Guys: If your ex completely cuts you off, would it hurt your feelings?

[Anonymous]

Say you and your girlfriend have a civil breakup, but then she decides not to talk to you at all, doesn't text or call you, deletes you and your friends on Facebook

How would you take it? Bitterness? The right thing to do?

Would you do the same thing to her? Would you at least keep any pictures of her around?

Why wouldn't you try contacting her?

And how would you react if you bumped into her in person?

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Even when you two decided to become friends later on.

[sfauo]

The fact that she isn't talking to me at all, deleting me on FB, would show that she really isn't interested in being friends even if we 'decided' to be friends. Actions speak louder than words.

I'd understand though, maybe she's just trying to move on by not having to contact/see me. Maybe she never even cared about being friends. But there's really nothing else I could try to do besides respecting her decision and not contacting/seeing her either, mostly due to self-respect, as in I wouldn't like to be the only one trying to keep the friendship. It really depends on the context, because sometimes it doesn't hurt to check up on someone even if they don't care to contact you.

I wouldn't keep pictures of her, that only leads to missing them and making the healing process of breaking up much harder. If I bumped into her in person, I'd say hi. Maybe even talk. It just depends on the vibe I get from her, if she was trying to get away then I'd recognize it and say see ya. If she was talking, then that'd be OK too.

But again, all depends on the relationship, the break up, how recovered they are from it, and their sincere effort in being friends.

[TheDigitalSaint]

All of the girls I've broken up with I've completely deleted their contact info and pictures, even when we break up peacefully. I'm not one to obsess on the past and wouldn't care if a girl did likewise. If she wants to find me later, I've probably already moved on.

[Deft_maiden]

Agreed

[BirdofParadise]

I've been through my fair share of break ups, and I have learned that having no contact and deleting that person from my life is the best way to move on. I always tell me exes that I need to do this, and ask them to not contact me... that way they know I am not doing it to hurt them. Most guys understand, a couple have had some immature reactions to it but in the end it was always for the best.

As for being friends, I wouldn't recommend that... it just gives you something to hold onto and hold you back. Plus, you risk getting in a situation where one person is stringing the over along.

[Asker]

That's what I was thinking. I cut him and all his friends off but I feel like it shows I'm still butthurt over the breakup which I'm not. I added him again because I wanted to show him I was "ok" but I felt weird about it so I cancelled the request..lol. And he still has my picture in his uploads but he made all of his other info private and deleted the pictures of him and me...so I'm really confused about how he feels because I wouldn't know how to react if I met him in person!

[BirdofParadise]

Its normal to wonder what he is doing in his life. However he is not part of your life anymore so you don't get to know how he feels about everything... and he doesn't get to know how you feel. I wouldn't worry about how he interprets your actions, at this point the only thing that matters is doing what is best for you. And that means keeping him deleted from your life.

[Asker]

I've been trying really really hard and it's been so difficult for me but I agree, avoiding him is probably the best for me. Thanks.