Would you break up your friendship or relationship if your political views didn’t align?

[Anonymous]

Just curious if you would break up a good thing based on different opinions

[Phoenix98]

I wouldn't break off a friendship over politics not unless the individual housed views and associations that I thought might put me in danger. Or had views that were so radical that I couldn't justify keeping them in my life or if they made a constant effort to disrespect what I believed in, stuff like that.

Uh now a relationship possibly depending on the difference in our views and on what and how radical those differences were but I've been with many women of differing views in the past and never broke things off with them for their views before so it'd have to be a pretty big difference in views or pretty radical views for me to do that.

An example of something politically related I would break a relationship off for would be the whole Charlie Kirk assassination that just happened if I was dating a girl and I found out that she was celebrating his death and loving the fact that he was dead I would break up with her the instant I found out. Because only a vile, despicable and evil individual would be doing that and I will not tolerate having that kind of person in my life much less someone I'm intimate with. I will not be with someone who celebrates the death of innocents simply because they had a different political view then they did.

That is beyond vile and I will cut people like that out of my life like the cancer that they are.

[ilistengood]

Im 68, my very best friend on the planet , I met in high school, and were still close but we differ over the current regime, and while we both have stated that politics would never affect the our friendship, where we once spoke 3 or 4 times a week we now speak 3 or 4 times a month. Im afraid we were both wrong , sadly.

[Phoenix98]

@ilistengood Sorry to hear that.

[ohsheeT]

No not even it's ok to agree not to agree. Over politics, there is no right answer in politics. Because they're all fake. They're all being bought used. They don't even run the country anymore. So why would you given divorce? Why would you break up a friendship over something? That makes no sense anyway, becathere is no.
Right or wrong in anybody's point of view there isn't a right or wrong for sure. But not in a relationship in the world. Oh hell yes, they're wrong major wrong with politicians.
But you in a relationship you can't argue over something that makes no sense cause it's all a bullshit lie

[Anonymous]

Depends on the extent. I can usually remain friendly with most people. But if it comes down to core values like human rights, I'll have a hard time. I won't break up, but I would avoid certain topics. Some peoples opinions make me sad... and there isn't much use in draggining on those topics. And if they do, I'd probably not get much joy out of hanging out and initiate it less.

I can enjoy a good discussion, but if the views differ on core values, it can be really draining when I am an idealist type of person.

I know a person who has a very naturalistic way of seeing things. I can appreciate a person of science, but I get depressed after spending too much time discussing with said person. His views are devoid of the more spiritual aspects of humanity.

[Anonymous]

Friendship no, as long as they were respectfull of my views or not. Relationship maybe, depends on what we had different opinions about and how vocal they were about them. I feel I couldn’t build a life with someone unless we agree on some of my fundamental/core values.

[Rei13]

I’m conservative leaning on some things and more liberal on others so it depends on what it is tbh. I don’t associate with anyone that swings too far on either side so it’d be yes in that scenario, no if it isn’t too far off from me

[TonyMetal___86]

As a conservative lady, what makes you diiferent than others? 🤔

[mysteriousNicholas]

@Rei13 hmm that's intriguing way to be, personally as an Aussie, here in Oz, I finally ceased being a swinging / swing voter and decided to stick to just the left parties 🎉 to vote for

[Rei13]

@mysteriousNicholas I honestly dislike how divisive both parties are in the US. I live in a swing state so I guess it fits that I’d be a swing voter, but maybe that will change as I get older

[Simslover92]

Nope but my friends and I share the same views for the most part.

[mysteriousNicholas]

@Simslover92 "it's not unusual 🎶 😆 Mr Jones song - uhh I was gonna say, you know. Sounds like why some folks, nothing cringey here, tend to "marry within their social circle or sometimes they're introduced by friends of friends" + and they call it the rest as history. You know. Sometimes though I'm not so sure.

