Is no contact really the best thing to do with an ex if the breakup was amicable?

[Anonymous]

Yes it is

No it’s not

[Summeroflove]

Well that depends on the situation sometimes it really is best for both people to respectfully leave one another alone based off a mutual agreement. Both people need time to grieve. Can you be friends later on? Possibly. But sometimes people need that grief period.

This is a conversation people should have respectfully with one another. Unless it’s something important that would require us to talk to one another. No contact. Not talking just for the sake of talking, not reminiscing old times sake, nothing unless it’s a good reason. Like…. Someone’s pregnant or has a STD. If you have kids together or were married. Well that complicates things. But there is respectful healthy boundaries that can be established by both persons in those cases.

If someone has respect for you as a human being. They will honor that wish…. If someone refuses to leave you alone that becomes a problem.

[Zack-Bann]

Worst thing you can do is keep the back door open for an ex to slip back in at night


You will never truly move on and it will pollute all your next relationships even if the breakup with amicable


I’ve only ever had amicable breakups and I learned the hard way that it’s best to make a clean break even then
As tempting as it may be to keep an option open

[Simslover92]

While I would recommend it if you still have feelings for the person like I did, it helped me grow and become stronger. I now have no feelings for him and feel like we can finally have a platonic relationship. It took over a year but better late than never.

But I feel if you don't have feelings for each other and it ended amicably, you can have a friendship after the breakup.

[Bitter_Sweet94]

It depends on what both people truly need.

Sometimes no contact gives space to heal and reset.

Sometimes a light, respectful distance works just as well.

The key is being honest with yourself about whether staying connected helps you move forward or holds you back.

[Asker]

But generally if it’s amicable both parties want to stay friends? And I don’t see the issue tbh - a bit like how you’d keep in touch with a job after you leave on good terms

[Bitter_Sweet94]

Friendship after a breakup can work, but it isn’t as neutral as leaving a job.

People don’t just walk away from emotions the way they walk away from a role.

Some people can stay friends because both hearts are truly clean.

Some can’t, because the bond was deeper or the healing takes longer.

Amicable doesn’t always mean “stay close.”

Sometimes it simply means “no bad blood.”

[Rei13]

I personally think no contact for a little while is best regardless of how the relationship ended. You can always reconnect later but it gives both people time to heal. No set time frame for it.

[Cuminginside]

True that!

[DishLady]

It might be. Just because you’re not “at odds” with each other doesn’t mean there won’t be some level of cock-blocking or emotional twinges down the line.

[AviatorTom]

My wife and I amicably divorced after 20 years of marriage. We have 3 kids and still see each other at family events. If a breakup was amicable, there's no reason to totally avoid contact.

[Finchie40]

Immediately after any break up , it’s best to take a lot of time apart

[Nikki1989]

No, it is immature. What is so hard about remaining friends with those you were once friends with? Being civil is mature; the no-contact nonsense is lame and so juvenile. We have exes coming over tomorrow night to party, and we are eagerly awaiting it.

[Asker]

Would you invite them to your wedding if you ever got married? Or did you invite them if you’re already married?

[Nikki1989]

Two came to our wedding. One drove our hired limo for the event. One now lives not far from here.

[Asker]

How did you introduce them? Do they also now have partners?

[Asker]

And I guess it was an amicable breakup? I’m curious if there was any no or less contact at all in the immediate time after the breakup?

[sawno]

For us it was at least directly after the breakup, it was to painful to be just friends when we loved each other so much still (circumstances didn't allow it). These days were on no-contact when either is in a relationship. So if she ever breaks up and I am single she can reach out again. But since went into a new relationship she shouldn't expect a message from me since we agreed not to be in contact out of respect for each others new partners. Otherwise it would probably get messy.

[Straight2thepoint]

This is a funny topic. Ex's are like trial sample shoes. You amongst some, or many have tried to see the fitment. Whatever the reason, it was a pass. Till u found the right shoe. Going back to those shoe and wearing them because people are doing it. Or because ur desperate and the shoes are free?

[HighValue]

Any contact with an ex while in a relationship would be cheating so cutting all contact even before entering a new relationship is the best policy.

[Asker]

Is it?

[beenherebefore]

It is the right thing to do I mean if you break up with someone you also need to break up that bond and give it some time. Only time will tell if you can be friends or not.

[VioletHaze]

If the breakup was amicable, it doesn't have to welcome drama, unless you still harbor feelings of some sort. So, while I'd rather not, it doesn't have to be bad.

[BonzoInBitburg]

Yes it is. It's fine to reconnect and be friends later on but you need that time by yourself to regroup and reset.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

If there’s no contact after the break up, it wasn’t amicable

[Asker]

Interesting point. Can an out of the blue breakup amicable?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

One-sided, maybe

[jshm2]

Depends, if they are clingy or not. Personally, I still speak and do business with some of my ex's.

[whiskeyontherocks]

If it’s actually amicable it really doesn’t matter
That’s normally not the case even when stated. So just set solid boundaries and it shouldn’t be a problem

[Drumlin2001]

Why keep intouch? Unless kids involved then move on

[Rangers]

Either get back with her, or keep her out of your life. No in between bullcrap

[Cleopatra2000]

Yes it’s the best way to get over the break up.

[Anonymous]

Probably not, but I don't have an ex, so I don't know.

[exitseven]

yes, they are in the rear view mirror.

[DrPepper12]

Why not be friends? WTF?

[beefcakebradybatson]

Depends on the reason for the breakup.

[WonderingManII]

Yes it is.

[jahaims]

Duh.