally, doing better financial and way more great sexually!

Anonymous · Answer

How devastated i was at the time , but I doubt he even cared

leahzrc · Answer

That I never meant to hurt them

Fireguy17 · Answer

nothing, she/they are an ex, I have moved on.

Anonymous · Answer

Meh, I don't have an ex :P

anon1903 · Answer

That I was crazy about him.

exitseven · Answer

maybe how good my life turned out

LiamS95 · Answer

How much I actually loved her

Anonymous · Answer

That I loved her wholeheartedly.

Ayaan00001 · Answer

Many times she never satisfied me

FenixG45 · Answer

That I STILL love her!

Anonymous · Answer

nothing she knew everything

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