[mysteriousNicholas]

@Simslover92 and not related to your experience, sometimes those reality shows I watch full of bad humour lol they make outrageous claims like "I hear that women and men often sleep with each other in friendship circles as an unspoken friends with benefits" maybe that's why I always seek 20s and 30s men and women mixed groups walking like packs of wolves, laughing, giggling - "are they sleeping with each other" ))) lol 😂 or are some of them coupled up lol 😆

[mysteriousNicholas]

Typo" - I always *see (typo, no k) : @Simslover92

[Finchie40]

No, mainly because I really don’t give 2 shits about politics , ito me they are all crooked

[Chazmatazz269]

If we couldn’t agree to disagree and the relationship was contentious because of it, absolutely.

[WhiteSteve]

It depends on what the disagreement is.

We’ve unfortunately arrived at a place where right wing politics are so extreme to me that it’s not even about politics, it’s if I think you’re a monster of a human being or not. These aren’t tax rates we’re disagreeing about. It’s about the way you treat your fellow humans.

And how you treat ME is not the question and not what I judge you one. It’s easy to be cool to me. If you’re already my friend or romantic partner, OF COURSE you’re probably nice to me. That doesn’t tell me that much about who you are though.

Are you cool to EVERYONE? Or do you harbor some kind of ugly prejudice? If it’s the latter, I frankly am too good of a person to have my good name associated with you. That’s not even to say I’m perfect, or that I’m such a great person in a vacuum, but just compared to what humanity seems to be offering right now? It’s crazy to say out loud or even think to myself, but…. I’m legitimately an exponential superior human being to these people, more by the poor quality of their actions. I’m the beneficiary of grading on a curve…. but it leaves me in like the 90th percentile, it seems.

At very least, I’m part of the “decent half” of the country who didn’t vote based around only their own selfish interests rather than society at large, even the ones who bigotry isn’t their main concern. If you “voted for your wallet”, you’re doing democracy wrong, and only thinking of yourself, and your own family. And I’m here to remind y’all that that makes you a bad person. Sorry🤷‍♂️

So…. i’m frankly just better than knowing and associating with conservatives. They’ve proven themselves to have insanely flawed character on the whole, like it’s the driving force behind our disagreements. I just don’t want to be around bad people, it’s really as simple as that. The way you vote is SUPER easy clue these days, and voting red tells me everything I need to know about a person. They’re the “people who don’t return their shopping cart to the corral and just leave it loose in the wind to dent other people’s cars because they couldn’t be fucked over what happens to anyone besides them, as long as they weren’t inconvenienced” of the political world.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/OoZKSJ1n6Us

[Titanic1912]

It happened to me. But we could’ve kept our political views separate, but we weren’t on the same page about Christ. She was really upset at me because I support Donald Trump and she doesn’t. She hated Trump and all he does and she definitely wanted Harris to win the election. I don’t know how she could be so liberal but she doesn’t support abortion. I was happy to hear that she knows abortion is murder, but she supported the LGBTQ community. She thought Christ was just a waste of time and that’s why I left.

[mysteriousNicholas]

@Titanic1912 I mean look we can both be fans of the Titanic my good chum, my good man, however you know me - im a Leftie + I'm not even American yet "I had no problem with Joe Biden still working past his 80s + what a cool guy" + I still think it's as cool had Biden gotten reelected. "Remember Agent D, an agent who still was arresting extraterrestrials in Men in Black in 1997 in his late 70s" - he had a small role in the film 🎥 Agent D - we will remember him

[Titanic1912]

I can’t start a relationship with a woman like that. I’m a straight man and I only want romantic relationships with women. I have a lot of guy friends who have different views on politics and religion, but we don’t bring that up. We usually just talk about girls and other “guy” stuff!

[mysteriousNicholas]

@Titanic1912 ironically I think im suited someday then to a classy groovy free spirited down to earth woman who doesn't mind lightly talking about things they always say no to on dates - or relationships even - "don't talk shop about politics, religion or choice of electric gasoline diesel hybrid hydrogen in terms of vehicle propulsion choices" lol 😆😆😂 everybody has their differences I guess. That said, I wouldn't want a woman who's "bigger on those topics than me" - then it becomes off-putting like you say. I never am a fundamentalist, and neither would I want to date one nor make love to such a woman if she's very "high strung" likewise "if she's got no strung aka no interest in politics and shared politics or shared interests basically" -

