He won't let me move on?

Question

So one week ago today, my boyfriend and I broke up. We had decided to date sometime in the future, like months ahead. I told him tonight, that thinking about it, I just couldn't do it because this has been too hard on me. Basically, I can't handle waiting for us to date sometime again, I need him back or I need to let him go. I asked him his opinion, if he wanted to date soon, or I couldn't promise him we would date again. He still wants to date in a few months. I told him he needed to let me know if I should move on or not. He said he didn't know how to answer that. I'm upset, because I can't keep on undecided about if I should move on or not. I have no idea where to go from here.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

it's not that he won't let you, the only person stopping yourself is you.

I was in the same situation, I guess you can say I still am, but I've learned to move on. I would sit and think and whine about how I wish we were still together, but that doesn't do anything so I learned I just have to move on, there's someone else out there for me so why am I relying on him for my happiness? Right now I am embracing being single and learning that I'm better off alone than in bad company, or even in general in a relationship. I know it's hard to wait and let things go by, but you have to be patient with it, other wise it just delays the whole process.

I am in the same position as you, trust me I feel a lot better knowing that I'm better off alone and that I shouldn't rely on anyone for my own happiness, it took me a while to figure that out. Just give it time.

QueenBeatris · Accepted Answer

just do you girl,u might find someone else during this time and won't want to go back to him..the fact that he postponed the relationship makes me conclude he is trying it out with someone new and if that fails you will be the fall back girl,never fall for someone who won't stand by you..he sounds like a jerk

angel1142 · Accepted Answer

Move on... If he can't let you know right now and says he wants to date you in a few months, it's most likely because he just wants you as a plan b...

And I'm sure you want to be his first choice so you should be open to chances of dating someone better and forget all about him.

WaitingAtTheDoor · Accepted Answer

It really sounds like you do want to move on. So follow that lead and be done with it.

It takes two people to make a relationship work.

If he wants one thing and you want another, and they are in total conflict...well, that's the breaks.

stercor · Accepted Answer

He won't let you move on?  Wrong. You won't let you move on. Establish boundaries.  You're each trampling on the others.  It'll be difficult, but you'll feel a freedom that you hadn't before.

toulouse · Answer

you can't rely on him to stop the ambiguity. yu decide to move on. you do it. then yore no longer uncertain about what's going on. just move on. its not within his power to prevent you from doing so.

MonkE · Answer

It sounds like he's saying he wants to date other girls right now and if he can't succeed with them he wants to be able to run back to you.  Dump his ass and move on.