Maybe you've lost contact with your ex, maybe there's just certain things you can't tell them. But if you had one more chance to tell them something what would it be?
If you could tell your ex one last thing what would it be?
1999 gal: Pull yourself together. Liquor is a bad crutch. Quit punishing yourself for your parents' mistakes. Yes, they divorced for selfish reasons when you were only 12. They were douches. That doesn't mean you have to turn your back on your own faith and be a non-committal douche and user of men yourself!
2001 gal: I wish you were still alive. You didn't have to OD. You could've called me up.
2005 gal: You were despicable then. But I hope you've learned from your mistakes.
2007 gal: You're pathetic.
2008 gal: You're still wrong. And I pray you find your way out of that mess some day.
2009 gal: Glad to see you again. How's life been treating you?
2011 gal: It's been a while. Has life been kind to you? I should've known we had no chance of lasting, but you can still talk to me as a friend any time. No need to keep that old drama alive.
2013 gal (we're still friends): That video's brilliant. I'm gonna have to take notes.
2014 gal: As much as possible, let's pretend that you and me never happened. Okay?
2017 gal: Where'd you go? I know being several time zones away doomed us from the start, but was any of it real? No matter. I know it was real for me. And if you want help with your company's marketing, I'd be happy to pitch in and help from time to time. That was fun, last time. #friendzonedanddontcare
Too the old former classmate I rediscovered on a county registry last night:
"I still believe in you. And you can believe in yourself again too. I won't mind a romantic relationship, but I don't require one.
I promised you once if you ever needed help getting back on your feet, or wanted a friend who'd run toward you when you're in need even as the whole rest of the world runs away from you... then all you have to do is call me up.
I made that promise 16 years ago. Even though your whole family appears to have disowned you over one stupid DUI, rest assured that I don't make promises lightly. Reach out to me, and I will do what I can to make it worth your while."
I have a history with that one. She was always hot and cold in high school. At the moment, she's under house arrest. Her supervision release is in early March of next year. She has two kids, both of them in their tweens most likely. I have no idea if she still has any custody of them or not.
Most of those who thought the world of her in high school avoid her like the plague now. Two probation violations. Takes more than that to scare me away.
I did tell her my last thoughts via email. I said I understand you have dealt with your struggles, I hope you find true happiness and may God bless you with the true happiness you deserve one day. She never responded back to me, who knows I may never see her again (in person) or hear from her again but at least I ended things on a civil note. I realized something in life, not everything will stay the same with those you have known past or present.
Things change, people change, feelings change, life changes. You may hate that person, you may still love that person, end of the day be civil with them. If it's someone you despise, just make amends and let bygones be bygones, I know it's tough. I'm not perfect either, there are things that make me mad as well but I have to control that.
One thing I have learned is if you don't like someone, you don't have to meet them or see them or be in contact with them every day or every week. I have an older sister which I can't stand and I distanced myself from her because of her behavior, maybe I would let things be but even then I would still want a separate life and just call once every few weeks to ask, how are you doing? and that's it.
If I saw him again, it would probably be best if I didn't say anything. But if I were to tell him how I feel, I'd say, "You are right: I can do better than you, find a man who is better for me on a lot of levels, but, much to everyone's disappointment I only wanted to give myself to you. I didn't care that you were married and had a career that you always put before me. What we had was rare and enough, until my perspective shifted that is. I thought about how I could love you best, give you what you need, and make you stop trying so hard to hide who you really are from everyone, including yourself. I had to take myself out of the equation to liberate you; I helped you through a big transition in your life, but I am not what you need to be happy. And I can't be yours anymore after what happened... it was not intentional but we put ourselves in a horrible situation and I can't continue to be so vulnerable with you when I matter so little to you. I'm sorry it couldn't end without me telling your wife about the affair. You deserve someone who makes you happy holistically... if you can't mend what was broken in your marriage I hope you leave and teach your children what a healthy relationship looks like. As much as I want you back in my life, I have to accept that we both need to figure things out on our own. Be good, baby.