[mysteriousNicholas]

@Titanic1912 the story of Rose and Jack is a fascinating one for the short term lol because after all, I hope I'm not too soon to say all these fictional years later that "Rose eventually, it seemed, did find love again" - titanic 🚢⚓

[mysteriousNicholas]

@Titanic1912 spoiler - like sure she seemingly sees Jack again at the end or time was reversed, however - however she couldn't have had a grandaughter or whatever without IVF or she eventually married some guy, maybe she always thought back to that frozen floating door 🚪😔 anyways - I'm getting off topic

[mysteriousNicholas]

Of course anyone reading, there's the fictional Titanic and the real life Titanic. 😆

[BCRanger10]

It's fine if there are minor deviations, but generally, a couple should be largely in agreement with each other on values. This is especially so if they intend to get married and have children. Marriage is a lifetime commitment, as is being a parent. If you want to hand on your views, values, and traditions to you children, then your spouse ought to be committed to the same as well and not merely tolerant of them. And no, not even fully benevolent. There has to be that commonality of mission.

[jshm2]

Don't be silly. That's the spice of life to have diversity in friendships and relationships.

Political views are like assholes - they all stink, even your own. But after a while you learn how to cover the smell or get used to it. But that doesn't mean other people need to tolerate yours more than theirs.

Obviously, if your boss has an opposing political view, you're going to tolerate it for the paycheck. Doesn't make you a "sellout" but you should always look out for your best interest, as other people will only talk, while doing nothing.

[Zack-Bann]

I’ve never done it in the past and I rarely dated anyone who shared my political views


But my parents have been married for 30 years and they disagree about everything politically
Still they make it work by not taking things personally


I am to be similar in my own way


But I do admit it would be simpler to date someone who shares my views

[OneViewpoint]

If I find out the person is MAGA filth then I'm not ending a good thing by definition. I'm removing a toxic personality from my life. And yes, I've done it a lot. A niece and her MAGA husband and his MAGA family. Friends. Women who try to chat me up. These people deserve to feel isolated and excluded.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@OneViewpoint
That is exactly what a person on the left would say.
The left are the ones:
Who have been whining, crying and throwing tantrums.
Who have been going against ICE.
Who have been calling for 86 47.
Who want anyone that voted for Trump killed.
Who want to get rid of guns but then want police officers killed by way of guns.
Who complained about a parade Trump had and said it was for his birthday even though it was for the 250th anniversary of our Army which happend to have been the same day.
Runing away from people once they put on a Make America Great Again hat.
Rioting but trying to claim it's a mostly peaceful protest.
Who want the police killed off.
Who call the Republicans Nazis, Trump a Fascist, MAGA a cult etc.
Who claimed the Sydney Sweeney American Eagle add was about eugenics when it was a play on words for selling jeans (pants).
Who complain about the National Guard being in major cities even though the citizens of those cities want them there.
Claim laws are racist.
Who are proud that Chalie Kirk got killed because he was shot even though they want to get rid of guns.
Do I need to keep going?

[OneViewpoint]

@MysteriousDarkness ,

Oh I’m not running away from the red hat crowd. I’m kicking you people to the curb. Socially. In business. Social media. I’m isolating you and encouraging others to do the same.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

If we can’t agree on what constitutes a human right, we’re not gonna last long as a couple

[Greek_goddess_Iris]

Absolutely not. We just agree to disagree and don't touch that subject. When it does come up, we approached it carefully and respectfully. And don't force our ways or judgment upon the other one. 16 years of friendship now. We still talk every day. Really, every day. There are a 100 other things to discuss, why focus on just one topic that will cause upsetness.

[MisterWack]

No I would not.

It is like ending a friendship because they don’t root for the same sports team or they prefer DC over Marvel or they don’t enjoy the same TV Shows as you, etc.

Like if they are good people and keep good company, why would you end it just because of political affiliation?

I would say it is normal as people to have differences and that our diverse nature makes life much more interesting and engaging also exciting. My friends are my friends, end of story.

