Is it normal to feel this jealous and lonely after a breakup?

[Anonymous]

Went through a break up. Have no friends, he has tons of friends, he’s with a very pretty girl now. Tbh, I’m jealous and sad I have no problem admitting I’m jealous. Maybe a little angry, or whatever but I’m just keeping to myself. Deactivated all social media because I don’t wana end up seeing something or to be reminded. Am I the only one? I have these fears of being alone. I dont know why.

[Finchie40]

Yes it’s normal , especially if your ex immediately jumped from you to someone else right away , like a rebound. When my ex and i split up, she immediately made plans with her girlfriend to go on vacation together just the 2 of them , going to a beach together , which tells me she already had this planned for quite sometime , what girls’ usually do before officially breaking off a relationship , so she doesn’t feel so guilty for her selfish actions or behavior which i guarantee she was up to not good when she went. But I realized it’s no longer
My problem and I feel bad for any guy that falls for her selfishness mindset

[Asker]

Same here. But I feel like he was “emotionally”
Gone along time ago with out telling me, which in a way it’s almost like “leading” me on into thinking that everything was ok when in reality it wasn’t, I had to guess for myself how he was feeling atm, is everything ok? You know I guess bad communication. But he moved on. Nothing I can do. Everyone has free will

[Finchie40]

I’m sorry to hear that he did that to you , and unfortunately a lot of people do the same thing like he did because they can’t accept the fact that they are wrong , even though they are the one that is wrong. A lot of people have a hard time admitting that they are wrong , so instead they act like everything is ok until everything is set in stone for them to walk away. Selfishness is one of the biggest relationship killers and everyone has selfishness inside themselves , so the best thing to do is find yourself someone that isn’t selfish that always makes you their top priority the same way you should do to them

[Asker]

That really does make sense. I don’t ever wana become that type of person to do that. I have some suitors already but I’m just not wanting to do that right now when I am trying to heal. It wouldn’t be fair to the new guy.

[Finchie40]

Yea it’s selfish and pathetic to be that way , but unfortunately there are a lot of selfish people out there , so stick to the way you are , because that is the respectful way to do things , even after my ex and I ended , a few girls’ starting showing interest in me and I told them I need time for myself and I am not rushing into anything with anyone until I feel ready to give myself 100 percent , so I don’t mind being friends’ with a girl that is slowly trying to get to know one another but relationship is going to take some time for me to be in one again

[SueShe]

Never having been in a breakup (or a relationship for that matter), I cannot answer from my own experience but I would say that it is pretty normal to feel down and to try to find faults with yourself. Mainly if that breakup was due to reasons that were not really communicated, then you make up a bunch of scenarios in your mind as to why this happened.

Of course, believing that the new girlfriend is prettier would probably make anyone jealous if that boyfriend was so superficial as to breakup the relationship because of the looks only.

Yes, feeling lonely is probably the next step that follows jealousy, mainly in view also that if you don't have any friends, you will suddenly find yourself all alone and thinking over what went wrong.

Get out and meet new people or find yourself a hobby or join a club where you can meet new people. That is a great way to get out of this vicious circle. Good luck.

[FreyaRed]

Generally people don't date below their league what means about 3-4 edges you aren't ugly as well because he wouldn't date you before hand if you were ugly and she wouldn't date him if he were not in her league. This is just my short assumption.
What can you do? Find another guy and forget him.
Jealousy is an ego game and you can control you ego with a little bit self-control.
First step is to evaluate your former relationship in a rational way without being to emotional. Was it worth you time, what was for you in this relationship, was he really a person who deserved your emotions?
Nice and pleasant memories are one thing but real estimation of a relationship another, you have to do that to get rid of your jealousy.

[William7489]

Of course not. It’s very common to feel that way after a breakup. The reality is a breakup is more about the other person and not you. However, it’s impossible not to take it personally when someone breaks up with you. All you gotta do is take care of yourself, don’t leave yourself a lot of free time, stay healthy and positive and give time its way to solve all problems. You’ll get , don’t leave yourself a lot of free time, stay healthy and positive and give time its way to solve all problems. You’ll get over it eventually. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

[Sammy098]

It's completely normal how you feel

[TonyMetal___86]

Perfectly normal

[ZameerAnsari91]

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