My girlfriend is way to naive and guys use that to take advantage, it pisses me off

[Anonymous]

I really love my girlfriend she is very funny and out going we have lots of fun together and she's also extremely generous almost like a saint, for example one time it was one of those awful rainy days and we were supposed to meet at a coffee and she arrived completely wet, she lied to me and told me she forgot her umbrella but later I found out she gave it to a homeless guy, there was other time when she got a extra money from work she was planning on buying clothes and stuff, but then she decided to donate the money to charity. She constantly does stuff like that and I really appreciate and admire her for that but sometimes people take advantage of her and she doesn't even realize because she think everyone is like her. She's also very hot and pretty so guys hit on her and take advantage of her kindness to get closer to her, , she acts nice like she acts with everybody and guys think she's flirting back. I know she doesn't realize because before we were in a relationship I had to be blunt and straight forward for her to see my intentions.

We get in some fights because of this problem is just so obvious to me, but she doesn't see it, what should I do?

[hazuki-chan]

Some qualities in people that make them special, are also her flaws. This is a perfect example. It's nice that in this depraved and rotten world, people like your girlfriend exist. I also do things like this, but I'm not naive. If I were you, I wouldn't try to change this special quality. Believe me, the world would be a better place if there were more people like your girlfriend.

It's almost comforting to know that her innocence hasn't completely vanished with age. All you can really do is protect her. Don't try to change her.

[Nexovous]

My girlfriend is the same way and it scares the s hit out of me. She's told me stories of guys trying to rape her before I was around. She also has shown explicit interest in her to say the least. I'm a heartbeat away from kicking his ads because he got handsy a couple weeks ago. My biggest fear is someone is going to take full advantage of her and do inseparable damage when I'm not around to protect her.

[jpinka]

aww she is so sweet >.<

but yes waay too naive I dnt know what to say, its ot somthign you can fix but maybe give her other ways she can donate or help pple. like instead of giveign her umbrella she can carry an extra one or buy a new one to give som1.

maybe teach her how to be smart and giving. like put aside money in her pocket to give away rather than take out her whole wallet, for example.

hope this helps

[irina_90]

Well I know she probably doesn't listen to you and you think you know better but sometimes you could learn some things with her instead of being the other way around. I'm sure you recall some event where she teach you a lesson. If you don't than you should open your eyes

I'm not calling you girlfriend a kid, but it's similar to kids they may be innocent and stuff but sometimes they can be much wiser and happy about life

[G_GTom]

As long as she's not proposing to take other people's money ( taxes ) to distribute to others, I'm fine if she wants to give all of her stuff away. Once all her stuff is gone, the tax payer should not be on hook for decisions. If we see eye to eye on this, I'm cool with anything she wants to give away.

Some people have to learn the hard way. There's no problem with having a good heart, but you have to do in a responsible way.

[Anonymous]

Damn she's just like my mother. I really don't think there's anything you can do, that's pretty much how she is. Just warn her.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, her kindness may be genuine but it could also be calculated - for attention, praise and low self esteem - that she has to do these things to feel better about herself or so that others will notice her and like her.

The 'martyr" is not always the best. They get abused, taken advantage of and end up with the short end. She needs to be careful and smart.

[Asker]

That would be so messed up. I know for fact it's not calculated because she tries to hide it, because some people criticized her for being too nice. Also it's those small things she does and how she acts trougth the situations that show her trueself.

[natalia19]

Just accept who she's is and be grateful for having her. You hit the jackpot kind, pretty, funny, out going. I think you can look pass that and know that it is you that she loves

[jpinka]

this is a good answer but he is worried for her safety not annoyed by her kindness

[Anonymous]

at least she's not a bi.tch

[papercut2]

Give her my number

[Anonymous]

Dump her