He pursued me and chose to risk his own marriage; "girls like me" did not make or break any promises to anyone. It is easier to hate the other woman than the man who made a commitment to someone and broke those vows. Your anger is misplaced. If you don't like the situation, go to the source
Wow, this topic has obviously struck a nerve for you to respond to it like such a hateful troll. I am not looking for pity, just sharing my experience. And I am a single woman with no obligations to anyone who enjoys having sex--that doesn't make me a slut. And as for how I feel about his wife, I am sorry this happened to her, but I am not apologizing for myself because if it was not me, it would have been someone else. I am not the catalyst here. He is the one with the problem. And I could have left quietly and not humiliated myself by telling her about her husband's affairs, but I did her a favor by telling her on my way out. And if I ever get married one day and my husband cheats on me, I would consider the marriage over the moment I found out. The only thing we owe to ourselves in this life is to be happy, and one cannot do that by treating a marriage like a prison sentence.
Oh really so if a man cheated on you, you would leave him. Wow what a total skank sorry sweetie it's not easy for people to leave their husbands they often question why the other women did this to them knowing they were married you knew they were married and she wasn't letting go of her husband therefore you made her look like a complete fool why tell her if you knew she wasn't gonna leave you told for your own selfish matters because he didn't want you he used you for what he knew he could get out of a slut and don't think for a minute that what you did is okay don't justify it because your in the wrong just as much as him so what he was married and he cheated you still knew he was married your just as guilty sweetheart and if you were just sleeping with a random guy then so be it but with A MARRIED MAN IS DIFFERENT if I was her I would've BEAT YOUR ASS AS SOON AS I HEARD OF YOU PATHETIC ASS SIDE CHICK. And of course it struck a nerve the audacity you have justifying it all shame on u
Ironically, I actually cut off all ties with my ex yesterday after an unusual 3-4 month friendship we had after the breakup. I told him that I really liked someone and that he should respect that I don't think we should talk anymore due to our past (of sending nudes, talking dirty, etc). And I told him that I wished him the best in life as always. His last message was that he thanked me for being honest and that he wishes me happiness with the person I like. Honestly I was civil to him because it's better to end things without hating someone or wishing them the worst despite what they have done to you. He played me, manipulated me, and called me names (like how I was easy). He WASN'T a good guy. He is a sociopathic player and was toxic in my life. There are many things that I wanted to say to him that I didn't, but I closed things off politely and maturely in the sake of me moving on and him leaving me alone completely. Most conversations we had as friends involved him calling me sexy AND even asking for nudes at one point. He wasn't mature at all during our friendship, anyways. So it was best to just walk away and leave on a friendly note.
1st long term ex--I loved you but you just ignored me why? Why did you hit on my friend behind my back 😒you have a messed way of showing that you loved me.
Latest exish guy- I loved and accepted you completely I wish you could have loved me like I loved you. I wish you would have given us more of a chance instead of pushing me away and I wish you could have been honest with me telling how you felt either way 😒. If you weren't into it I wish you would have just said that! I can't read your mind. For some reason I'm having the hardest time getting over you even all these months later. I still want you and it hurts.
High school boyfriend: I know that you always insulted me then to make yourself feel better, but there's no reason to continue doing it to me now. There's a reason that I don't want any contact with you anymore.
1st serious boyfriend: I know you cheated.
Crazy armt boyfriend: honestly you have so many issues and I don't want any part in your recovery but I hope you get the help you need.
Ex fiancé: there's a whole lot of bad karma coming your way. I hope you learn to be a better person.
Grad school boyfriend: I wish we had more time, but I am grateful for what we had.
I would tell her that even though I will move forward with my life, and may eventually fall in love with someone else, there will always be a special play in my heart just for her.
It is truly the way that I feel. There are three women from my past for whom I still have find feelings though our relationships did not work out and it probably would not work if we tried again. Holding on to anger about past partners is a horrible poison for the soul and I am a much better person if I remember them fondly or at least with indifference.
I loved you beyond condition and beyond contestation. there was a time when I would have forgone breath, so that you may breathe once more. from the tips of your elegant toes to the very recesses and darkness in your mind, I stood behind you, as your biggest fan.
there are still times today when I look up to say something and you are not there, I have woken as soon as days ago and looked for you there.
that time of love had passed, and although deep down you will always own a piece of my heart, I had to let you go.
never again have I felt such unadultered passion in my heart for another, I have although learned to love differently.
at last we spoke, after some 14 years, you asked if there was ever hope. I told you no, and as I walked away, you should know I cried. I wanted to scream yes, I wanted to hold you again. but baby the hurt has not faded, the anguish was real, your intentional actions cannot be withdrawn, nor forgotten. I have learned to forgive, but I can never forget.
I wish for you happiness and love, I wish for you peace with whom you've become.
