She still talks to her ex.

[Anonymous]

I'm just started dating a girl. But she still talks to her ex. She told me that she and him were friends, and they dated briefly but it didn't work out. She still talks to him, and says there is nothing to worry about. What's up with that? And I know for a fact that he wants to get back together with her. I don't understand why they still talk. I'm worried that she still wants him, even though she says she doesn't.

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Okay, so apparently I need to clarify. I've said nothing to her about it. He called once when I was there she talked to him, and then she told me who it was. When she said his name, I new it was her ex because she had talked about him before.

[MaxPrime]

Look ALL I can say is that being the "jealous boyfriend" is unattractive to girls. This shows insecurity. Show her that YOU are the man by taking her out, making her laugh, LEADING her. Do this WITHOUT mentioning if she has talked to her ex. Don't say things, DO things with her. Fun things. Let her know through your ACTIONS that you like/want her. The more you mention the "ex" the more she will feel like you don't trust her making her feel sad...a.k.a. NOT HAPPY. Think about it she has an ex, everyone does so no matter what girl you are in a relationship with, they will have an ex and may talk to them. Be the MAN and LEAD her.

ps. If she talks about her ex to you, then tell her ONCE, (not shouting) just calmly tell her not to mention him in front of you and that it makes you uncomfortable. She should understand this. Again I can't say this enough, don't talk about it, LEAD HER.

[Asker]

I'm not jealous... but I don't want to waste time on a girl that isn't over the last one.

[MaxPrime]

Lol I like your thinking, this shows your value to yourself, but know that 80% of the time (total guess but I'm sure more than 50%) girls still talk to there ex's. Again do the flip, haven't you ever talked to your ex.

[Asker]

Once I'm over a girl I won't talk to them... unless I'm drunk and horny or something. And it's not true that all girls talk to there ex's. Some do and some don't. If she talks to her ex's for the same reason I talk to mine....

[Anonymous]

I still talk to my most recent ex sometimes and she knows I didn't want her to leave me and that I want to get back together, but I also know that she chose this other guy over me and that as long as this other guy keeps her happy she will be with him and not me. So in saying that, just keep her happy and don't worry about the other guy, she will feel secure that you will continue to make her happy and won't have any reason to go back to her ex. Although if you do think that her ex is going to be a problem then just stop dating her, easy as that, then you don't even have to worry about it anymore.

[Anonymous]

firstly, stop worrying the more you ask your girlfriend about him the more she will push you away! I can understand why your worried, but it is actually comon for girls to still talk to there ex's as they don't just see them as someone they went out with and it is quite possible for them to become friends.. that doesn't mean anything. stop answering her about and start thinking about your relationship.

[Asker]

I haven't said anything to her about it. I just don't get it.

[Buttercup2009]

If she wanted to be with him, she would be with him, not you. You are over analyzing it. I still talk to most of my exs.. it doesn't mean anything. We are still good friends. That doesn't take away from the fact that I like the guy I am currently dating. not at all... Don't worry about it! Just trust your girlfriend. If you can't trust her than the two of you should not be together.

[A-Soldiers-Wife07]

My husband still talks to a few of his exes. Not a big deal, people CAN be friends after relationships. Trust her, because if you keep asking her about it she's gonna think you don't trust her and that alone will ruin your relationship with her.

[faberfan]

Yeah I don't it. The girl I'm talking with still goes out to drink with her ex, even though she doesn't ever plan on being with him. But this guy f***ing hit her, and she is still his friend.

Girls are weird. But all you can do is trust her. If she does get back with him then it will just end like it did before, only this time she'll be shit outta luck cause you'll be gone too. Just do what MaxPrime said.