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Gotta disagree with Drrk123.
I think his advice is good, but not for YOU.
You need to touch girls AS EARLY as possible. THAT is the reason YOU get the weird reaction and OTHER guys don't.
They touch: They're used to it.
You touch: It's like getting splashed with a bucket of ice water. It's far too...Out of nowhere ("But if I were to do something like that I'd get the weirdest reaction.").
When you meet a girl, start by shaking hands, touching her shoulder as you speak, touching her arm as you speak. Socially acceptable things anyone can get away with.
In due time, she will become warm to your touch, and you will increase the level of what is socially acceptable. Instead of touching her arm as I speak, whilst sitting next to her I'll touch her leg, like when I'm making a solid point in what I'm saying. Nothing too crazy, nothing that draws any attention. I may even touch her hair, and tell her it looks nice. I'll start switching from handshakes to hugs as we meet and depart. "Hey, where I'm from we don't do that handshake junk with friends. Get over here. :)" And give her a hug, and do that from then on.
All the stuff Drrk123 suggested was good, but wasn't applicable/productive for you. I hope you can see how this process happens gradually.
Good luck
Do it with confidence. Do not feel awkward or nervous. Treat them like you treat your buddies.
When you are about to go somewhere together and are walking, put your arm around them. Upper back means: let us be just friends. Lower back means: friends and maybe more sometime in the future. Further down means...well. You know. Avoid the last if she is just a friend, obviously.
When you are talking and you are enthusiastic about something, hold their hand for a while. Pat them on the arm when you complement them.
Tickling, carrying them around, catching them by the shoulder and moving them aside when they are on the way are a few of many, many ways to do this as well.
Of course it is much better to do this from the beginning. But you can always start doing it later and pass it off as if you just started feeling comfortable with them enough now.
Best of luck, buddy. :)
I have a friend who would just hug me out of the blue (when I had only known him for about a month or so), he would tap me on my shoulders or put his arm around me, and was moderately touchy (not in a perverted way whatsoever). I didn't really mind so I guess that was enough for him to know that I wasn't bothered by it. So yes, maybe you can establish that earlier on in a relationship but you'd have to try to touch a girl in one way or another to find out how she feels about it. Some women are just not into that at all. In my opinion, putting an arm around a girl is a good way to find out how she feels without it being too much. But then again, confidence is key. Not an easy task if you're not comfortable with it, in which case, you might want to break the touch barrier a little later on in a relationship.
Although, as a girl I don't think I can try to break that "touch barrier" without it being taken out of context (or maybe that's just me).
ANYWAYS.
Good luck!
Some people are just easier at being touchy-feely. Most of the guys who do this stuff often kinda platonically hang on their male friends too. Same goes with girls -- some are more physically affectionate than others with random people.
I don't think you can force it. If it's not you, then you likely won't be a guy laying on a girl's lap. But you can do it more subtly by touching her arms when you talk to her, touching her back when you go into a room together, etc.
I typically don't touch people, but I do whenever it feels natural to do so.
And often enough the girl initiates, in my instance this nice girl just walked up to me and was like "Stick your leg out", I do so and she sits on my leg. holding onto me for half an hour. Was hilarious.
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No! Guys touch way too soon! Only girls know when its okay to be touched. Girls have a way to clue guys in on if they like them or want to be touched. They will subconciously tap or give a slight touch to a guy they're attracted to. If you want to drive a girl crazy...kinda push her away when she starts getting physical. I'm talking about relationships...not regular friends who are girls. To answer your question, the girls need to break the touch barrier first...you just act like you don't notice that she's touching you etc.
they have confidence, they are friendly and very likely they have had build a lot of trust and rapture with these girls
"Nothing says to a woman 'a job well done' like a nice swift swat to the behind."
Lean in a whisper something if you are in a noisy place or just casually lean in and touch her hand or arm when you talk to her.
fix a piece of fallen hair, say "those are beautiful earrings" and touch them to get a better look.
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