My last ex. 1. Why was your mom controlling and why did you not say anything to her about it? 2. Why did you dress like you did not care how you looked? If she still dresses the same way I would ask why she does 3. Why did you allow your mom to make fun of what I eat. It was a combination of both of them why I ended the relationship. My ex before that. 1. Why was mom so controlling. Her mom had to be in control if every situation she possibly could be. She had to know where we were going, what we were doing, how long we were going to be. She had to call when she got to my place and left, got to mall and left mall, got to strip mall across from mall and left there, vote to restaurant and left there, bit back to my place and left there. At times her mom would ask for her to take a picture of where we were to prove we were where we said we would be. If she was 5 minutes late calling her mom would call wondering why she did not get a phone call yet. That is just one ecample. It got too overbearing. It was her moms fault for toobreaking up. If her mom, would relax more I believe we (me and my exl would be still together. She was fun to be around, loving, caring, very pretty etc. U u uuuuuu œuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu uuuuuuuuu uuuuuuuuu uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu uuuuuuuuuuuuu u u uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu u u u u uuu u u uuuuuuuuu uuuuuuuuu u uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu u uuuuuuuuuuuuu u looked u if u still u u u have u u u u u u u u u u u u u u u u u u u u u u u u u u u u u u u u q
I maybe hurted you now, but after 2 years of crying, trying, kissing, loving. I was like a damn rock you couldnt move away because i was always there standing still being your support but you pushed me everyday a inch away till I finally went so far away that I just knew. after 2 years I can say for the first time after all those crying nights - I chossed myself and I can't be any happyer. so please stay away because with your attitude you can't find a second girl like this. you only care for yourself so you will not understand this now what I'm saying but believe me one day you will. one day you will remember me.
I will never forgive you for what you've done and how much you hurt me. I will never forget the hours I waited for you to show, or how it felt to have our first anni, and my birthday forgotten. I will never forget you trying to get into my pants after I said NO, and you getting angry at me. I'll never forget you showing up drunk to our dates, asking me for money, and I will never forget the day you broke up with me, saying I was the problem.
I never gave you that second chance because you didn't deserve it one bit. I was young, I never knew what true love was and I am happy I moved onto someone new. My life, mental health and my heart has been better now that you're not around anymore.
I never got to say goodbye and that im sorry and i did the best i could to be a good wife. And that he was a good husband and i had a second chance and i didn't take it. And he died. And he wanted to talk to me when he was in the hospital before he died and nobody could get ahold of me and im living with regrets not knowing what he wanted too say to me. And that's been a year ago and im trying to heal. I would tell him that I love you and always will. I know in my heart he did the best he could. RIP Jeremy. im sorry.
There's so much I would like to tell him, i'd tell him I really did love him and I'm sorry that things went down so messy... I shouldn't have pushed him so far away. That i miss him as a person more then the chaos we had in the last few weeks. That I just want him to feel complete finally, that I hope he'll reach all of his goals. I hope one day he'll realize what a beautiful person he is, inside and outside. I know that someday another woman will realize this and obviously it's going to hurt me a lot, but as long as he's happy... I just wish him the best. And apart of me does hope that one day he will see me as more then another face in the crowd again. I want to thank him for everything that happened because meeting him changed me. I finally have the courage to do the things I love. And even though we didn't work out, I'm glad he was my first for everything.
You never ever made me come and that I lied to you about you rocking my world. I wish I can undo everything I did, said and spent on you. You were a total waste of time. Wish you came with a preview, so I knew what i was getting into. and by the way, I lied to you many times. You are not my first. No good in bye.
My first ex : you my friend are a scummy lowlife loser thief and a rapist. And we both know who stole my clothing. My second ex: You are just a hateful person who needs to know using the "im depressed"card all the time will not get you far in life. My third ex: Although you left my for a woman that fitted your druggie lifestyle, got me pregnant and had you both call me a disgusting whore. You did not break me. Yes relationships harder for me now, but you did not break me. I saw you last May and then again in July and both times you looked like a fucking wreck and I looked the victor. Im going to college, you are shoving your money up your nose. I have someone who loves me, you have an ex girlfriend who is too obsessed with you to say away ( I saw how you treated her). Your chains have never broken me and never will
I'm blown away that you still have the audacity to tell me I did nothing for you and for my children after taking care of you and them for 5+ years. I was more than happy to help you at every turn. And I was more than happy to see you and the kids day in and day out. I cooked I cleaned and I took care of the children any time you asked. I even did it w/o the question because I loved you. How do you still have the brass to lie to everyone around you about what I did not do for you? Why am I your bad guy?
