My ex is flirtIng with my best friend. Say what?

[Anonymous]

My ex boyfriend and I have been apart for 3 months now and he started flirting with my best friend a month later. Knowing full well that I hate it when he flirts with her and every other girl he meets. He's the flirtatious charmer type person. I've been talking to my friend and somehow all of our conversations end up about him. Especially because a week before Christmas he and I got into a huge fight with each other. And I refuse to talk to him now because of his inability to stay committed to a person and his desire to make everyone follow his commands. My friend keeps trying to get me to talk to him, but the problem is, she flirts back with him. They both are kind of flirty by nature. I'm unsure of what is going on in this situation. I need a third point of view to tell me what they think about this situation and how I should go about handling it.

[aelfendraca]

It could be a case of miscommunication. Maybe things look more flirty than they are. On the other hand, maybe not... But if this person is a good friend, and they're talking to your ex at all, they probably ought to mention it to you... At least, that would be the rule with my friends! I say, ask them about it. And, personally, I think exs are off limits when it comes to friends. You can't be mad at your ex for moving on, finding someone else, sure. You're not together anymore so he's free to go find someone else to be with. And if he does like a friend of yours, and they like him back, that's fine. So long as they check with you first before pursuing it. Otherwise it's just wrong. People's feelings get hurt.

[Mrsupaakeru]

You can't be mad at your ex for flirting with other, you're broken up. It's petty for you not to want your boyfriend to have another relationship because he hurt you. Move on.

On the other hand you should tell your friend that it hurts that she is flirting with your ex when you 2 just broke up and your feelings are still raw. Also ask her why she is flirting with him and ask her to stop. If she says it's not serious and nothing else happens then let it go but if it gets serious maybe you should get a new friend.

[ibej818]

You guys broke up for a reason.

Cease all communication with him. PERIOD.

If your friend wants to date him. Then feel good that he's "her" problem now.

I just don't understand why people force themselves to hang out with people they don't like.

You bring this drama all upon yourself.

[6Paul11]

What happens next isn't up to you. Your ex can do what he wants because you two are no longer together. You can't stop your friend from doing what she wants either. If the two of them want to be together, they can be together, as much as it sucks for you. You can tell your friend how you feel, but none of this is in your control.

[Claudia0319]

I completely disagree