Broke up with my girlfriend because of too much fighting...

[iloveny]

so I had to end a 4 month relationship with a girl who I did actually love, because of constant fighting, and it's too much stress and work for such a short period of time in the beginning of a relationship. I get that people fight, and it's not out of the norm. and for her it's especially, but unfortunately normal. she has a short fuse and is quick to fight over basically anything whether it has anything do with me or not. I understand some girls definitely do have short tempers, as do guys and I was accepting of this with her. but it got to a point where I just found myself unhappy with it. the past 2 weeks it was just good day bad day good day bad day, so I just felt like I had to remove myself from it. I broke up with her on Wednesday and she has been relentlessly trying to get me back. she's pulling out all of the stops, begging begging begging, hysterically just doing everything and telling me she's going to change and this is a wake up call and she knows it's a problem she has and it's harsh lesson but wants to change and wants to change for me. I feel awful about it because I know I'm a nice guy and I don't like to see people in pain. it scares me because I know that if its tough now, what's to happen when there are actual real life stresses that normally would cause arguments and problems. she has been so sincere about everything and is pulling out all of the stops to get me back. and I keep telling her I need the time and space to figure out if I do want it and do miss her and just keeps begging. do I give her another chance? benefit of the doubt?

[Anonymous]

I think you should look around her not just about you and her. Is she fighting with everybody else the same? Is her life a mess because of her short temper. If yes, forget about her, she'll kill you with all the drama and fighting. People that have a long history of short temper and fighting usually don't change, especially not overnight. To me just the fact that you needed to break-up with her after only 4 months reveals she must be quite extreme. Been there, done that, never again.

[Distant]

Tell her straight. If she's going to be insecure and short-tempered, you're done with her. No use wasting your time and efforts while you're barely enjoying yourself. Being around the person you're in love with should be a pleasure not a chore. A second chance is fine but never let it get to a third chance.

[sarawelsh122]

if you do seriously care about her then give her another chance...but do tell her the reason why you broke up with her and tell her that you need to be doing something else to make it work! tell her she has to change if she wants the relationship to continue! sometimes people don't know the good things they have until they're gone...and she seeing that now after you broke up with her!