[Hardon-Collider]

No, you'd break up with the view, not the person. It's not about politics; it's about whether your foundation is built on sand or on a real, spiritual connection. Political opinions are passing weather, but the bond between souls is an enduring reality. If a relationship can't survive a difference in opinion, it wasn't a real relationship to begin with. You break it up because the foundation was weak, and that's a good thing.

[dwreborn]

I wouldn't I've heard some people split up over support for Trump. I think if every couple agreed on everything it would be pretty bland my wife and I agree on certain things and other not nether one of us are blue or red she votes on personal views not blue or red votes for both sides

[beenherebefore]

I distanced myself from two friends who have different opinions from me regarding a certain conflict, my main issue is not that they do not support the same idea as me is the way that they worded it I found it very dehumanizing and racist. We still talk and keep each other updated on what's going on in our lives and they always invite me to go to their house but honestly last time I saw them was last December/January.

[caseybunny]

Yes definitely! I just moved to a big city for study but my dad tried to prevent me to go. He came with a lot of racists arguments.
And everyone i meet here also tells me to ignore him so I keep doing that

[RHK36]

I'd never be friends with someone who put so much stock into politics and wasn't even involved politically. Like stfu if you are just sitting on the sidelines while you're preaching and regurgitating nonsense because your views align with someone you don't even know. Politics is about as real as Hollywood. Both side are fake af, lie and only say things to keep them in power.

[genericname85]

not by default. at the end of the day, people have differing political views cause there's different ways to bring the merit for society. i would try to figure out what the base values are and how they hope to achieve which positive change through their political view. if i see that their logic is coherent even tho i believe it won't work that way, i can still appreciate their logical coherency and be with them.

[Straight2thepoint]

To break up over political views is not hard to understand. The person who is becoming hostile is not ready to vote nor mature enough to have public opinions. It takes self control and high tolerance to peacefully have discussions about personal views. It's best to remain silent and just accept the break up. Therefore you or the other person don't turn for the worse.

[Twalli]

My best friend in high school was someone who I disagreed with politically. A classmate asked how we were friend when all we seemed to do was argue. We debated politics, and we were friends because we had things to talk about. So, I would say different political views gave me a friendship.

[silvermoon84]

I would never unless my friend/boyfriend personally attacked me for my political views. You can disagree and still be respectful about it.

[aceleon]

different opinions? no.

different politic or religious believes? yes.

because politics and religious beliefs are showing your values.

and sharing different values and opinions are 2 different thing.

[Anonymous]

If they are hardcore, either way, right? Or left, they are no longer my friend. Wednesday say we won. We did this. We did that, you did nothing. You are a fat lazy fuck. Just like when people are hardcore politics, they don't know the person, they were just losers to accomplish nothing in their life.

[Nikki1989]

I have opinions just like anyone else, but I prefer to avoid the topic of politics as much as possible. I wouldn't want to be with anyone with a moronic obsession with political sides.

[HighValue]

Modern politics have a lot to do with morality. I wouldn't be with a disgustingly immoral liberal/democrat. Having compatible morals is extremely important to have a successful lasting relationship.

[AMS700CX4u2]

10 years ago I would have thought that it was nothing that would break a relationship. But now with the drastic polarization and hatred between parties, I think it would become an issue.

[Wuai201]

No for friendship, yes for relationship, if I did by chance change my mind about kids I want them to learn our values. We should be unified as parents. They can respect the other viewpoint tho.

[qwerty2469]

If it was moderate nah. But extreme? Yea. Nobody likes extremists. I have seen the left cut off way more people and for way less serious disagreements. Thats because they have way less diversity of thought on their side of the ideological fence.

[snowboarder720]

There’s a difference between having an opinion and having bigotry. Red hats don’t seem to know that difference and it’s well worth cutting off any relationship.

[qwerty2469]

I can see why all your friends cut you off. You are a bigot. You cannot accept diversity of thought. Thats why you call red hats bigots simply for having a different opinion. The definition of bigot. Ironic. I bet you thought so highly of yourself. Narcissistic. Typical of liberals.

[snowboarder720]

Haha your reply didn’t age well. MAGA pulled Jimmy Kimmel for his diversity of thought. He wasn’t spewing bigotry and having a political platform to push bigotry into our law system. He’s just a comedian being a comedian.

