Girlfriend broke up with me because of stress..

[Anonymous]

Me and my girlfriend had been dating almost a year. I was there when she lost her mother and when she didn't have a place to stay she stayed with me, I attended her graduation,I went to all her family events. Well the last few months she been acting really strange we been off and on, I thought it was another guy but she end up telling me it wasn't another guy. she had to break up with me because her life is to stressful and she having a lot of family issues and money problems at the moment and she is tired of putting me on a emotional roller-coaster ride. So then one night I text her she said she will try to get back with me when her life get back straight but the other day she sent me an email saying she didn't know if we will ever be together but she loves me to death but she so stressed out. I love her so much, I want to help her, her problems were stressing me out but I dealt with em because, I love her and I can see her as my wife one day. I love her family, they treat me like there own, but I don't understand how she can just up and leave me when I was trying to help her.. I really believe theirs another guy but she claims she is 2 stress to date, She said she just want to handle things on her own now. I'm scared someone will take my angel away. She told me I'm the perfect guy and any woman is great to have me but I shouldn't wait on her coming back.. I love her she my world, I don't know where I went wrong. I tried my best to keep her happy. Now I want to know why do girls leave when they get stress. I think this should bring her closer.. Why would she do this to me she told me I was her rock and will she ever come back?

[MissedConnection10]

MissedConnection10A minute agoOhhh, that's so sweet how you talk about her.

Well, I guess with all the stress she is going through right now she just doesn't want the added stress of being in a relationship; whether it is good/bad, relationship is *stress*. And, hopefully, if she is being truthful a/b there not being another guy, she will come around.

Maybe she's worried that you will leave her if it gets worse but you're a good guy for sticking it and she's lucky to have you.

Have you told her what you've typed in your question? Specifically what I copied and pasted below:

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I love her so much, I want to help her, her problems were stressing me out but I dealt with em because, I love her and I can see her as my wife one day. I love her family, they treat me like there own, but I don't understand how she can just up and leave me when I was trying to help her.. I really believe theirs another guy but she claims she is 2 stress to date, She said she just want to handle things on her own now. I'm scared someone will take my angel away.

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If you tell her what you wrote, you can also tell her that you're there to support/love her all the way, you'll be there for her and hope she comes back. She may just need reassurance.

But, after having said all that, I think all you can do it to back off and give her her space.

[Asker]

Thanx so much for the advice... and by the way I sent her an email simmlar to what I wrote up here so thanks for the idea..

[MissedConnection10]

No problem, good luck. Oops, forgot to check the grammar errors, oh well.

[Kamilah]

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww that's so sweet :), the way you just expressed your feelings for her like that. Listen sweety, Its obvious that you're in love with this girl & believe it or not I'm sure she's also in love with you. Your girl has been through a lot & thankfully you were always there for her (which is awesome & trusy she appreciates you 4 it) but sometimes people simply have to let go, expand their wings & learn to fly by themselves even if it means falling down a 1000 times. If you as me there's no other guy & even if you were to find out that she had a 1 night stand there's no need to worry because no other guy will ever take your place & she knows this! In my opinion, she feels like she's being 2 much of a burden 2 you holding you back because of her unstable life. She feels like she needs to let you go & do things on her own even if it breaks her heart. The only reason she told you to find someone else is because she might think that she's just not 2 good enough for you & you need to meet & date other girls. Time can only tell whether you 2 will get back together (and I hope you 2 do) but right now she has a battle of her own & she needs space to but her back 2gether. I know its extremely painful to let someone you love so much go but its something you must do & believe it or not she needs to take this step in life too. Wish you 2 the best of luck :), you truly are a diamond in the rough !

[Asker]

Wow thank you so so so so much..

[Kamilah]

Your more than welcome sweet heart :)

[Asker]

She text me today asking for her stuff back, but the stuff she referring to is only a pic and a small cheap neckless the rest of the stuff I been gave to her two months ago, so I guess she really over me than. Thank

[Kamilah]

No that means she's using stupid excuses to see you but be strong, ignore her & mover on :)

[Anonymous]

I'm going through the exact same thing man. One day she's in my arms and we are great, and the next she is moved out saying she loves me but dosn't want to be together and its over. the most unfortunate thing is that I miss her so badly even when we do text or talk I dig my hole deeper by asking questions and putting pressure on her. This seems like a pretty common thing, and its just a part of the grief process, but who knows if and when she will come around. My girl moved out and took all her stuff, but left things like her eye glasses, a purse, cloathes, her birth certificate. And about once a week she needs things. Even tho I've offered her to come get her stuff, or even drop it off at her grannies house she dosnt want to do that. Just try to relax, be glad you don't have a mortguage and give it time. Definitely post and advice for me since I now see this was posted 6 months ago.

[mikenice8]

Dude don't blame yourself, she has gone through a lot and she needs sometime to herself to vent and have some alone time. Send her a gift with a small note saying you understand and that times have been hard so keep her chin up and know that when she's ready you'll be right there waiting for her. Don't smother her and pressure her, let her have her time and she'll be back. Send her a message about once a week to show you still care and you haven't walked away

[Asker]

thanx