I think I already told him what I would like to tell him when we met last time. Though I still feel so sad and broken hearted of what he has done I decided to completely stay away from him though I know he always and tried his best to go out with him again I just turned a cold heart towards him. Will never be stupid again especially if I do not really know who has his heart me or the girl he has a kid. I just decided to give him up and just be happy for where he is now and with whom he is with now. May he be happy and peaceful and enjoy his life now.
#2: That I will always love her (though we aren't together and we don't speak anymore she will always have a special place in my heart), I'm sorry for the way I acted when we were together and she didn't deserve any of that and I hope she can forgive me, I'm sorry that we don't talk anymore. That I hope she is happy and if possible if we could remain friends and go attempt to go back to the way we were before we started dating at the very least because she was one of my closest friends.
#3: I have no desire to speak much less see her ever again.
that I'm sorry i lied about taking care of myself i knew I was insulin dependent but didn't take my shots because i was losing weight but in the wrong way i knew it was slowly killing me but I didn't stop i wanted to be perfect for you in a sexy shape your trophy i wanted to make you proud and make all your guy friends jealous of what we have because i only had my heart and eyes set on you but because i lied you about taking my medicine you left me you told me i was your first love your first every thing i gave you every thing you told me you loved me then you throw all my clothes into a garbage bag and told me i need to leave I'm so sorry i lied to you i cried and begged you to take me back and promised i would do better but you still pushed me away I'm on antidepressants now and I'm getting better every day i hope we can be friends still
"I know you hurt so many people because you're unhappy or a sociopath or whatever, but at the end those girls you keep hurting will find a guy that will treat them with respect and you'll end up alone.. again.. unhappy while you keep checking out the folder where you keep the photos of all your ex-es including me. I loved you like crazy, you messed up my life but now I'm happy with someone else, he teached me to trust again and I feel thankful everyday that I'm not with you anymore. You simply need to go to a therapist".
"Loved you like crazy.. still do. But this isn't you. My babygirl died a long time ago. I'm actually starting to accept that now. I gave everything I had to bring you back, but your corpse fought me at every chance I had. While I know I'd like nothing more than to hear from you again.. stay the hell away from me. Find someone else.. someone who didn't know you when you were alive. Love him in death, and leave me to let go of your living identity. Soon you may come to decide once again that you need me, and though the feeling is mutual as it gets, know this.. .. I don't."
Im Sorry for a lot of things, and I wish You would listen to Me so You would know that I take a lot of things back. We were Very bad together in The end, and it would have ended Anyways, I just regret that it ended that horribly. , but I learned from my mistakes and I Will go into life stronger and wiser and I learned from this experience to not do that again, - and for that I am forever greatful
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I wish things could have ended differently between us. I always thought we had something I don't know. I wish you the best in life, maybe we can be friends again in time and put our past behind us. I'm sorry that I may have said hurtful things to you after our break up and I regret them. I hope you can forgive me for them but I understand if you don't. One thing I'd love to get is some closure. Anyway I think I should go... Goodbye (painful smile) ... I love you (whispered under my voice as leaving)
Too sappy? yeah he'd probably just laugh at my face 😑
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To G, Fuck you! There is a special place in hell for people like you. You know what you did to me. I will NEVER forgive you for any of it. You broke me down to nothing because you are an insecure coward. I believe you will get what's coming to you and you will deserve every bit of it. I have no sympathy or compassion left for you. You were and likely still are a worthless human being. A drain on everyone around you. I'm just sorry I let you destroy me for so long. You're garbage. Go to hell where you belong.
To all my other exs, There were good times and I will always remember and laugh about them. Thank you for being a part of my life and teaching me something about myself and what I want and need out of life. I wish you all the joy and happiness life has to offer. Good luck wherever your path leads you.
Because of you I started to hit the gym and lost 15 pounds, my boobs and butt got bigger and I finally got my first job and moved out and finally got the dog I always nagged you that I wanted.. thank you so much. How's It living in that trailer with my best friend that you cheated on me with? Hope y'all doing well 😉😘
I still love you. I still care about you. I still want to talk to you. it just wasn't the right time for us to be together. I want to try again when we're both more stable.
... I know, it sounds bad. I want to marry that girl. There was just too much happening in our lives and long distance did not help.
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