[qwerty2469]

Maga didn't pull anything. His bosses did. Because he is bad for business. Because happy sane people are leaving the miserable leftist party that likes violence and murder in droves.

[snowboarder720]

His bosses did because MAGA would. The “I don’t care about your feelings” crowd want us to care about their feelings. The irony! They can’t differentiate opinions vs bigotry while defending a pedophile who’s wiping the Epstein files as we speak. They are scum of the earth.

[qwerty2469]

His bosses did because he lost more than 70% of his viewers in 8 years. The key demographic. He was a money loser.

[snowboarder720]

Trump and his followers are just cancelling anyone who doesn’t agree with them. It’s pretty plain and simple. Their feelings are hurt after complaining for YEARS about cancel culture they begin doing it themselves. Typical conservative mindless uneducated moron behavior.

[qwerty2469]

Jimmy Kimmels speech has never been more free. Nobody is paying for it. He can talk all he wants on hid podcast that nobody listens too. You are such a weak homo.

[snowboarder720]

Haha if he had free speech this wouldn’t be an issue then would it? Lol there’s the direct insults validating my point that MAGA can’t take a mature loss as usual.

[qwerty2469]

Another leftist that can't read. How is Jimmy Kimmels speech limited? He isn't in jail because of the government. He was fired for declining ratings and a growing boycott over the vile things he said.

[snowboarder720]

Haha you’re the only one with reading problems. It’s clear that Trump and the rest of his pedophilia protectors have a problem with him when he makes a light joke about his response to the assassination. Trump is mad cuz he’s not having his way, yet again.

[qwerty2469]

Yeah thats what I thought. You can't make a point because you dont have one. You attack Trump trying to hurt me, I always hated Trump. Because he is the opposite of the Nazi you promised he was. A Isreal first champion of Black people.

[snowboarder720]

I’ve started my point a few times. Proving that you’re the one that can’t read again 😂 the incompetence with you is comedic. After your insults comes with your nonsense.

[qwerty2469]

Agree to disagree that you had a point or stated it.

[snowboarder720]

The thing is about facts and truth is you don’t have to agree with them for it to have actually happened. I know that’s a hard one for red hats to understand. Haha

[qwerty2469]

Again. Everyone can read the stupid shit you said. All you have is baseless attacks at me instead of the argument. Red hat? I've never worn one or voted for Trump. Im a Liberterian. You are a brainwashed troll

[snowboarder720]

Who said this is an argument? I’m just laughing at you. Stop playing the victim. You speak exactly like a red hat but then play it off like that’s not what you follow. That in itself is comedic, really.

[Kori1236]

I don’t talk politics with friends and relationships. It’s an agree to disagree situation if they go against what I believe

[ChicoFromThe305]

Not if they can accept me for what I believe, since the ones troubled with others opinions is usually from the ones that believe the opposite of what I do

[Flatmanlewis]

No. I wouldn’t. Some of my close friends have differing opinions and we value each other more than any ideology.

[avery58]

Only if they're extremist and it's their whole personality

[TonyMetal___86]

If you want miss avery to be compatible with you, bring her a box of chocolate 😁🍫

[avery58]

@TonyMetal___86 of course, you can never go wrong in life with chocolates lol

[TonyMetal___86]

Haha, the sweet tooth can never be resisted 😂

[Spencer10]

I believe that its possible to agree to disagree without being disagreeable. So all things being equal the answer is no.

[MannMitAntworten]

No. My friends are adults. We have different perspectives a s opinions neither them or I would do that. We also don’t get emotional over our disagreements.

[WhitneySnow]

Only if the person kept trying to change me

[mysteriousNicholas]

@WhitneySnow to snow or not to snow 🥲😅❄️🌨️

[mysteriousNicholas]

@WhitneySnow my attempt at comedy you know - after all, I say let's go ice skating you say "no" and I'm like "aww, so much for that"

[mysteriousNicholas]

I'd have it all discussed prior ✏️ 📝 lol 🗣️

[mysteriousNicholas]

During a date, I'm not one to not date a woman who I've already sized up as attractive 👀 visually, nice voice to my eardrums specifically, nice personality (or seemingly) - and doesn't mind talking shop on the first date or few dates as an alternative personality somewhat "I have no shame mentioning religion, politics and other all on the first date" 🌹

[mysteriousNicholas]

If she was the similarly or same, then hell there is a devil and a god and gods 🥹🥲

[DrPepper12]

No! Of course not! You simply agree to disagree and enjoy the things you have in common together.

[Anonymous]

Not so long as she could RESPECT my opinion. We don't have to see things exactly alike (although it helps😆). But as long as I cannot respect her position and she can respect t mine, there's no problem.

[Anonymous]

Hasn't happened yet and I expect, and hope, it never does.

[ilistengood]

I can tell you there would be some serious discussions about reasons.

[lorenzomichael]

I wouldn’t break up with any girl because of politics. But if she didn’t like Led Zeppelin, I’d break up with her on the spot.

[TonyMetal___86]

Nope cause love is more powerful than politics and anything in this world, family comes always first!

[sage2021]

To begin with, I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone who had opposite political views than I have.

[TonyMetal___86]

@sage2021 well i guess, we all have our own views and opinions, good for you 😏

[sage2021]

@TonyMetal__86

Well, in order to have a love relationship and keep arguments and indifference between the two of you, having the same political views lessens tention and arguments and debates which don't add to a love relationship but only cause friction and sometimes to the point that it can ruin your love relationship.
So if you are both on the same page with your political views you can be yourself when talking about it without feeling like you are going to get into a heated conversation every time politics comes into your conversations. That would cut way down on love relationships not lasting.
So, that's why I said what I said. To keep the love between us.

[TonyMetal___86]

@sage2021 what you said is true, but shouldn't a wife only think about her husband, why does a woman even care about politics? 🤣🤣

Don't you think that politics is a man's business? By the way, to hell with politics because it makes people fight and hate each other 😁

[sage2021]

@TonyMetal__86

Shouldn't a wife ONLY think about her husband you ask.
Well, for sure, no, because she wouldn't have very much of a life of her own.
A husband isn't her God that she has to worship only him. That's pretty selfish and to me, unrealistic.

[TonyMetal___86]

@sage2021 i guess that i'm just an unrealistic man, if i'm not going to be everything in my wife's life than better be nothing for her, i'm not just another accessory inside her box, sorry 🙂

[sage2021]

@TonyMetal__86

And what would she be?

[TonyMetal___86]

@sage2021 everything to me 😌

[sage2021]

@TonyMetal__86
That's nice🙂

[SoccerPlayer99]

I would not break up with someone over politics. Their world view on the other hand is a different thing.

[LiamJHayden]

If she turned out to be an actual totalitarian or a bigot, yes. If she is normal conservative, moderate, or liberal, no.

[soe11]

• No never.
• Why should I?
• It is choice of individual.

[Jersey2]

Nope. But there would be a lot of ball busting and joking around.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

That political BS is tiring. As long she isn't a b*&^@ & and I get along her I will be with her if we like each other.

[Jamesgoldrich]

Depending on the view i can see how it may break a friendship or affect how close you both are or are not going to be in the future. It really depends.

[Anonymous]

depends on how they viewed the Charlie Kirk assassination

[Sudheerk]

No, never political views and friendship or relationship are totally different things.

[Vegasrunner]

Proably, but most of my woman all subscribe to my political view.

[TwoToTooTutu2]

No, but if the difference caused them to act like an an obnoxious douchbag, yes.

[Still-alive]

I would never ever date a maga chick in the first place

[dragoblack]

It's honestly depends on the specifics of the views.

[Anonymous]

Probably no, but it depends on her political views.

[SunshineFlowers92]

No I would respect the fact they are different.

[Novembaby]

No. What a stupid thing to lose friends over.

[loveyouoak]

Yes, I would.

[mysteriousNicholas]

@loveyouoak oak trees know what they want

[Anonymous]

if someone was bringing in migrants they must leave. Ukrianain refugees are ok though.